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UKbride Member Request 28 May 2018

Hi everyone! We are getting married in July 2019 and I was just wondering...

Hi everyone! We are getting married in July 2019 and I was just wondering when we should ask guests to RSVP by? We are sending out invitations in the next few weeks as we are aware that with it being July people may book summer holidays and we would like to give plenty of notice. Trouble is... I'm not sure when to ask them to RSVP by! Can anyone help? Thank you!

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

I'm getting married 19th July 2019 and I am asking guests to RSVP by 19th March 2019 so it gives me 4 months to fill spaces if people can't make it. Also going to be sending invites out october time. Xxx

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 30 May 2018

I’m sending out save the dates this month for June 2019. For the same reason. I don’t need RSVP till April so won’t be sending actual invites out until Feb 2019 x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

I'm also getting married in July 2019. We have sent out save the dates so that people know we are getting married. I won't be sending invites until 4 months before and asking them to RSVP by by the end of April xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

Ask your venue when they need final numbers and then probably a couple of weeks before that x

Suzie Jenkins
Suzie Jenkins 30 May 2018

I’m sending out my invites for our June 2019 wedding in November with a rsvp of January I’m not sending save the dates to save money and my venue wants final day figures in March x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

We did save the dates to make people aware of our date as like you say it is summer holidays. Actually invites will not go out till January with an RSVP date of end of April x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

We did it 2 weeks before our venue needed their final headcount as it gave us time to chase people up if needed. So eg if our venue needed final numbers 4 weeks before the wedding date, we added another 2 weeks on top of that for rsvps. Congrats and good luck xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

I'm getting married 27th July 2019. I am currently sending out Save the Date cards, to give people plenty of notice and will be sending out formal invitations January 2019 ️

Holly Thompson
Holly Thompson 30 May 2018

We are getting married in May 2019 and we sent save the dates a year ago as its bank holiday weekend and formal invites are going out in January 2019 with an RSVP date of March x

Michelle Goldsworthy
Michelle Goldsworthy 30 May 2018

I get married in May next year, we did have the dates in feb this year and I intend to do invites at the start of jan with RSVP End of Feb

Sara Hughes
Sara Hughes 30 May 2018

We get married July this year and sent our invites out January this year and asked them to RSVP by end of April.

Clare Jane
Clare Jane 30 May 2018

Om getting married July 2019. Did save the dates and will send out invited January asking for replies March :)

Lisa Jane
Lisa Jane 30 May 2018

When would you send save the dates for July 2020 wedding? Some ppl book holidays up to 2 years in advance our wedding is the first weekend in the summer holidays. Xx

Donna Milner
Donna Milner 30 May 2018

I get married in 7 weeks and other than my family kids etc iv had 2 replys we invited 100 people and asked for people to let us no by april had more replys for nite x

Anya Williams
Anya Williams 30 May 2018

My date was 1st April or May i think. We get married 26th July this year.

The worst part is chasing people so I left more than enough time c

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

I got married last august so almost our one year wedding anniversary and we are still waiting for rsvp's,it dosent matter how about your cut off date or how many times you ask you will always have a bunch that wont get back to you,we wasted about £250 on food anf seating for guests that never even showed up and to this date have never told us why they never came,its just one of those problems every wedding will have.x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

I'll be asking for them to be in 4wks before the wedding. They'll have 8 weeks to get them in so no excuse

Danika O'Connor
Danika O'Connor 30 May 2018

We did an email invite with a button to click if they were coming or not and it had a 100% success rate, we didn’t have to chase anyone up and it auto completed and sent the final list to our venue. It was free and hassle free. Couldn’t recommend this method enough. We made a stop motion animation that we embedded in the email to make it fun and personal. Some people think it’s crass but I just think it’s efficient and I can’t stand having to post back RSVP’s. It’s 2018.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

We get married on 4th August. We sent out save the dates in April 2017. Then sent invites out first week of May this year with A RSVP date of 1st June (our final details meeting is 17th June, so that would allow time to chase). Had almost all the RSVPS back now.

Anita O'Sullivan
Anita O'Sullivan 30 May 2018

We get married in 8 weeks and asked RSVP for day invites by the end of Feb .. evening invites by the end of April x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

We set our rsvp by date 3 months before the wedding so we have time to chase those that don't reply on time. As we also have to submit their menu choices to the venue in plenty of time. Rsvp deadline was last Friday and yup, still waiting to hear from a fair few people.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

At least 8 weeks before x

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 30 May 2018

We sent ours out November last year for wedding in August this year.. ( so 9month notice) & people still booked holidays and can't attend.. Asked for RSVP's to be in by June.. Even put stamps on the adressed envelopes, but had handful back so far, Have got used to thought of a smaller wedding & reception, but still disappointed that people i thought were friends & some family members cant be bothered ...

Abbey Lawson
Abbey Lawson 30 May 2018

I wouldn't send invites now some people can't even book their holidays at work .. I'd send save the dates and then invites like 4/5 months before ..

Amy Eager
Amy Eager 30 May 2018

I think Day invites before evenings invites. Especially if like us you have a reserve list.
We are getting married on May 7th 2020. We will probably send our invites out early December and ask for RSVPS by the end of February probably.

Evening by the end of march I think

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

Personally think that to early. We get married September this year. We sent save the dates last year and the invites will be going out next week we want the rsvp back by 2nd July as we need to let venue know our numbers by August 2nd and this way gives me a month to chase as some people won’t reply x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

I think it's up to you what you feel comfortable doing we are sending save the date cards out just under a year and then our invites 6months before our date which is may 2019

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 30 May 2018

As Soon as possible !
They always take forever to reply ....

Francine Quartey
Francine Quartey 30 May 2018

Me and my fiancé are planning to get married July 2020. We have the whole of next year to plan. How exciting is that 😁😆👌 this is mine and his first wedding as well 🍾🎉👰🏽

Tanya Alexander
Tanya Alexander 30 May 2018

I’m getting married July 2019 Aswell. We told our guest when the wedding is. As a big wedding and some are flying in from Ireland. We told them our date back in March. But we sending our proper invitations out in September. And rsvp by 1st Feb so if guest can’t come we be able to fill with friends from our evening guest list.

Gemma Julianne
Gemma Julianne 30 May 2018

We're getting married abroad in Nov this year. We sent save the dates out in June last year but asked people to RSVP, so we had a rough idea of numbers before we send out the formal invitations. So 18 months notice. We're hoping to send out the formal invitations by mid July. We're also having an after party in Jan 2019 and have just sent out save the dates.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

Check with your venue when they want definite numbers and I’d give at least a month before that! I’ve got save the date cards but tbf you can just do without and send invites! It’s only coz I got a special deal with ALDI

Selina Gaines
Selina Gaines 31 May 2018

Not bothering with save the dates ppl we want and need know our wedding date so will keep free. We get married Sept 19 going to send invites out Feb n RSVP but maybe a text option by may so if ppl can't make it that have to invite we can upgrade evening guests. Don't think any wrong or right time x

Johanna Riley
Johanna Riley 6 Jun 2018

Hi, I’m getting married in July 2019 and I’m looking for good ideas for save the dates, I have not sent any out yet..hopefully will do soon ..

Donna Milner
Donna Milner 6 Jun 2018

I sent mine out end of january getting married in july x

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