Derryn Coleman
Derryn Coleman 31 Mar 2018

Argh! Tiny kiddies at the ceremony, yes or no? And if no, how do we tell...

Argh! Tiny kiddies at the ceremony, yes or no? And if no, how do we tell people?!

Michaela Sharp
Michaela Sharp 31 Mar 2018

I have a 4yr old so I don't mind children at the ceremony. If you decide to have no children there make sure you tell your guests well in advance as they will need to find childcare if they wish to come.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

We decided not to invite children due to a number of reasons but we just sent invites out a bit earlier and made sure everyone had chance to make arrangements! We haven’t had any problems over it and everyone with kids seem to be looking forward to having a weekend child free. Xx

Danika O'Connor
Danika O'Connor 4 Apr 2018

We had no children at the ceremony or reception and we put it in the invitation. Had no problems, all parents just got excited about a child free evening

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

My one year old niece was my flower girl and she was amazing during the ceremony, didn’t cry or make any noise, just sat with her mum chilling

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

To me I feel like children make the party but that's just me. Iv worked in childcare for years and it's a major part of who I am. Just do whats right for you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

I’m not judging anyone else’s opinions but I honestly can’t see my wedding without children there, if adults want to leave their little ones at home with sitters then that’s totally fine but all children will be invited it’s then down to the parents whether they want them there or not xx

Abbey Lawson
Abbey Lawson 4 Apr 2018

We had our friends with children tell us not to invite them so they could have a child free day/night haha xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

I am getting married in august and we have decided that we are having children so far we have invited 15 children, we thought that the parents might struggle to get sitters for them but each to their own it is ur wedding day so what ever makes it special for you and ur other half xxx

Alysha Penner
Alysha Penner 4 Apr 2018

Don’t want kids at my wedding! I’m putting it on the invites 😂

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 4 Apr 2018

We are having kids at ours.. got 2year old flower girl. Lots of nephews & nieces on both sides & tbh if they werent invited i would struggle to find sitter for my own 7yr old.. & other guests would be in same boat cause sitters are grandparents or auntys that are also invited.. lol..

Amy Glasgow
Amy Glasgow 4 Apr 2018

We have gone child free bar my godson and someone for him to be with. Both will be 10 but apart from that we’re child free. Gives people time out to enjoy themselves without worrying. We just had on our invite due to venue restrictions we are unable to accommodate children. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

I think it’s personal preference. I am the oldest in my family and have siblings who are still children, as well as cousins and my own daughter. I couldn’t imagine my wedding without kids around and my family would struggle if we had a no kids rule so we’ve got children all day. It’s just personal preference x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

We are having about 22 children at ours

Mark Humphreys
Mark Humphreys 4 Apr 2018

I have limited children coming to ours but they have to leave by 8pm (getting married at 3.30) that includes my own 7 year old x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

I think it is up to the couple. We are having children at ours as they are as much a part of our family as the adults. But I can understand other couples not wanting children there.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

i say yes but we only had family and those you were part of the wedding tbh we had two 6 month old babies who were so quite no one realised they were there at the ceremony and for reception everyone was invited children included to me children make a wedding fun we had a corner with toys so if they didnt want to dance etc they could play im a childcare provider n love children x

Amy Carr
Amy Carr 4 Apr 2018

My friends hired a crèche for their ceremony. Kids had a great time and the ceremony was quiet. And every one was able to make it! x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

Your decision but be prepared for people not to come if they can't bring their children. I'm not going to one later this month as I have no one to look after my two and I'm still breastfeeding the baby.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

We’re getting married next summer and we’re inviting kids as we want an informal reception in the garden with games and the kids running around

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

I hired a qualified nanny at my wedding with a separate side room for the kids who could have fun and play but also nap, worked well

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 4 Apr 2018

At the actual ceremony we’re only having about 50 people and that’s including children. As they are part of immediate family x

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 4 Apr 2018

Yes, we are inviting children. A lot of my family have kids and i think it would be too much asking for them to travel, pay a babysitter and potential stay over. Kids in the evening are super fun anyway

Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 4 Apr 2018

There’s this bizarre idea that a formal wedding ceremony is a celebration of two families coming together rather than the opportunity for a perfect photo-opportunity and cash grab. Personally I’d hire a holding pen and a couple of security guards - that should stop the little ankle-biters from ruining your Big Day... 😉

Anita O'Sullivan
Anita O'Sullivan 4 Apr 2018

We’re not having kids at our wedding ... our children will be 15 & 16 respectively .. but we’ve included a note on our invitations ..

In order to allow all guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult-only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!

We would love to give all our guests the opportunity to let their hair down and have a good time without having to worry about little eyes and ears so we politely request no children.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

I asked each of my friends if they wanted their children to come as some friends had mentioned in passing that they were looking forward to adult only time. So I asked them then sent the invites accordingly, this was because I wasn't fussed either way x

Belinda Ann Welbourne
Belinda Anne Bingley 4 Apr 2018

I'm not having children at our wedding youngest person there will be our 12 year old daughter everyone we have invited has had no problem with this but it's personal choice been to too many wedding where a baby has started screaming ( which I know can't be helped ), or a small child being bumped over by an adult in party mode Just want a nice chilled out day for everyone x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

We originally didn't want children at ours, but felt we couldn't not invite my nieces and nephews... We also have the MOH and Best mans children to the ceremony. All adults we asked to the evening do decided they didn't want to bring their kids anyway so we only have 8 in total for the whole day. Maybe invite only family members kids and then give friends the option??

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

We had children....everywhere (seriously the were everywhere) but having 3 ourselves and most of our friends having children we wouldn't have had it any other way, definitely made our service more fun and memorable :) x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

Due to cost we can't invite guests children.... 50 in day. Only having family children.
For evening reception they can go

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

We’re only having about 60 at ours ..60 children that is! The day is all about family for us..bouncy castles, slides etc ..sooo looking forward to it!!

Kayleigh Hulse
Kayleigh Hulse 4 Apr 2018

We didn't. We put a polite msg at the bottom of our invites x

Rachel Brown
Rachel Brown 4 Apr 2018

We aren’t having any children at our wedding, we just approached the parents who we believed might of wanted to bring the children and they were fine about it. Honestly mostly everyone assumed the kids weren’t invited and pretty happy to have a kid free night ☺️

Donna Milner
Donna Milner 4 Apr 2018

We are having 27 kids in day and a extra 25 at night there family and friends kids also grandkids I couldn't tell friends and family not to fetch kids but it's your wedding so it's up to you x

Natalie Casey
Natalie Casey 4 Apr 2018

We want kids at our wedding! They are apart of our family so feel like how could I not invite them? I just think it’s lovely to have kids all dressed up at wedding 😊

Claire Gillick
Claire Gillick 4 Apr 2018

We’ve said no kids. Want our guests to enjoy out day and not worry about the kids. All those close enough to come to your day do should understand. Ours did x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

We have 9 children at our day do - our daughter and 8 nieces and nephews. I love kids, my friends kids, family's kids, but if everyone we were inviting brought their kids to the evening do we would have 35 kids under 12 years old and I just can't cope with that thought.
We included this in our invites: In order to keep numbers to a minimum, we can only invite a small number of children. We also thought you might like a night off!

Katie Harris
Katie Harris 5 Apr 2018

We gave parents the option of bringing their children because we already have our niece and nephew there. We then just asked them to RSVP and factored that into the numbers.

Charlene Hook
Charlene Hook 5 Apr 2018

I will have a 4 yr old, 3 month old and my eldest at mine so children will be coming to my reception. It’s your choice just give your guests plenty of notice to make arrangements

Hannah Stanley
Hannah Stanley 5 Apr 2018

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Apr 2018

Yes they made ours. We had bridal party and immediate family 12 in total 10 under 6. All perfectly behaved and great fun

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Apr 2018

I’d say yes, to me these things are all about family. I had two babies and children of all ages at mine and to me it made the day perfect.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Apr 2018

Ours wouldn't have been the same without them there my family has lots of small children

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Apr 2018

There's quite a good article on this here!


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