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Guest list dramas. We want family and friends but where do you draw the line...

Guest list dramas. We want family and friends but where do you draw the line with cousins having boyfriends or girlfriends which you have met once or twice and not really spoken with.

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 2 Jun 2018

Hi just invite those you really want to attend your wedding :)

Hollie Clifford
Holly Clifford 4 Jun 2018

I’m like that.. I’ve said no plus ones.. if I have space on the night then maybe but other than that it’s a no.. I can’t afford to pay for everyone and if you let one person it’s going to spiral out of control xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

We had no plus one's at all - if people were together and we wanted them both there, we invited them both but there was no way we were inviting cousin John's girlfriend we'd never met :) x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

I had a rule of if they wear together for more then a year (give or take). Then I would invite them. I just think I would hate it if my husband or when he was my boyfriend wasn’t invited to a wedding I was. Xx

Ashley Power
Ashley Power 4 Jun 2018

No ring no bring!!

Or they’ve been together a substantial amount of time...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

I didn't even invite my cousins, we never see each other anymore.... I'd go for invite those that play a part in your life, leave everyone else, it's just numbers at the end of the day x

Amy Eager
Amy Eager 4 Jun 2018

We've said plus ones can attend for the evening. I've been to evenings only when my OH has been to the day.

Jayne Harper
Jayne Harper 4 Jun 2018

We've gone with the unless they've been together a while and we have spare places. There's only 3 people bringing plus ones that they aren't married to and we haven't met. And that was only because there was room for it.
If they've been together over a year and are likely to stay together then I'd say invite them if you have room

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

I had to say no. Even to step siblings partners. Me and my partner have 18 siblings between us Inc step. If we invited their partners literally no one else could attend. Its a difficult one

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

We had this dilemma. Unfortunately politics comes in to it and we invited them in the end. We wanted to stick with the rule where if they were in a proper relationship I.e. living together then it’s not fair to leave them out. Xx

Heather Perry
Heather Perry 4 Jun 2018

Ive not invited anyone who we dont speak to,or isnt close family

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 4 Jun 2018

You could go with the rule if if there isn’t a ring then they are not in

Do what you want, it’s your day (as in you and your other half)

Natasha Folan
Natasha Folan 4 Jun 2018

we have said no plus 1s in the day as works out to another 25 people and to be honest i dont want a bunch of people at the wedding we dont even know x let alone the cost per head for a complete stranger

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

We had a rule of relationships that are over a year long should be invited.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

No cousins are invited to my day do, we've far too many between us! They are all invited to the evening do, with partners, but not their kids as that takes us well over budget!

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 4 Jun 2018

I'd say invite family for the full day and partners/anyone you don't know well in the evening. The day is so structured anyway that they'd only really miss them in the evening when the dancing/drinking really begins! :-)

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 4 Jun 2018

We’ve stuck to the rule for during the day of only having parents, siblings, close friends and close cousins. Then int he evening we’ll invite the rest of the people that we won’t there but couldn’t unfortunately find seats for (only having 50 in morning) x

Alanna May
Alanna May 4 Jun 2018

Be savage. Would you pay like 80 pounds to take that person to dinner? If not then dont invite them. Its also a personal event so you dont want to share it with people you barely know x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

I'm due to get married I have only 45 in the day 2hich is family very close friends and all partners. If I received an invite that was just for me I wouldn't go! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jun 2018

Everyone who had a gf/bf when we started organising our wedding has been invited- some of which I haven't met. Everyone who has met someone since then hasn't been invited... I simply don't have the capacity and draw the line at someone who they have only known for a few months. Harsh but I don't really care

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