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Where do you even start on planning a wedding? How long did it take? How did...

Where do you even start on planning a wedding? How long did it take? How did you settle on setting a wedding date? Me and the other half can't agree, also want it to work around my son.

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Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 20 Jun 2018

My H2B proposed on a Friday night (taking me completely by surprise). We set our wedding date for exactly one year later which is a Saturday. Perfect for us.

Bronwyn Spencer
Bronwyn Spencer 22 Jun 2018

We originally said may, but have booked a Sunday in November. 17 months from now. We had to be careful because of my partners daughter and school.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Jun 2018

We looked at venues first then decided what time of year we wanted to get married, it depends on their availability too. We decided on Spring and are getting married exactly 2 years to the date he proposed! Xxx

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UKbride Administrator 22 Jun 2018

Congratulations! Ideally start with the budget, agree upon that with your other half first. Then have an idea of date, before you go venue shopping - no point going to a venue if they've not got the date you want for the next 5 years! Once you've got the venue, registrar is next unless you are having a Church wedding. Then photographer, then everything else can come in any order you want really. Leave plenty of time though especially if you're having a peak season wedding :)

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 22 Jun 2018

We wanted a weekend, Friday, Saturday or Sunday, wasn’t fussed. He proposes on the 1 September last year which is also our wedding day next day, it’s still in summer hols for the kids and it’s also a Sunday which is what we wanted.

Start looking at venues first that’s what we did. And join wedding groups on social media etc. Get a notebook and write down stuff you want at your wedding like theme etc, write down a list of things you need to do like bridesmaids dresses, suits, favours, cake. Even DJ and venue catering if it’s not included in the package, mine is so don’t have to worry. Then when you have a list of everything you need/want. Write down a list of guests you would like there and a list of guests if people say the can’t come you can invite etc, then everything will fall into place and things will keep coming to your mind.

Write everything down! Write everything down you still need and how much things cost and compare.

There’s no time limit on how long it depends on suppliers you want, if they’re available etc. You just need to set a date first and then start from there x

Michelle Sprules
Michelle Sprules 22 Jun 2018

Download Bridebook App. It's brilliant. Helps all the way with planning and ideas. Congratulations

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 22 Jun 2018

Go and veiw some venues then pick a date. Ours was just a random date! Xx

Senga Milroy
Senga Milroy 22 Jun 2018

We started by making a guest list and working out a budget ... Look about for an all inclusive package and visit places. Roughly have a date in mind when you go . congratulations and happy planning xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Jun 2018

Are you planning on a honeymoon? Think about where you want to go and what time of year you want to go. We are going to the Caribbean and have to fly on a Sunday morning for the holiday we want so wanted a Friday wedding out of hurricane season. We have friends that are teachers and also brothers with children so we decided it needed to be half term which left us with 1 date xx

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UKbride Administrator 22 Jun 2018

We decided in march that we wanted a summer wedding booked in to see registrar to see what dates they had free then took it from there. The planning has been straight forward no bumps along the way (hope I'm not tempting fate by saying that) everything has just fell into place my tips would be to look at no more than 5 venues. Shop around for good deals e.g we used Facebook to research cake options from some very talented home bakers but found a small bakers on our doorstep who worked out a hell of a lot cheaper as did our florist. Go to wedding fayres and collect the business cards from stalls and do the research at home reviews, prices etc. Most of all enjoy what you do for planning . I've heard people say that they end up spending less when they have a shorter window of time so far we have kept in budget, and picked up bargains on the way, counting down till My wedding on 11th august 2018

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UKbride Administrator 22 Jun 2018

Less then three months from setting the date to wedding.... it depends really what you want how quick you can pay for it. Three months was just enough for me to have everything I wanted x

Ashley Power
Ashley Power 22 Jun 2018

Congratulations! Have a look at the Bridebook app and set up a budget first and pick a date 🙂 xx

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UKbride Administrator 22 Jun 2018

Our date is exactly halfway between our birthdays. Just happens to fall on a Saturday We liked the first venue we viewed so much, we decided on it pretty much there and then. We'd not heard of it before, it was only because a former colleague of mine mentioned it to me. Good luck with the planning, I'm still doing ours but slowly getting things ticked off the many lists I've made lol

Amy Eager
Amy Eager 22 Jun 2018

We got engaged in December. Oh said about 30 minutes after he proposed that he was thinking 2020. So that was decided there and then. We wanted May/June or September due to cost/weather and we wanted a Thursday again due to cost.
We started looking at venues online then in march this year we went to view some. In April we booked our wedding at our dream venue. We didn't have a choice on date. We got the last available date in May/June/September 2020! And that was because another couple moved their date.

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UKbride Administrator 22 Jun 2018

Our wedding date is our anniversary. I went to a wedding show quite early on and decided more what I wanted and what he wanted then we went from there

Anya Williams
Anya Williams 22 Jun 2018

My h2b is head chef, one of his groomsmen is second chef. This ruled out a friday or saturday .

We get married on a thursday.

Im a TA in a nursery so can only have school holidays off.

I picked the first thursday after we break up for summer. X

Belinda Ann Welbourne
Belinda Anne Bingley 22 Jun 2018

We get married a year to the day of our first date , luckily venue we loved had date available as it's a Sunday x

Beckie Louise
Beckie Louise 22 Jun 2018

We got engaged Feb 28th 2016 and only set a date and booked the venue late February 2018. We had not long been out of uni so for us it was about settling into jobs first. As for the venue. We looked at many brochures and places people had recommended but in the end it all came down to how we felt about the place. You just know if it’s for you sort of thing.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Jun 2018

You say you need it to work around your son ....... what are the restrictions / needs there ?

Abi Owen
Abi Owen 22 Jun 2018

We met in March 9 years ago at the time, we booked a date in March to get married as near to our anniversary of meeting as possible!
We had 6 months to plan - we needed to do it within a certain time due to family circumstances, and I was so worried we wouldn't have enough time but turned out 6 months was more than enough time for us, we were done and sorted within 3 months!
Start with budget, venue & registrar I'd say and then go from there 😊 Congratulations & Happy planning X

Jessica Turner
Jessica Turner 22 Jun 2018

The date we decided on is the date we met each other. We got engaged last year on our 8th anniversary so we are getting married next year on our 10th anniversary which just so happens to fall on a Saturday. We both wanted a winter wedding and as we met in December it was a pretty easy choice for us. As for the kids we wanted to wait a while before we get married so the boys would be a bit older and can be able to enjoy it more also can have a fair bit of time to plan things slowly around them. We decided on a budget first then booked the church and venue...now can chill out for a while and pick things/make things slowly at our own pace. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Jun 2018

We got engaged at Christmas and it was such a whirlwind of a week I felt so lost. But in the end all it took was the two of us taking some time out at home on our own and talking about what sort of wedding we both wanted. We took decisions one day at a time and made a Pinterest account to get us started and wedding fairs really helped. We didn’t spend any money there just scouted out the venue and got some ideas.
Congratulations and all the best - once you get started it’s so much fun! Xx

Emma Bonnar
Emma Bonnar 23 Jun 2018

Venues get booked up so quickly these days. Me and the H2B went to the venue we wanted asked for what dates they had and booked the last July date just under a year ago. Had two weeks to book the church. Been pretty easy to plan and sort since then! Two weeks today and just got little bits to finish for venue decoration as doing it ourselves (if you have the budget get a venue dresser 😂 takes a lot of time to DIY) xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Jun 2018

Daughter got engaged on Christmas Day. My now son in law proposed in front of all the family. She'd always wanted a winter wedding, so chose a date in school holidays (a teacher ) nearest to the day they got engaged. 29th December. Perfect.

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UKbride Administrator 23 Jun 2018

got engaged in january 2016 and in january 2017 we decided we could get married that summer as we could afford it! we found the venue we wanted and then picked a date they had available in july! so planned it all in 6 months, which is pretty easy if you know what you want! best thing to do is find the venue, see what dates they have available and then that way you can get invitations out! x

Rebecca Sullivan
Rebecca Sullivan 23 Jun 2018

Got engaged in July last year... looked venues last summer after spending some time deciding budget ( paying for everything ourselves so need time to save) decided on winter 2019 picked a random date, end November, and provisional booked our favourite venue

Megan Joyce
Megan Joyce 23 Jun 2018

We wanted a specific date to fall on a weekend so we are waiting until 2022 but it gives us time to save x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Jun 2018

Find the venue you want first then see what dates they have available that suit you, giving yourself a long enough time frame to save for it and plan it. We didn't pick a date special to us. Found our venue Feb 2017 then checked which Saturdays they had available in all the school holidays for 2018. As have family coming from overseas with children we chose school hols for them. It just so happened the only Saturday in the summer hols was the Saturday of the bank holiday weekend so chose that! Gives everyone a couple days to recover afterwards

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Jun 2018

We got engaged Dec 2014. Didn't set a date straight away but looked to see when our anniversary of first date (8th June) next fell on a Saturday and it turned out to be 2019 so thought that was enough time. We booked our reception in 2015 n have just booked other things along the way. Having lots of time definitely takes pressure off saving and rushing to get things booked.

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UKbride Administrator 23 Jun 2018

We got engaged on 12th Feb 2015 and booked our venue a week later for 12th August 2016. It had to be holidays for us as my husbands family live a 6 hour drive away and had children. That date was available and I prefer even numbers lol. Venue gave us some suppliers details and we chose our photographer a few weeks later. Found my wedding dress in April 2015 and rolled with it from there. We knew what we wanted so wasn't that hard.

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UKbride Administrator 24 Jun 2018

We got engaged October 2014 then had a baby. We booked our wedding at end September 2016 and got married 10th January 2017. Was easy

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 25 Jun 2018

Mine is my 10 year anniversary, landed on a saturday so perfect. My friends, choose the month they got together but the day they got engaged, so maybe something like that...

Claire Trehearn
Claire Trehearn 1 Jul 2018

We’re at the early stages but we got together on the 12th jan, engaged on 12th June, so we want to be married on the 12th of a month

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