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UKbride Member Request 26 May 2018

Hi all... my H2B and I already got legally married, we eloped just the two...

Hi all... my H2B and I already got legally married, we eloped just the two of us and we have kept it secret due to some family politics. The plan was always to get legally married now, because for various reasons we need to be legally married, but on the basis that we would still have a proper wedding where we get to celebrate with everyone and make some great memories. We've set a date for summer next year, picked a venue, caterers etc and started putting deposits down (£1200 so far) and sent out save the dates. Having added it all up we have estimated it's going to cost £14k. We are in the lucky enough position to be able to afford to do this (just) but I can't help but wonder if it is all worth it. I've always wanted to have a proper wedding day but when faced with the reality of just how much it costs my logical side is nagging at me that it's crazy to spend that kind of money on one day. Does anyone have any thoughts? Has anyone felt the same?

36 Comments
Hanna Smitham
Hanna Smitham 29 May 2018

14K? Geez! It’s over so quickly, it doesn’t matter what you spend as it’ll be just as memorable. My budget is 1K

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

I got married on Friday for under £3000!! And it was an amazing day!!! Xx

Danika O'Connor
Danika O'Connor 29 May 2018

I spent in the same ball park and though it was amazing I’d rather have paid it off my mortgage

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

I got married 4 years ago and it cost under £3000 and was an amazing day

Laura Osborne
Laura Osborne 29 May 2018

im budgeting £12,000 thats for wedding in dominican republic

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

You can get married on a lot less, however if you can afford it, and not worry after, then why not! I so wish I could do my wedding day again, it's something you and your husband will treasure forever x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

I got married 3 weeks ago but can say it was worth every penny. And would do it again in a heart beat . We have amazing memories from the day and loved all out families being with us to share it . It does go so fast but sometimes it not all about money memories are priceless in my opinion

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

my husband and i spent more than that on our wedding day and do not regret it all. We had the most perfect day and we would do it all over again. Spend what you want it's your day, my only advice would be don't get into debt over it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

If you have already done the legal bit then i think that is a bit excessive when you could just have a party much cheaper. But at the end of the day its what you guys want and if you can afford it then why not? We spent around £11k on our wedding at the end of March and while we had an amazing day, looking back at how quickly it flew by i wish we had done it cheaper because that amount of money could have been a deposit on a house!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

Ours was cheaper than 14k but only had close f&f at Gretna green

Siobhan Knight-Potgieter
Siobhan Knight-Potgieter 29 May 2018

Honestly, it’s what you want to do. We knew we were only going to be doing this once so we had the day we wanted.

It can cost a fortune or a small amount it totally depends on what you want to do.

Your day will be as special as you make it.

I don’t think anyone has the right to comment on how much someone spends/spent because it’s not their day not their money and they don’t know other people’s circumstances x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

Thats crazy. Ours is costing £3000! I could never justify spending that amount of money on one day. Even three grand for us is massively pushing it. But I suppose if you want it it's your prerogative. I wouldn't be able to not consider all of the things that money could be spent on instead!!!

Rebecca Bailey
Rebecca Bailey 29 May 2018

My whole wedding is costing around £5k including the marriage ceremony! May be look at a cheaper venue?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

We got married almost 5 years ago for about £5k. We didn't skimp on things just shopped around for good deals. A wedding doesn't need to cost the earth.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

I say go for it! You say you have the money and have always wanted the big wedding day! Legally married or not, go and have the celebration of your love!! Do you want to look back after and regret it? If you can’t afford it then that is a different scenario but if you can and it’s how you would like to spend your money then do it! You’ll have a fabulous time, amazing memories and photos that’ll last a lifetime! I hope you enjoy it no matter what you ultimately decide! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

I did both and didn’t regret it at all, was nice to have both and although we spent a small fortune on the day looking back it’s an awful lot of money we could have used for other things, I can’t imagine not having my ( I mean our ) big day xxx

Amy Eager
Amy Eager 29 May 2018

I don't think asking opinions on price is helpful. Only because everyone has VERY different ideas about how much you should spend on a wedding.
If you are getting the day you want, you aren't getting into debt and you're happy to spend the money. Then do it 🙂.
People have their own amazing weddings for £3000, but that's what they want. We could not get what we want for any less than we currently have it. Not a chance.
Everyone's personal preference is their choice and everyone's budget is also their choice. 🙂

The way we're looking at it, whatever we save in 2 years for the wedding, can easily be done again in the future for a house where there isn't a time scale. We're only getting married once and we want a big wedding. So we'll go for it. Other people want a house so they'll have a cheaper wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

If u can afford it then do it ours cost just under £30,000 and I wud do it all again in a heartbeat ....best day of my life and amazing memories for us and our family and friends x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

We set ourselves a 6k budget, in the hope we could also possibly get our holiday in this budget also (doing a family holiday with our 1 year old rather than a fancy honeymoon). We are getting married in August and have tried to cut costs with favours and place cards, so that we can have the photo booth we want, and sweet/truffle table. It all boils down to how much you are willing to spend on certain things. I couldn't be bothered making my own invites which I've been told I could have done for around 30/40 quid, so I spent 88 quid on invites instead as it was the quick and easier option for me. It's all down to personal preference!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

I wish we could have done ours for 3k!! That’s the cost of our venue alone X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

It is what you are happy to spend. If you are having doubts then make some cut backs.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

We got married on under two grand, I wouldn't change a thing even if I did have more money... my memories will be just as special x

Louise Comber
Louise Comber 29 May 2018

I feel exactly the same, it's a crazy amount of money to spend on one day and I begrudge spending it if I'm honest. The food is going to be by far the most expensive part and it's not even essential to the actual wedding part! This is my second time around and that feelings only strong this time... might elope to Disney in the end 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

Its what a wedding costs if you don't want a reg office wedding (nothing wrong with them). We just had ours (currently on Honeymoon in US) and it cost us about £14k too.
Money should be No Object when it comes to wanting to make your day as special as you want it to be.

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 29 May 2018

Go with what your gut says

What will you spend the money on otherwise?

We get married in 3 weeks, I’m a little overwhelmed by how much we are spending but then this week it now all seems fine

We got the shocking news that one of our friends whom is close to my husband to be, was killed in a fire - our friend who we only saw a few days prior was so excited about sharing our day

For us now is makes all the more sense, spend the money, have a brilliant day, make the memories

Do what’s right for you xx

Michaela Sharp
Michaela Sharp 29 May 2018

If you're having doubts you can do it cheaper

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

Define “proper wedding day”... what does that mean to you? Does it mean the big white wedding? Or does it mean quality over quantity? We’re getting married at 4pm and going straight into the evening do- we’re have just family at a ceremony at our local registry office, and then hired a function hall for our party. 120 people maximum. We get to say our vows, and celebrate our commitment with everyone we love. That’s my version of the big white wedding!
Everyone is different hun! long story short, if it’s what you want, then why not? enjoy every minute. But you could also ask yourselves whether some of the cost is absolutely necessary? Whether you could make it yourself for cheaper etc. Best of luck xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

We're managing to do everything we want for roughly 2k. The important thing is having those you love around you to support you. We're getting married at 3pm and just having a buffet and an iPod playlist instead of full meal and entertainment. We still get the white wedding of our dreams but on a small intimate scale

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

Since it's not technically your "wedding" as you've already got married, talk to the companies again saying that it's a "family party" rather than wedding, you might some of the prices will come down, "wedding tax" is very much a real thing

Vittoria Di Franco
Vittoria Di Franco 29 May 2018

Quite frankly my wedding dress is worth more than the car I drive .... crazy but then it’s only money you only live once you either gonna commit to throwing caution to the wind and blowing some serious cash on things you would never ever do normally or you put on sensible practical hat and place it in a far more practical place I know I know I’ve given up on even thinking about it now .

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

Mines half that and we’re not missing out on anything. Don’t think it’s worth spending £14k personally. It is only 1 day at the end of the day. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 May 2018

Yup which is why I’m doing it on a budget!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 May 2018

I say if you've always dreamt of having a certain type of wedding then do it. Yes you could save money by doing it cheaper but would you then regret not having the wedding day you've always dreamt about?
If we were to do our wedding again, I'd do it all exactly the same and spend every single penny again as it was perfect and everything I've always wanted my wedding to be.

Loralie Davies
Loralie Davies 30 May 2018

If you ask people who spent £2k or £15k they will all say they loved their day and it was perfect (mostly) which goes to show really that it honestly doesn't matter,if you are a crafty,savvy person who has the time to put the hours in you can have a great wedding for very little! But if you want everything taken care of and can comfortably afford a big wedding....but as someone who has been engaged for 4 years and work in the wedding industry (Caterer) honestly the biggest regret/'what would I change' is people telling me they wish they hadn't spent all that money,I have never heard 'wish we spent more'

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 30 May 2018

Your budget is personal to you, if you can afford it, and want to. Sure, go for it! I am, and not for one second regretting it. It's how we wish to spend our hard earned savings

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 30 May 2018

^ Oh & I feel i should add, i already have my beautiful home (& life long mortgage - haha) so that's the wedding is the next big saving for us. So, it also depends on your circumstances as well xx

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