Charlotte Sutton-Hill
Charlotte Sutton-Hill 27 May 2018

So I’m trying out ideas for my save the dates with my stamps and cards I...

So I’m trying out ideas for my save the dates with my stamps and cards I bought and I’m hand writing the names, but who’s name goes on first? Would it be Charlotte & H2B or H2B & Charlotte?

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Emma Nelson-Bailey
Emma Nelson-Bailey 29 May 2018

I believe it’s the Bride first. Think this comes from originally the brides parent sent the invites, etc, but to be honest I don’t think it matters much, just whatever you want. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

If they were sent to my friends and family I wrote my name first then my hubby's name first to his family and friends x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

Sending them to my family it would be me & h2b and vice versa for his family but it's personally down to you x

Abbey Flint
Abbey Flint 29 May 2018

I did my h2b first then my name. I decided on this as we will be Mr & Mrs x

Shelley Rayworth
Shelley Rayworth 29 May 2018

I did h2b an then mine, it sounded better x

Elizabeth Tooke
Elizabeth Tooke 29 May 2018

Go with what sounds best 🙂 xxx

Helen Ferguson
Helen Ferguson 29 May 2018

A lot depends on who is 'hosting' / paying for the wedding - if bride's family then it's bride 1st, if it's groom's family (like Harry & Meghan) it's groom 1st. If it's yourselves then it's whatever you like. But remember the invitations need to be the same

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

H2b then yours. Traditionally, the man's name always comes first- hence Mr & Mrs x

Sarah Pullen
Sarah Pullen 29 May 2018

Before marriage it is her then him, after marriage it is him then her x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

Yours go first on all wedding related stationery

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

ive just received a save the date and it was him then her xx

Celine Harland
Celine Harland 29 May 2018

I believe it is brides name first until after you are married when you switch to hubby's name first on greetings cards etc. Of course this may be an antiquated view so like everything this century it's literally whatever you want

Bryony Hamm
Bryony Hamm 29 May 2018

I put my husbands name first on invites and out favours because his name begins with A and mine B and it felt wrong having it the other way around. So it stuck. Do it your way, whatever you think sounds or looks best.

Beth Randall
Beth Randall 29 May 2018

Traditionally bride first

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

I always thought it was him then her..... husnband and wife. X

Kerry Jones
Kerry Jones 30 May 2018

I put my name first then H2B. I decided I was more important 😊

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 30 May 2018

all examples i've seen have the brides's name first, so that's what i will have.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

Up to you. Which would you prefer?

Michaela Sharp
Michaela Sharp 30 May 2018

Traditionally it's the brides name first. I'm sticking with bride first because whenever I write cards etc I always put my name first.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 May 2018

The brides name normally goes first until you are married as traditionally the brides family would pay foe and organise the wedding. My husband wanted his to go first so we did it that way round. I don't think it matters anymore.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Jun 2018

Brides name 1st on invites then at wedding when married husbands name on favours 1st and then after. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Jun 2018

The very traditional way was to put your parents full name and that they invite you to the marriage of their daughter (insert brides first name and middle name if she has one but not surname) to (insert grooms full name). That’s the very traditional way, I did this as I liked the traditional way but these days a lot of people just put “you are invited to the wedding of brides name and grooms name” I’ve seen some where it’s the grooms name first as it was alphabetical order. It’s entirely up to you and what you feel looks good xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Jun 2018

If i send greeting cards to my family then they are from me & him,if it’s to his family them it’s him & me.
Save the dates are not formal so it really doesn’t matter, invitation are different depending of rest of the wording ...
if your parents are hosting then it would be
Mrs & Mrs .......
invite you to the wedding of their daughter miss ......... to mr .............

If you are hosting why not put

We would love you to join us in celebrating our marriage

Then names which ever way round you like

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Jun 2018

I've always seen the brides name first as traditionally it was all the brides family that paid and organised

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Jun 2018

Brides name first

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Jun 2018

I put my husband's name first because it's alphabetical

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Jun 2018

Traditionally it’s brides name first... but that’s because brides parents would traditionally pay. We paid for it ourselves... so I put his name first on his family and mine first on my family. xxx

Francine Quartey
Francine Quartey 8 Jun 2018

Me and my fiancé have booked cedars for our wedding. Save the date for 1st July 2020 but they have given us 2 weeks to pay the deposit.
Would they mind if we pay in like a months time?or would they cancel it

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