Hello all brides to be! We're planning to get married in August 2019, with...

It seems very rushed to me.
We are planning to marry November 19 and all our friends who have married in recent years have said they wish they married around 11 or 12 o'clock so they got to enjoy the day as it rushed by in a total flash.

I've also got my ceremony and reception at the same place - we drop off our items 2 days before for them to decorate the next day so we can check it over! We've got venue for whole day. Not letting you in till 5pm seems a bit late??

My wedding is August next year, all being held under the same roof and we have been granted access to set up the night before........ it does all sound very rushed for a lot of money ..... mine was only £4500 for the venue

My wedding is August next year, all being held under the same roof and we have been granted access to set up the night before........ it does all sound very rushed for a lot of money ..... mine was only £4500 for the venue

It seems very rushed.
When are you doing photos?
Sounds like the venue are squeezing you in but still charging top dollar.
Our wedding is at 3pm, then photos, cocktail hour 5-6 then reception starts at 7pm. Band from 9pm, after the dinner & speeches. Dancing & Bar until late.

I’m getting married May next year and our venue is letting us drop bits off day before, they are setting up for us & the ceremony is at 2pm onwards, that’s a very late wedding unless ur are going for a twilight package? I certainly wouldn’t pay 20 grand for a late wedding like that?! I’m sure later weddings are meant to be cheaper! 🤨🤔

That’s crazy?!! We’re having ours the same. Wedding at 2pm we can either have access the evening before or the day of from 10-11 z

It does sound rushed, we married at 4:30pm, we saved time because we chose not to have speeches as neither of us saw them as important. Perhaps this could be an option for you? Along with hiring someone to dress the venue and set up while you have your ceremony and photographs? Hope it all works out for you if this is your perfect venue. Good luck!

Ours was all in one venue - the ceremony was at 3pm and we didn't finish dinner speaches and cake cutting till almost 9pm - first dance was at 9.15pm so yes, that sounds way too late to me! In hindsight I really wish we'd gone for a 2pm ceremony as the evening was gone before we knew it.

We've given ourselves a few hours in between the ceremony and reception due to timing and obviously people arriving

It dose sound very rushed especially for the amount of money you are spending! It's that your dream venue? Or can you find some where else? There are a lot of other venues that will be much more accommodating. Do you really want a rushed day for that venue?? Xx

I dont normally like to cast opinions on this but it does seem very late. We have just got married and the ceremony was 1pm and i wish it had been 11am. Everyone will tell you the day will fly by and it so does. We had access from 8am and dropped things the weekend and night before. This is your dream day. My advice would be do not compromise on time. Yes cut out speeches if you dont want them but you can never get time back to do it all again. You spend all your day welcoming guests. You don't want to spend all that money and regret it or your guests feel rushed.
If you have fallen in love with he venue talk to them and compromise. What is there rationale for all that money for only a few hours? Good luck x

do they not mean 5pm the night before? that all sounds very rushed to me we had all in one place and they set up the night before and the venue dressers set up that morning we married at 2pm xxx

Im getting married next august, at 2:30pm, and my venue allows all day for setting up. Seems very rushed for what youre paying

are you sure that set up time isn't for the night before your wedding as this would sound more reasonable

Sorry but this is ridiculous.... we got marred at 1:30pm but as soon as breakfast was done our venue started setting the room for our meal later .... we had done a place layout at home n took photos which they then had as reference

Will you be having photos? If you skip cocktail hour when will you have your photos taken? It sounds rather rushed to me. I would look around at other venues as you may find a better deal elsewhere. Also, have you checked that you can book a registrar for that late in the day?

Are you sure it's not access from 5pm the day before????

This isn't ideal at all. Access from 5pm means you will only have a hour to set up and get ready or have the cost of hiring someone to set up and 1 hour is still a very short amount of time. Then you only have 4 hours for reception. This place should be very cheap for that amount of time. I wouldn't recommend it you want to make the most of the day not rushing around for the last several hours of it

We are having the same. Reception and ceremony at same place. We are not having a sit down meal though, just a finger buffet for guests

Would a registrar come out so late?

I agree with all the other ladies, it seems a bit off timing wise?! So unless you pay someone to dress the room for you then you will be doing it in full wedding attire as you won’t have time to change after?! Also the registrar is an issue, we have been told unless it’s special circumstances they don’t do ceremonies after 5pm. Hope you get it sorted lovely x

20k and you can't have access till 5pm. (7hrs total use of the venue). Why can't you have access earlier? Hopefully a slight misunderstanding & they meant 5pm day before. Fingers crossed. Good luck.

Don't do it ....my biggest regret was getting married at 4pm x it went by in a blur x I so wish we had made a day of it x

Are you sure they don't mean 5pm the day before? 5pm is seriously late and it would be rushed. Think of all the photos and speeches you have to fit in as well

We will probably have ours at the same place as the ceremony,my church. I will ask about them setting up for me (decorations) before the ceremony (either day or the morning before ),then setting up tables & chairs and setting up food, while we have photos taken. Guests will have other places to congregate as well, while the setting up is going on. I have seen church members set up before straight after a service, and they did it really well.We will be having a Buffet Afternoon Tea ,which is an easy reception to have & cheaper.

Do they mean 5pm the night before??? If not I would steer well clear! You don’t want to be rushing round and worrying about setting up when you should be getting ready 🤨

Perhaps do family photos before the wedding in a different location ("first look" style), and that would give you a bit of time back in the evening.

Our venue recommended 1pm for our ceremony and then photos and the champagne bar until venue set up for the evening. They said 7pm for the first dance so your schedule seems very rushed.

I wouldn't pay 20k for such a short wedding. I'm using same venue for everything but I'm getting married at 12 we have all day access.

Hi Everyone! And thanks for all your helpful comments! To clarify, the caterers can set up from 1pm, they will set the tables, chairs for the ceremony and get everything ready. Guests are not allowed in the venue until 5pm, as it is a public park and open to the public before then. That's why the ceremony can only start at 5.30pm. If we choose this venue we will have to do a First Look and have our pictures taken before the ceremony - thinking around 3pm for this. But I do agree with all of you - it seems rushed to me. The venue hire is not 20k, that's the budget for the wedding. Venue hire is 5k, and catering about 6k. It is our dream venue though - Syon Park Great Conservatory in London. Hard to beat that stunning glass house, but now hearing all your input I'm actually getting second thoughts... Really don't want to feel more rushed on my wedding day than necessary...

Blimey?! 20k for how many people? That’s only 7 hours! We have been told to expect dinner and speeches to take 2-2.5 hours so it could run until 10.30pm which means very little time for dancing. Also might be tricky for any kids (if any) invited as very late for them. Seems a lot of money. I think figure out what parts of the day matter to you, find out how long things take (an hour for ceremony and signing at least and hour for photos 2-2.5 hours for meal and speeches) and run through how the day would run. I think you might end up rushed.

We did one venue for everything but married at 2pm, then there was drinks and lawn games whilst photos happened. 4.30pm sit down for speeches then meal and 7pm evening guests arrived, cutting of the cake, more photos,dancing and mingling- the day was over in a flash. You only do it once, don’t rush it!

I'm getting married at 2pm, and i feel thats late! 5pm unless on purpose for like a twilight wedding is super late

If its your dream venue dont wavier. Are you javing a sit down full wedding breakfast with 3 course food ect ? Then speeches ect ? Or as its later maybe a more relaxed set up a buffet which can be set up ready to go when you want. Have the speaches over cocktail hour. Work out what you both want. Enjoy your day is most important thing. Its your wedding you can make it as formal ir informal as you like x

It’s a lot of money, and you’re getting less than half a day!!! For my wedding (5 weeks ago) it was over the whole day, and it flew by!!

Have your cocktail reception before you get married from 5 then married at 6 dinner at 7 do speeches in between courses aim to finish at 9:30/10 for dancing. Most weddings I have been to are In this or similar format (traditional dancing in between courses and speeches before dessert) I am Jewish and you have to get married at sunset xx