Debbie Nolan
Debbie Nolan 25 Jun 2018

I'm doing the table plan and just wondering if all the bridesmaids have to...

I'm doing the table plan and just wondering if all the bridesmaids have to be on the top table? I have 3 bridesmaids (and 2 juniors) but have only 2 on the top table (my daughter and a friend who has no family there) is there a rule about who sits at the top table or doesn't it matter? TIA

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 26 Jun 2018

I’m not having any at mine. It’s just being our parents, our two daughters and us. I’m having a ‘wedding party table’ at the front in the center consisting of bridesmaids, best man and their partners, then also grooms brother and sister with their partners 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jun 2018

I only had my MOH on top table (my Little Sis), the other 2 sat on a different table. Equally, I was her bridesmaid and was sat on top table whilst the other bridesmaid sat on another. It is completely up to you, it's your top table

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jun 2018

It’s your wedding sit them wherever u want

My MOH and BM day with their partners and children on the table in front of top table.

Michelle Palmer
Michelle Palmer 26 Jun 2018

We have two “top tables”

One for us parents and grandparents

One for bridesmaids and best men with there partners

Sammy Eldridge
Sammy Eldridge 26 Jun 2018

I have never seen bridesmaids on a top table, except the MOH (chief bridesmaid) but lots of people don’t stick with tradition now. This would be a traditional top table seating plan

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jun 2018

Usually just moh. But you can choose who you want, to sit wherever you want, coz you’re the bride!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jun 2018

We're having all parents on their own table, as my partner has step parents on both sides. So as not to leave anyone out or have like 12 people on top table we thought of that. Top table will be us, best man, groom's brother, 2 bridesmaids and groom's 2 children (my soon to be step sons ) It's up to you really...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jun 2018

I had 2 bridesmaids on the top table the other one sat with her daughter and husband & same with groomsmen.. do what u want they will be happy to be there whatever x

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 26 Jun 2018

I’m only having my made of honour and best man along with my parents and partners parents on top table x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jun 2018

I don’t think it matters now. Especially with more mixed families. Both my parter and I are from split families so we’ve gone for

Bride, groom, our two LO, best man, MOH and just both our mums. It was too messy to have all the dads up there too

Gemma H'ins
Gemma H'ins 26 Jun 2018

I'm not, don't want a huge top table! Thinking about just having me, H2B, our mums, my dad, BM and MoH on ours :)

Jayne Harper
Jayne Harper 26 Jun 2018

We aren't having anyone but our parents and our children on top table. Bridesmaids, best man and my uncle (giving me away) are all on table 1

Lucy Glew
Lucy Glew 26 Jun 2018

I am sure there is no rule. It’s your wedding have it how you want we arnt having any of ours on the top table as we want them to spend the day with their partners and families as well x

Nikita Byrne
Nikita Byrne 26 Jun 2018

Ours would be very large so we have just set ours as being bride, groom and our youngest (2 year old) there is a "tradition" to who sits there but it's your wedding so what YOU BOTH want and pft to everybody else :-)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jun 2018

I don’t think it really matters..we have changed ours around a bit though not doing a strictly traditional wedding.i got told though that it’s the bride and groom the parents on both sides, the best man and the maid of honour that sit on top table

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 26 Jun 2018

It’s more traditional not to have them on the top table. We have our parents, best man and maid of honour. That’s the traditional table but it’s entirely up to you.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jun 2018

Doesn't matter at all we just had our parents on the top table with us - the bridesmaids et al all sat with their other halves and families.

Kathryn Leivers
Kathryn Leivers 26 Jun 2018

I dont think it matters. I had my MOH and Best Man at top table. Groomsman and Bridesmaids sat with everyone else

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jun 2018

Doesn't matter we're just have is and my parents. Would have his up there too but his dad recently passed and his mum has said she doesn't want to be up there without him. I'm a little upset that she won't be sat with us but whatever is easier for her atm. But I go off topic, I wouldn't say it matters.

Abbey Lawson
Abbey Lawson 27 Jun 2018

We are just having us two .. was too complicated haha

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2018

I only had my maid on honour on the top table and sat all others together on one table but I had 5.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2018

I was bridesmaid recently my mums wedding and I didn't sit at the top table, there were no issues :D the top table was the bride and groom best man and best man's wife, brides oldest brother and his wife and mother of the groom. And everyone else sat wherever the bride wanted :)

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 27 Jun 2018

My top table is going to be super unusual due to family, so just do what you want. Not everyone can do the traditional set up so its not uncommon to have whoever you want on the top table (if you choose to have a top table)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2018

There's no rules when it comes to YOUR wedding day! My top table plan is me and H2B, our daughter and our parents. Best man's other half doesn't know anyone at our wedding so decided they should sit together and my maid of honour is mother to 4 of my bridesmaids and page boy, so she's sitting with them! You do as you want and have who you want sat with you. Or even don't do a top table, plenty of people don't bother these days!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jun 2018

We just had me my husband and our 2 children xxx

Kimberley Hall
Kimberley Hall 28 Jun 2018

We've decided to have just us, our 2 children, best man and maid of honour.

As fiancé's parents split and remarried. And if we had all parents and partners included we'd have a top table of 16 people!

So I've done family tables of he's mum, husband etc. My family on 1 table and he's dad and grandparents on another table as no-one gets on 😂

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 29 Jun 2018

On our top table we had us , bride's mum , other Half's sister and husband , my brother as he gave me away as I lost my dad , & best man & wife ......
Had 5 bridesmaids , 1 i placed on the table with my siblings , & then I placed all the others onto another table as bridesmaids table .....
Your wedding , your choices ....

Kirstine Blackwell
Kirstine Blackwell 29 Jun 2018

I just have my and my Grooms parents and the best man. The bridemaids and maid of honor are with their partners and other close family members on the closest table to the top table.

Debbie Nolan
Debbie Nolan 16 Jul 2018

Thanks everyone you've been very helpful 😊

Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 20 Jul 2018

I would say no. have up there who you want aslong as its your choice theres a chance your always going to upset somebody x


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