UKbride Member Request 23 May 2018

Only a month to go now, amd feeling really down, no support and no one seems...

Only a month to go now, amd feeling really down, no support and no one seems to actually give a damn...or wedding word seems to have been "cheap" i don't really feel like the special bride, ok m lookong forward to marrying my soul mate but i just really wanted it to feel like a special day rather than budget everything, i don't even like my dress buy jusy cojkdnt afford the £150 for the one I loved :( anyone else feeling like this? I feel like this

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 23 May 2018

Hi I don't feel exactly the same as you but too much left to be done and only 12 weeks to go :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 May 2018

It really isn't about how much things cost. Focus on why you're getting married and the marriage ahead rather than the day itself, it's a day to celebrate your love and marry the person you want to spend your life with, how much you spend doesnt matter :) i understand what you're feeling but it's still your special day whether it costs £100 or £10000

hannah foster
hannah foster 24 May 2018

I completely understand where you are coming from, have you had your hen do yet? That could drum up some excitement. Or get your friends round for a drink and wedding chat? Bargains don't have to mean cheap, you'll probably be surprised how nice everything looks on the day and you get to feel proud you did it all on a budget and didn't get it loads of debt for the happiest day of your life. I'm still paying off my last wedding and it wasn't all that, I'm so much more excited about this wedding, 1 because I'm marrying my best friend and 2 because I can see what matters the most and refuse to go into debt for it again, so I'm bargain hunting and not going to worry about how cheap because I know it won't matter on the day. I really hope you enjoy your day and I bet you'll look stunning in your (bargain) dress. Remember *bargain* not cheap 😁👐 xxx

Rebecca Cherrett
Rebecca Cherrett 24 May 2018

I felt exactly the same. I had a budget wedding and was dreading it looking cheap compared to others but on the day everything went perfect and everyone had a blast. It couldn't have gone any better. I had a registry office wedding and then went to our local rugby club. I decorated the club the night before and it looked completely different. You can do wonders on a budget so don't let it get you down. I'm sure it'll be amazing xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 May 2018

Oh dear bless you. I'm feeling similar I'm getting married september 1st this year. Everything has been very cheap as we're on a tight budget. I'm hoping once I've made a few hand made bits that I'll feel happier. It's difficult not to compare with others weddings. And feel inadequate

Sonja Gibson
Sonja Gibson 24 May 2018

I have done all my stuff on the cheap to be honest 90% of my accessories are from wish. My dress was a sale dress. And ive made my own invites ect. Its not about thw cost sweety. Just make sure you have a blast. I get married in 3 weeks n i felt like this a couple of weeks ago but look at the bright side your marrying your soul mate. Your gettin to see family or meet new family(his side) itll be a a day to remember xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 May 2018

Ours was a budget wedding my dress was not.'THE' dress as I couldn't afford the one I fell in love with. But when the day came it was amazing! Yes I still think about THE dress 4 years after we married,but it didn't stop me enjoying my day and marrying the man I loved :) chin up lovely xx

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 24 May 2018

I completely get what you mean, Non of the bridal party have asked how plans are going or if we needed help with anything. Have been unfriended by my friend of 14yrs, who was moh... (after i bought her outfit, & tiara. ) 1 brides maid live miles away, and the other is busy with her family.. we are on an extremely tight budget, still got loads to pay out & grooms men & groom havent even picked what they are wearing yet.. Thankfully i have found a vintage gown, i love on ebay, was £47 with post.. i have had 2 alter it alittle to fit .. Won't be having a hen do as no1 to ask, And out of 90 invites sent out only 50 guests have rsvp'd and atleast 8 are not attending cause they have booked holidays since recieving invites.. 🤨 Alot of family are disinterested, or don't speak, so have come to terms with fact that, that is how it is. And its going to be an intermate wedding And only thing that matters is we will be husband & wife in 11 weeks.. 😊

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 May 2018

10 weeks to go for me and no excitement yet me and my h2b are doing everything and it's stressful money's an issue and it drags you down we just have to keep positive and know that it will all be worth it when we say I do x

Michelle Sprules
Michelle Sprules 24 May 2018

I am getting married in 11 weeks on a budget. I am decorating venue myself and being on a budget doesn't mean cheap. My dress cost 35.00 but it's what I wanted. Remember why u r getting married, not the cost xxx

Michelle Williams
Michelle Williams 24 May 2018

For anyone feeling like this, your focus is on the wrong place. If you’re more concerned about impressing everyone else or if you even care what everyone else thinks then your priority is wrong. It is about you and your partner making a commitment to be together for life. It doesn’t matter how much you spend, where you get married, who’s there or what they think. So long as you are Mr & Mrs and happy to be so at the end of your wedding day then it has been a success.Hope you feel better about things soon xxx

Mand East
Mand East 24 May 2018

I don’t care if mine on a budget it how I want it and as long as we are married who cares

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 May 2018

This makes me so sad reading this post.
You are the bride to be. And you should be feeling special. I understand some people wont be involved due to other commitments, their own lives and as much as you are excited most people just arent until the night before. BUT do not let this get you down please. You are marrying the man or woman you . Who cares how much anything cost. There are dresses for thousands and people will critise. Look at meghan markle and her very expensive dress. Shes just married a prince and people will have opinions.
This is your day about you and you other half. To make it special why dont you spend some quality time together planning the wedding or having a night off planning and just being you. That is all that matters and they will make you feel special and amazing on the day and i am sure you will look it in the dress that is right for you.
You may only do this once in your lifetime so try to enjoy it as in years to come you wont care if you got bargains noone remembers the intricacies they will remember how good the day was. And you will feel better for not wasting money on small things that people dont care about.
Embrace it and be a sparkling bride congratulations x

Michaela Sharp
Michaela Sharp 24 May 2018

I'm on a tight budget so trying to do as much as i can myself. Nobody has offered to help me out in any way so i'm doing everything myself. Just remember it's not about how much things cost i'm sure you will have an amazing day. If you don't like your dress could you maybe buy a used belt or other accessorises to jazz it up a bit. You could maybe ask family members if they have any nice jewellery you could borrow for the day.

Syra Houlston
Syra Houlston 25 May 2018

We are on a really tight budget too and our wedding is on 20th July this year, we decided to have our ceremony at a registry office and we are only having 2 witnesses there basically its a cheaper option but the whole point in this day is because i want to marry my soul mate .. we decided to then save up so we could have a special party next year and not have to worry about the price tag .. don't forget your goal is to marry the one you love who cares how much money you spend? At the end of it youll have what you want... chin up and have a beautiful day. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 May 2018

I've had no help except from my 13 year old daughter telling me she loves her dress and my second bridesmaid offering to do my hair on the day. We are on such a tight budget that ive said we should just cancel loads of times when an unexpected bill like a car repair has popped up - we can afford a wedding or a car repair, not both! But he wont let me cancel the do so we march forward, its very hard and very stressful and everything is being done as cheap as possible, but AS NICE as possible, cheap doesn't have to mean nasty. My dress was £30 second hand on ebay and I adore it, its a real wedding dress with all the bells and whistles, I just happened to be lucky to get it that cheap. clothing alterations for my dresses are being done by a guy with an indoor market stall but he's brilliant and mega cheap. Our prosecco is £4.99 a bottle from Aldi and tastes lovely, has won awards and the guests are getting 2 free glasses of it, if they dare complain they'd look really ungrateful lol plus they know where the bar and their wallets are if they want something else. My point being - almost all of us have a tight budget, some are just larger than others, if you have to keep costs down, it just takes a bit more imagination and determination to find things you can afford. it wont mean your day is cheap and crap. it will mean your day is lovely and you don't start your married life in debt. the marriage is what counts, not the wedding, which is over in a flash anyway xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 May 2018

Hello ladies, all those concerned about time and getting things done in time etc..
I booked my wedding on 21st April 2018 and get married in 13 days.

I had 7 weeks to plan my whole wedding on a budget.

Believe me it can be done. Myself and partner have done it ourselves, with just mil stepmum and sisters coming to get my dress with me.

Focus on the things that are important to you. Don't worry what others think or feel it's your day!

Also have a look on look selling pages etc as you'll find lots of wedding materials etc
( now I've planned my wedding I see things popping up all the time)

Good luck xxx

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 29 May 2018

Focus on marrying your soul mate. The day will only be amazing if you feel amazing, it doesn't matter how much anything costs, so treat yourself to a day to relax from wedding planning - focus on you. As long as you marry your soul mate, happiness is the most beautiful thing to see anyway & on your future wedding anniversary, in 20/30/40 years (however many) you can always renew your vows if you wished.

Dina Gregory
Dina Gregory 6 Jun 2018

we are on a budget and i even lowered it so can have a dream honeymoon/family holiday (it will be 1st holiday aborad for us all and 1st one as a family) i quite enjoy bargain hunting like my dress i love is just under £800 in bridal shop exact one on amazon £66 budgeting and bargain shopping is much better then spending over the odd for things plus the day is what you make it to be wheater you spend £1000 or 30000 you will be happy making the day yours marrying the love of your life x


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