UKbride Member Request 19 Apr 2018

I've got myself in a pickle. The register office accommodates 60. We have...

I've got myself in a pickle. The register office accommodates 60. We have invited 70 as many of the people are overseas and we did not expect everyone to accept. BUT ... Everyone HAS accepted and I don't know what to do. I believe that it may be H&S reasons for why they put a particular number (although there is lots of room). I am almost scared to ask the register office if they can put more chairs as I am a bit scared of officialdom and at the same time don't know whether to ask some more local people if they would stand down or how to approach that. Suggestions please.

Sammy Eldridge
Sammy Eldridge 20 Apr 2018

Personally I’d just keep quiet. I’ve been to weddings where a handful of people have stood at the back because all the chairs are gone.
You may also find that people will be ill on the day so can’t make it. 10 or less is not a lot to be over by for a short registry office ceremony.
Reception venues and places that charge per head would obviously need to know exact guest count but ‘accommodates 60’ sounds more of a guideline than a strict rule to me x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Apr 2018

Does your office have more than one room?Because if it does,you may need to ask if you can change it to one that has a higher capacity. You can't really uninvite people once invited,and even if people agree,they may be put out and it could affect those relationships

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UKbride Administrator 20 Apr 2018

Laura Roberts
Laura Roberts 20 Apr 2018

I'd mention the situation to the registry office and see what they say. If they say they can't accommodate then I'd just let everyone turn up and have some standing at the back. I've been to a few that have had standing room only and I've never seen anyone kicked out or refused entry x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Apr 2018

I'd go with Sammy. Keep quiet. People won't mind standing and the registrar isn't likely to say anything to you about it on the day anyway xx

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UKbride Administrator 20 Apr 2018

We was only allowed a certain amount. But they did allow children to sit on laps. So if you have children who could sit on a lap ask them to do so as that leaves a chair spare. But in the end everyone has their own chair cause you do get a few who doesn’t turn up. We had a couple that was also late arriving and wasn’t allowed to enter as we was already saying our vows. So that spares chairs too lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Apr 2018

This is why you dont over invite!! Stick to the numbers and then invite more people IF people say they cant make it. You'll have to speak to your registry office and explain, it may be that they can squeeze more in or they may have a room that accommodates more people but you will probably have to pay a bit more.

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 20 Apr 2018

I told our registry office that my future brother in law & his family are coming over unexpected from Dubai, in time for wedding.. They said that it will be fine to have few standing. . As you have 10 over i would discuss it with them.. to be on safe side.. because of fire regulations.. is your 70 taking you & hubby to be in count too.. Ours is 50 seats including bride & groom..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Apr 2018

Seen this situation a number of times the registry office has those rules for insurance and HS regulations, usually it means guests have to stand outside.

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 20 Apr 2018

Those regulations will be for health and safety and fire regulations, our room has maximum capacity of 60 and they simply won't let anyone else in, that's also including bride and groom and the 2 registrar's (so make sure you count them too) . If they put that exact number of chairs out then they'll know if there's extra people. I wouldn't try and hide it cause you might have guests being asked to stand outside. You could always ring them and see if they have any bigger rooms?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Apr 2018

Ours states maxium of 50 seated but up to an extra 10 if they were happy to stand at the back. All you can do is ask, it'll be a no or something like standing room only. X

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UKbride Administrator 20 Apr 2018

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Apr 2018

talk to the venue they might be able to help you

Stacey Gill
Stacey Gill 20 Apr 2018

This is something that is worrying me a little. I have a maximum of 54 people at my venue and I have people I want to invite from overseas but only if others can't come first so I'm planning on sending my invited out sooner rather than later get their response and then if needs be send them overseas if the reply is no lol so I'm going to cut it close but will see how it works out

Gwyneth Bland
Gwyneth Bland 20 Apr 2018

When I got married to my 1st Husband we invited close family to the register office,and other family and friends to the reception ,it worked out fine. This time I'm getting married my church is a hall and seats 100 (incl wedding party), then for sit down Tea around the same . Checking number with my Pastor before doing the guest list. If exact number invited ,but less accept ,that will be fine. Try that ,everyone who are getting married.

Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 22 Apr 2018

It doesn’t matter how ‘scared’ you are of officialdom - literally the *only* way you can solve this is by actually talking to your venue! All the Ostrich Approach is going to do is result in 10 lucky people having to stand on the pavement or wait in a nearby pub whilst you get hitched.

Other than that, maybe a lottery, or a Hunger-Games style ‘fight to the death’ between guests for a seat? You wouldn’t need to book additional entertainment then, either.

Stacey Gray
Stacey Gray 23 Apr 2018

Could u not try a church or other venue, our church is cheaper that our registry office and also holds a lot more people x


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