UKbride Member Request 17 May 2018

Me and the HTB first agreed to have our nieces and nephews as our flower...

Me and the HTB first agreed to have our nieces and nephews as our flower girls and page boys.. now things are getting rolling, we’ve decided we no longer want this as there will be 7flower girls and 3page boys. We know that our mothers and sisters will be upset by this, but we feel it’ll look silly seeing as we only have 3 bridesmaid and 3 groomsmen. Do we keep them happy or do what we want?

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 17 May 2018

Hi tricky situations but it is your day :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 May 2018

Could you include them another way? Ring bearer, the little ones handing out confetti or order of services. They could do little jobs without being formally known as flower girls or page boys x

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 17 May 2018

I have 4 nieces and and 3 nephews, one girl of my own and due to have a little boy in September, out of all those only 3 are involved! I wouldn’t worry to much about it, you can’t have everyone have a part in it!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 May 2018

You could always have them go up the aisle with flower petals first. Then they can either be seated to the side or go back to sit with their respective parents. That way, they’re still involved. Also, whilst it’s a lovely idea to have them as page boys/flower girls, you might end up having to fork out for all the outfits as well. Which could get very costly!

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 17 May 2018

Have you actually officially asked them to be apart of your day? If you have it's not nice to have it taken away but if you haven't asked them properly and they just assume then don't worry about it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 May 2018

It's yours and your h2b special day, so you have to do what feels right for you both. Try not to worry about other people and enjoy.

Claire Newstead
Claire Newstead 17 May 2018

I'm not having kids involved at all. I can't be bothered with the arguements about "if you have theirs, why not mine!" Etc. I'm having 2 special friends in my Bride squad and then there's 2 of my fella mates in the Groom's team that's it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 May 2018

It’s your day. Have what you want. They’ll still be there to enjoy the day with you it’s not like you’re excluding them altogether.

And trust me, if you always try to keep everyone happy, you’ll end up with a wedding you didn’t want in the first place. Remember what is important.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 May 2018

My daughter had one throwing petals down the aisle, one doing a reading. Give them other things to do to involve them. It's your day xx

Helen Ferguson
Helen Ferguson 18 May 2018

I agree with the above. In fact groomsmen are overrated - just a best man is all that's needed. Save arguments with anyone else. It's your day have what you want. Not everyone has a role in the bridal party, usually bride, groom, bridesmaid & best man = 4!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 May 2018

Do what you both want. It’s your day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 May 2018

It’s your wedding but bear in mind if you’ve asked kiddies and they know they’re going to be a page boy or bridesmaid they may be upset! Kids don’t understand things like this!

Jodie Howard
Jodie Howard 18 May 2018

Do what you want, so often people are told how they should have their wedding and it's ridiculous. When you are paying for your own wedding it's definitely 100% your choice.

Tanya Alexander
Tanya Alexander 22 May 2018

We had this problem my h2b has a big family . If we had our nieces and nephews Aswell it be 7 ushers 6 bridesmaids 4 flower girls 4 Paige boys. But I said to my partner what would he rather . The little ones or your sister / brothers ? And then he said he rather is brothers and sisters in the wedding . And all we are having is our children as flower girl and Paige boy.
Ask your partner what would you both prefer. And then explain to the brothers sisters it’s too much going on.

Ceilidh Baird
Ceilidh Baird 22 May 2018

Do it the way that you want it to be, its your wedding day that you will look back on in the years to come, so make it exactly the way that you and you h2b want it! :)

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 23 May 2018

Me and my h2b decided against flower girls/ young bridesmaids as have 4 nieces on my side that will be under the age of 5 and felt it would look silly having them then the three Bridesmaids we wanted (siblings) as only having a small ceremony. So instead told people wasn’t having flower girls as wouldn’t be fair to choose between them. Instead I’m having 2 of my sisters and one of my h2bs sisters as bridesmaids. And will look into getting wrist corsages for the nieces so that they feel included x


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