everyone keeps asking me and my partner what we would like for our wedding gift we find this very awkward as some people have more money than others so we are going to do a wishing well but still find this slightly awkward to ask people for money instead of gifts that we don't really need we been together quite a long time do you have any suggestions to make it slightly less awkward for us
I’ve seen a lot of people put a little poem in with their invites asking for money. Personally I prefer this cos it’s easier and I don’t have the faff of trying find a present and can then give as much or as little as the budget allows. I don’t think it’s awkward at all xx
We put a poem in our invitations and said we have everything between us ut if guests wanted too they could give vouchers or money. We font expect any gifts as its a small close knit wedding and we've been together a while. Some guests will want to bring something so if you pre warn saves you getting loads of glasses or frames.
We’ve put a poem on our invites a bit like the following:
Our wish is that you share our special day to celebrate,
However if your wish is to give a gift,
We really would appreciate,
A donation towards our honeymoon,
For memories that our hearts desires can create!
I don't think it's awkward. Honestly I think money is easier, it's less worrying about whether they already have it, if they'll like it etc. And it's common these days that people want money to go towards their honeymoon.
We will be doing the same thing, it does feel awkward asking, But I would rather someone asked me to give money if that's what they want.
this is thr poem my auntie used and the one im going to use x
We have just told our guest that we dont need anything but if they wish to give us gifts/money they are welcome to
As above, we had a poem in our invitations.
It’s not as taboo as anyone thinks anymore, majority of couples live together before marriage so the traditional gifts aren’t as normal.
We had a little poem, people asked and we were honest, we made sure to send out thank you notes etc.
I think it’s more awkward for a guest when they haven’t had any kind of direction and they end up buying what they think is best. Once asked a friend what she and her husband to be would like and she didn’t really answer so did 2 vouchers for stores i thought she would use, a little married in plaque and a nice candle so she could keep something, use something and choose something. The thank you note from her was incredibly rude.
(We are no longer friends especially after she made nasty comments on my dress choices in the church during our wedding ceremony)
We've put a message onto the invites saying:
Your presence at our wedding is all that we wish for, however, if you did wish to give a gift, a donation towards our honeymoon would be greatly appreciated.
Simon Hamilton xx
Just say that they don't need to get you anything but that you are saving up for a honeymoon or whatever. Keep it casual. People will give what they can afford and no one really gives household gifts anymore. Giving money is pretty much standard. X
We literally just put a line on our invitations stating their presence was most important but if they wanted to give us a gift then we would appreciate money towards our honeymoon. I wasn’t a fan of poems so just left it as a line on the bottom of our invites. I think people would rather know what you want than having to ask x
I put a little business card in with my invites with a poem on -
our life together has already begun, and we have almost everything under the sun. So we both thought we'd make a suggestion, to save you from all the searching and guessing. Instead of spending lots and lots, just put some money with your card, and place it in our money box. Large amounts are not anticipated, any amount would be appreciated. Now that we've saved you all the fuss, we can't wait for you to come celebrate with us.
Found it online and think it's quite nice.
I didn’t put anything on my invites. If people want to give us a gift/money then they can. Only 1 person so far has asked what we want and I said we don’t need anything. So she said she would pop some money in the card.
We are putting a note on our wedding invites. People would rather know what you want rather than wasting money on things you don't need.
I’m in exactly the same boat!
Although I am aware its the done thing now so I’m pretty sure no one would find it offensive or awkward. We’ve had a few of our guests asking what we’d like and I feel a little on edge when I say I just want your company
After a lot of talk with my other half we have decided on a poem.....
Now we are to be Mr & Mrs, we don’t need a wedding list for dishes. We have glasses, crockery & toasters, a kettle, place mats & marching coasters.
So if your thoughts are on a gift a cheque or voucher would give us a lift. Don’t go overboard or rob any banks, anything would make us smile with thanks.
But most importantly we request you share our special day as our guest. Now that weve saved you any fuss we can’t wait for you to celebrate with us.
Hope this helps xx
We included a poem basically saying our guests being at our wedding was all we wanted but if they really wanted to give us something then a donation to our honeymoon fund would be great
We included a little poem in our invites. I literally just googled wedding present money poems and chose one I liked the best!
We wrote a poem in our invites mentioning the wishing well.
We wrote on the invite that we didn’t expect gifts, and that “their presence is presents enough” - but if our guests did want to contribute to our future home that would be lovely 🤗
I don’t think it’s a taboo as it used to be, lots of couples don’t need kettles etc - money is more practical xx
When I have been asked, I have said vouchers or cash so we can replace bits and pieces. People have not been offended, quite the opposite x
*currently on honeymoon*
What you should say is Something towards the honeymoon fund.
Whilst not clearly saying Money... Pretty much covers itself.
We had a poem on the back of our invitations and set up a go fund me page
We’ve asked for a donation towards our honeymoon
I just put in lieu of gift we would like a contribution towards our family caravan but there’s no obligation to do this.
Me and my h2b have asked for donations to 2 charities in memory of our dads as they are no longer with us. But friends of ours wanted money instead of gifts and set up an account with a holiday company who they had booked with and that way people could add as much as they wanted
We put a note on the back of the invite saying that we didn't have a gift list, but if people wished to buy us a gift then we would appreciate gift cards from 2 specific stores. We wanted to be able to spend the money on something that we could keep forever, rather than the honeymoon. :-)
Ask people to make a charity donation in honour of your day.
Have a look on line for the little poems to include in your invites. We put we’ve lived together for a little while now and don’t really need any gifts but should you wish to give a gift we would appreciate a few pennies for our next adventure/chapter
Thank you so much for all your kind words and ideas they have been very helpful ,I wish everyone congratulations and love on there big day xx
I've told people their presence is present enough! We aren't getting married to receive anything from anyone. If they still choose to give you something then that's lovely. But we 100% don't expect anything from anyone.
Personally think the cards, notes whatever asking for money or honeymoon donations are just as rude as a gift list x
If you dont want gifts maybe you could ask them to donate to your favourite charity instead that way ot can be what ever they can afford and you have helped a charity
I wrote a poem in my invites asking for money to jet off basically xxx
We put this in with invites
This is ours... it really is hard but we liked this
Just tell everyone the only gift you need is them being there on your special day! It’s not about money. Xxx
We asked for holiday vouchers or donations to charity, ended up being able to pay a big chunk off of honeymoon xx
I have said ment a time that we don't expect gifts and a few times I was told tough luck with a smile
We are putting a poem in our invite asking for money to go towards our honeymoon
we are going to put a poem in as we are having our 1st family holiday when we have our honeymoon so just basically saying that it will help us make happy memories to last a lifetime and that we have everything we need (obviously will phrase it better ) x
We are doing a wishing well and saying we don't expect anything but if you do decide you want to give us something we would greatly appreciate anything given as it goes towards our honeymoon 😊