Has anyone had issues with ungrateful, demanding guests? We've obviously put a huge amount of thought and money into the wedding which we have planed ourselves, and the amount of people causing problems has been unreal. The lates issue is my so called "maid of honour" my only sister. She has basically turned around and very ungratefuly said yeah I won't eat anything because I don't like any of it. Our menu is beautiful and either way, the food is free for her!! Am I speaking another language and not getting it, or should she grow up and actually try the food? She's in her 30s for Christ sake, I said to her what don't you like, this is free food. She said well I've tried it already and I don't like it, well no you can't have tried it as this menu was tailor made. If anyone else has had issues can you tell me how you dealt with it? When I spoke to my mum I said I'm not having her sitting there like a miserable cow not eating. She either tries the food (which is only a bit of chicken it's nothing crazy), or don't bother going. My mum tried saying it's because I'm stressed and my caterer is unreasonable for not allowing guests to chose whatever they like. As I explained to my mum, I'm only stressed due to the amount of crap guests have thrown at me, and my caterer doesn't stop guests picking what they want, but if they did it would cost me hundreds and hundreds more and I'm not paying it. Thoughts? Sorry for the rant I am fuming.
Personally, I think you've got bigger things to worry about than a spoiled adult! If she doesn't eat, let her sit while everyone else does. Her choice, she knows the deal with the menu and cost. Really, I would try not to stress over it.
Its your wedding. Do what makes you happy. If she doesnt eat the food she can starve. Tbh my point of view is if guests have an allergy then id change it for them only if not starve. X
I agree with Laura for allergies etc I would accommodate but not for the sake of being picky. She will just have to be hungry x
Sounds like she's jealous and picking holes, id ignore it or offer her a children's meal!!
Jesus. I am a fussy eater. But unless it's for an allergy or dietary requirement then I absolutely am not changing the menus
1st take a deep breath ..... Better??!! Next tell her its a fixed menu that you both chose to suit everyone's tastes and 3 if she doesn't like it then don't come . let her stew on it for a few days and if she chooses not to go on the day then its her own fault . regardless have a lovely wedding day and don't pander to anyone . its your and your h2bs day relax and enjoy it .. We've picked our menu to suit our tastes if nobody likes it tough luck !!! I'm gonna be stuffed and happy on the food we've chosen for us . xx
Flip her the bird and tell her to grow up and get over it 🤣👌🏼 If she wants to be a miserable cow and not eat - let her! Don’t let it ruin your day x
She sounds like a jealous spoilt brat. Sit her with other guests away from you out of sight out of mind
If they don't like it then they don't eat it. If they complain then they don't come. You've got to be ruthless. It's your day your way. When she gets married she can pick and chose her vision of the day. Tell her to stop being an immature brat.
Give her a plate of chips
I'm having a set menu that I've picked and altered myself and I'm going with the theory of if you don't like it don't eat it, you can't please everyone, just remember it's your day and should be all about you! Your sister needs to stop being an added pain in the ass for you and just eat what's given to her xx
Unless she's willing to pay for the catering then tell her to fuck herself!
If she doesn't want it tell her you will make her a peanut butter sandwich and save yourself the price of the meal. Very selfish and ungrateful.
Either tell her 2 eat it or go hungry. If that don't work tell her where the nearest take away is & she goes there & pays 4 it herself
She can bring her own packed lunch if she doesn't like the menu. You're not being unreasonable you're providing what you want not changing things for everyone else. There's two options: take it or leave it
Tell her to go hungry then it will save you some money. If she wants a choice tell her that the catering demands it for all guests then and she has to pay for every guest to have a choice and produce an invoice for her. She’ll soon change her mind 😂
We gave an option of one or the other for the 3 courses. You are right it does cost more. No you shouldn't have to pay anymore out than you already are!!
Just need to start not sharing so many of your plans. As bad as that sounds the less people know the less can moan!
Every wedding I have been to I had no say in the menu - For mine I did a set menu but did adapt a couple for allergies etc.
On the day you won’t care what she does, you will be to happy and enjoying time with your new husband xx
My sister(17 years old) is quite picky but she would never demand anything special made just for her because why should it be allowed for her and not everyone else? That way we could end up with 80 different meals ordered! She will simply eat what she likes and not make a fuss. I agree your sister needs to grow up! Like you said its a free meal! Eat what she likes and leave what she doesn't like!
I’m having a set menu. The veggies have a menu suitable for them and allergies have adapted.. one of our ushers kicked up a fuss about the seating plan because my excited hubby shared who was on his table with him, I got really upset and my hubby ended up telling our usher how upset I had got.
From this I learnt not to share anything with any guests!!
If it makes you feel any better my h2b is really fussy and he doesnt eat anything. I've chosen the menu as whatever I chose he wouldn't eat so I said oh well tough he can get takeaway later! Hope all works out for you and whatever happens with your sister make sure you enjoy yourself and please don't worry.
I can be a picky/fussy eater and if I don’t like something I won’t eat it, regardless whether it’s “free food” or not. She either eats it or doesn’t, her choice, not for you to stress about
I’m fuming for you!! No one would dare say anything to me. You can’t please everyone, her behaviour is totally uncalled for. Let her eat AIR. Enjoy your meal and take no notice of her reactions, or anyone else’s for that matter. It’s also custom for meals to be the same apart from veggie/vegan options. It’s your day!
Cancel her meal .. tell her to bring a packed lunch 👍🏻
Or her gift for being with you on the day can be a dairylea lunchable ! X
Give her the kids menu as it will be Plain and she can be mortified on the day when she has different to everyone else 🤣
Tell her to shut up and deal with it (your sister that is)
This YOUR day & YOUR money.
I really hope it gets sorted & you have a wonderful happy day x
This is the exact reason why we’re choosing on our own and only getting input on what to order for the children (3 different options to choose from) and even then we’ll go with majority vote. Unless it’s a dietary requirement or allergy I would tell her that she hasn’t got any choice so she either brings a packed lunch or acts like an adult and at least tries it
I've been to plenty of weddings where you eat what youre given, including a completely vegan wedding!
I'm a fussy eater who barely ate any of her sister's wedding breakfast. I pretty much went hungry until the evening buffet. You've picked a menu hoping the majority of your guests like it, and you shouldn't cater to fusspots. A wedding breakfast isn't like going to a pub, people can't order on the day because the venue needs to order the amount of food in advance so they have it on the day. If she's really that fussy, she can order and pay for her own bar meal on the day. The only reasonable allowances are food allergies/intolerances and possibly diabetics (who may need food sooner or may need to avoid certain foods). Your sister needs to grow up and your mum needs to butt out
Could ask if she would prefer the veggie choice of you are doing one ? As I may give my guests the option of having that as I know there are some guests who may prefer it depending on what the meat option is!
Id just them look this is how it is if you dont like it dont turn up. If you dont want the food go to macdonalds on your way to the wedding.
Ive very little patience for people when out wedding comes the first person to start whining will find themselves out on thier backsides. Ive got a big list of peoe who would want to attend but cant afford them all to come.if someone start kicking off theres plenty people that could take their place and enjoy it.
Im just ruthless though and at the end of the day its our wedding not theirs
We didn't make our menu known just asked for any dietary requirements. If we gave choices which could have been up to 3 meals then we would have paid an extra fiver a head and then people probably would have said they didn't order that. In the end we went with afternoon tea!
Don't let her bother you. It's your day and you chose what you like.. unless it's medical or because they are vege do not give into demands.. my sister is allergic to alot of things and is vege.. they've amended a meal to suit but I'm not providing a whole new meal. X
It’s so unreasonable for people to be fussy about something they aren’t paying for! I don’t like lamb, which is a really popular choice for weddings but I wouldn’t dream of demanding a whole new meal just for me, I just request the veggie option and eat whatever I’m served, or if that’s not an option I just eat all the trimmings and donate the lamb to the other half on the sly!
Eat it or starve x I'm far from a fussy eater but I went to a wedding with soup for starters not my thing really, chicken for main which was ok ish and choc orange pudding which I don't like.... did I complain no I just ate the bits I liked lefy the rest and waited til the evening buffet .... you can't cater for everyone x
It’s your wedding so it’s not up to her. We are having a set menu meat or veggie. All food is gluten free already and the only other thing we are catering for is allergies. There will always be someone that doesn’t like the meal but you eat or go hungry in my opinion. I would always try something and eat around things if I didn’t like them.
It’s not unreasonable to have a set menu at a wedding it’s not a restaurant after all. We have made some allowances for special diets in our menu (hot buffet at a November wedding) but won’t be catering for picky people because it simply costs too much.
I really wouldn’t bother stressing. If she doesn’t like it. She goes hungry. She probably will eat it on the day anyway!
Besides if she doesn’t she will look so silly - but it won’t take away from the wonder of your day unless you let it
To be fair our best man is super fussy and won’t eat anything on the starters or mains list. He would actually sit there and not eat. So our venue is doing an adult portion of a kids pizza. At first I was a bit shocked about it and embarrassed to tell the venue but then I got a bit of perspective and realised no one is going to care and the venue didn’t bat an eyelid about it. After all we have one ‘vegan no mushrooms’ to cater for 🤣
This is exactly why we’re going abroad with a few family members next year rather than the stress of making others happy on our day.
I went to a wedding once, where they said they’d have a veggie option! They didn’t! Ate veg off meat plate and pudding!! Your wedding. It’s a lot of money. Don’t sweat it. Have a wonderful day and ignore her xxx
Tell her to bring her own lunch then the miserable cow or she will go hungry won’t she
Tell her she can go hungry then ......
Dont stress over er or anyone else if their hungry theyll eat it if not let em starve dont bk down x
Suggest you state to those who want their own choice to pay for their meal upfront in full to you. As for your sister tell her to eat before the wedding .
Cancel her meal.one less to pay for.she can eat either earlier or later if she brings a sarnie.tell her your doin this.anyone else ignore them.its your day.u can’t please everyone.have a great day.xx
It's your wedding so have what you want and don't be bullied by others. If others don't want to eat the items you've chosen they'll simply go hungry! Guests have to realise that this is a mass catering event not a restaurant so they will be given what the bride and groom have chosen and as you say you have put a lot of thought into those options and I'm sure it will be delicious.
On the day I am sure you will barely notice anyone else as you will only have eyes for your new husband and you will be having an amazing time so don't worry about how anyone else will be acting as it won't even be a consideration.
Good luck and stay strong!
My daughter got married a few weeks ago and our caterers were brilliant . We went with their suggestions of giving quests a choice for main of either beef or chicken, stick to one starter and then we had a trio of desserts which means everyone gets something they like . We had asked guests on the invitation to say if they had dietary requirements which resulted in a couple of vegetarian, couple of gluten free and one dairy free. The caterers then came up with a veggie option, tailored the mains to suit the gluten free and the same with the desserts and the cost remained the same as if we had picked one main.Your sister is being totally unreasonable - just tell her to suck it up lol
It's your day and Charlies. Supply food and drink etc. If they don't like it they don't have to come. It ain't compulsory. Either that or tell 'em to fuck off. You know how to do that don't you Josie Harrison-Marks? x
Bring her some rusks. Tell her if she’s going to act like a baby she can eat like one.
What a ungrateful selfish human being!
Tell her to bring her own bloody lunch if she isn't happy about it. Or shut up and eat her meal!
No-one is knowing our meal choice as the less people who know the better. I ain't having no-one dictate to me what food we serve when it's us who's paying for it! Xx
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