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UKbride Member Request 23 Jun 2018

Has anyone ever told a bridesmaid to stand down to just be a guest? Yes ive...

Has anyone ever told a bridesmaid to stand down to just be a guest? Yes ive tried everything and I’m not expecting anything from here. I’d just like to not be treated the way I am at the minute by my “bridesmaid”. I don’t want to feel this way on MY wedding day.

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 23 Jun 2018

Hi yes I have had to tell two of mine 1 because I couldn't get a replacement dress on time and the other because she just couldn't be bothered :)

Harley Whelan
Harley Whelan 23 Jun 2018

I only have one bridesmaid now. I had to tell the other two to either come as guests and be civil or not show up at all. It hurt to do that but they fought with each other and then tried to get me involved in the arguing. I don't have time for that.

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UKbride Administrator 25 Jun 2018

I had pretty much zero enthusiasm from one of mine. Eventually we stopped talking (I think she was jealous) So now I've got 2

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 25 Jun 2018

I think we all expect the excitement to be like in the movies.. But sadly in reality its barely being bothered enough to turn up & try on clothes. Would of been cheaper & easier to go, get wed & have small family meal.. No bridesmaids no flower girl & no cars no reception party... But i wanted to feel special for the day this time, to have the isle to walk down.. only to find half of those invited wont be coming...

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UKbride Administrator 25 Jun 2018

I told my bridesmaid that I wanted to go to my original plan of just my children as my bridesmaids. Nothing she did wrong but it was getting to a point where other people wanted to be bridesmaids too because my friend was and then where does it end? (Expensive do) Fair to say she didn't take it too well, but I knew I'd be worrying about breaking the news to her one way or another for the next two years before the wedding so it was better done now. Xxx

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UKbride Administrator 25 Jun 2018

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UKbride Administrator 25 Jun 2018

Yes I had to and, although I felt I made the right choice at the time, I lost a friend through it. I would say to do it carefully and choose you're words carefully. Xxx

Nikitta Taylor
Nikitta Taylor 26 Jun 2018

I had one but got nothing from her. No excitement no nothing. So I just told her. In the polite words of ..... What is the point In you being bridesmaid? She turned around and said ... I don't know.
I knew then she just wanted the title.. xxx

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Darianna Hodson
Darianna Hodson 26 Jun 2018

For my wedding to my ex I had my sisters and SIL as bridesmaids. SIL just wandered around looking pretty, sister 2 spent all her time with her boyfriend and sister 1 (who was supposed to be MOH) went out clubbing the night before and turned up late for the wedding prep. I got little to no assistance on the wedding day.

This time round I am only having my fiance's daughter for a flowergirl and my sons to walk me down the aisle. Sister 2 was sad about not being MOH but I just don't want to have to ask sister 1 to have a role in my day so I felt it easier not asking either.

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