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UKbride Member Request 27 Apr 2018

Hi, I am getting married in Spain so the wedding is small, invited 35-40...

Hi, I am getting married in Spain so the wedding is small, invited 35-40 guests expecting around 30, due to personal circumstances of my family and friends the numbers have dropped to below 20 and I am so gutted. The people who matter most are there but I am so worried now that my wedding is going to seem too small and even little things like the amount of tables I will have at my meal and the evening party seeming tiny are really bothering me. Have any other brides had small weddings with similar numbers or have any brides had to deal with disappointment of smaller than expected numbers? Thanks in advance xx

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Michaela Sharp
Michaela Sharp 28 Apr 2018

I'd much rather have a small wedding with the people who matter most it's more personal and intimate. A wedding doesn't need 100's of people to be special. I'm also having a small wedding so relax and enjoy the day.

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 2 May 2018

I’m sure it will be perfect. I’d love a small wedding but our families come to 70 odd and that’s our immediate family 😐 I don’t think it really matters how many though,
As long as your surrounded by people you love and love you back that’s the main thing xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

We are having a small wedding, 40 people total. As long as the main people are there that's all that matters x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

Small weddings are more perfect I had 55 day and about 70ish evening maybe a little less and looking back I so wish I made it smaller. Our renewal will be done so small how I wish I done my wedding x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

My brother got married abroad and there was just them 2 plus 6 others. It was a lovely wedding and very intimate, a perfect day. They had planned a reception/evening party a month after they got back for everyone else and I’m sure they’ll say it was perfect and they wouldn’t of changed a thing! what do you say Kelly am I right? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

Trust me you won’t care, I spent my entire reception with the same 10 people that I see all the time.It sounds bad but on the day you only care about those closest to you, the rest just take up your time and distract you from enjoying yourself xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

With the money you’re saving by them not coming why don’t you have a big party when you get home where you can celebrate with them all (and wear your dress again!)

Laura Roberts
Laura Roberts 2 May 2018

My sister got married abroad and only had 9 guests. Her brother and SIL couldn't make it and none of my BIL's family came apart from his daugher. It was lovely having such an intimate wedding and she had a big party with everyone when she got back

Charlotte Hill
Charlotte Hill 2 May 2018

We got married in March this year and there was a total of 21people including myself and my husband and our two daughters. It was the prefect size in my opinion. Enjoy a small intimate wedding xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

We got married in Majorca last August and there were 9 of us in total! I loved it! We knew it was a big ask, asking people to pay but they turned it into a holiday. We had exactky the people we wanted, we spoiled ourselves on holiday rather than spend money on a party when we got home. My husband would have hated the fuss of a party and I wouldn't put him through it. We had a fantastic, chilled out day, even it was 34 degrees! I think too many people have a big wedding as it's "expected," Free yourself from the hassle and just enjoy the company of the people who are with you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

I’m planning a destination wedding for 20 people. I’d suggest reorganise your seating so it’s one big table with everyone rather than 3 tables of 7 (could be horseshoe style to take up more room and fill the room) In my mind that will make it seem more close knit but not so obvious that it’s a small group (if that makes sense).

I cannot wait for my little wedding! And as Leonie said above, plan a little party back home and celebrate with those who couldn’t make it!

Stephanie Castle
Stephanie Castle 2 May 2018

I'm getting married aboard and when we decided to do this we knew it meant more to us then anything as it means that it will be only close family and maybe a few close friends. We are having a reception once we are back to celebrate with the rest of family and friends. We have no more then 20 at our wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

I had a local wedding with just 18 of us and it was perfect. Very relaxed and intimate. You can always arrange a party for everyone when you get home if you want a larger celebration. Good luck xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

I’m getting married in October and there will only be 19 including myself and h2b at ceremony and meal afterwards, then another 100 at reception in the evening, we only wanted immediate family at our ceremony xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

As long as you and your partner are there (and the official stuff) that’s all you need. My wedding was tiny and delightful. You can always have a party when youre back home with everyone else.

Beth Collicott
Beth Collicott 2 May 2018

We are getting married in this country and have only invited 15 people! Not even our parents are coming!! Close friends only.

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 2 May 2018

It's a lot to ask your guests to pay for, so I would focus on who can go and not get too upset or angry at the people who can't. They probably want to be there but can't spare the funds.

I know absolutely none of my family would be able to afford to go if we decided to go abroad (my Mum doesn't even have a passport) so you should feel lucky that so many of your closest friends and family can go

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 May 2018

I was exactly the same as you.. don't have much family, those who are aren't locationally close, neither were my friends seeing I moved 6 years ago. My maid of honour dropped out, some friends cancelled, it was small, but it goes so quick I barely noticed...

Terasa Fieldsend
Terasa Fieldsend 2 May 2018

Liberty Gibbons
Liberty Gibbons 2 May 2018

Were getting married in New York with 15-20 people and having a big reception with 200 guests, where we will have our cake cutting and slow dance and wearing our wedding day gear, just gettiing married in New York with photography in central park and taking pics at New York famous destinations and meal after.
Saving our 'proper' wedding stuff so everyone can get involved in England at the reception x

Rebecca Bolton
Rebecca Bolton 3 May 2018

We are getting married here in the UK. But we don't have huge amounts of friends or family, so we only have around 48 for the day and aprrox 75 for the evening. It's gonna be a special day regardless

Adrienne Merrick
Adrienne Merrick 3 May 2018

Unfortunately by having your wedding abroad you do run the risk of having a very small amount of guests. Not everyone can afford to attend weddings abroad. Just enjoy your day and feel very lucky and blessed to have how ever many guests fly out to attend your wedding. You can always have an evening of celebration with friends family and loved ones who couldn't attend when you get back.

Megan Chaplen
Megan Chaplen 3 May 2018

We’re getting married in Cyprus next year, and we’re only expecting about 10-15 people, but we really don’t care. It’ll be amazing and special (and warm most importantly) and everybody knows that destination weddings are smaller because not everybody can afford to go abroad or get the time off work. Plus from what I’ve heard, you’ll be too busy to even notice so I wouldn’t worry

Michelle Williams
Michelle Williams 3 May 2018

Quality not quantity 😘😘 xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 May 2018

I went to a wedding a couple of years ago and there was only 13 guests and it was amazing! Everyone got to mingle and they set the table so it was in a horseshoe. Bride and groom still sat at the top of the table but it was so nice as we could all talk. The setting was so beautiful it didn’t look empty at all. Personally, I’d rather have just the important people there and cut out the nosey people. Makes it so much more special x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 May 2018

I got married in Cyprus & exactly the same thing happened. Unfortunately there will always be some who genuinely can't afford it or have personal reasons for not coming. The people who mean the most will be there. We had one big table and an intimate wedding. In honestly you won't care who's there long as it's those who are closest. It's about you and the person you love making promises to each other. The small details that seem so big now will be nothing on the day. Relax and enjoy you only get to live the day once x

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