Lauren-Emily Pepper
Lauren-Emily Pepper 25 Mar 2018

My fiancé and I have about 180 people on out guest list over all but our...

My fiancé and I have about 180 people on out guest list over all but our venue holds 150. Is it worth inviting everyone be it that grandparents & people with children will leave during the evening or waiting for replies before inviting others? I’m freaking out as I don’t want to be over the numbers and annoyed with my fiancé as he keeps telling people about the wedding and then asking if we can inviting them. It sweet he is so happy and excited but I feel he doesn’t think.

Alanna May
Alanna May 25 Mar 2018

I would check the safety of doing so. Some places have a limit because they have been told to do so for insurance. For example if there were a fire alarm you need to make sure everyone can safely get out in a good time.

Gemma Philip
Gemma Philip 28 Mar 2018

I’d invite 150 people first and then if others can’t make it go to a back up list x

Jayne Harper
Jayne Harper 28 Mar 2018

We set ourselves the limit of 70 guest. We sent out invites to the family and closet friends first and waited to see how many yes's we got. When the invites came back we had a few spare places and sent invites to friends we wanted there but originally couldn't accommodate. Some of them said no and some said yes, we have a couple of places spare at the moment that we haven't filled yet.

Lauren-Emily Pepper
Lauren-Emily Pepper 28 Mar 2018

Thank you I have different views from people who have got married but I am really anxious.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Mar 2018

Several estimates say that about 20% of the people you invite to a wedding will either RSVP "no" or not RSVP at all. Which means you'll be right in your target range. However, it never hurts to give your fiance a gentle reminder about the venue size :)

Susie Booth
Susie Booth 29 Mar 2018

I agree with Gemma ..invite the 150 but have a back up list ..we are also doing this x

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 29 Mar 2018

Our dream venue holds 150 for the ceremony then more after so we’ve done a list of close friends and family for the morning and then a few who don’t quite make the cut (sorry if that sounds harsh) who we’ll ask if any can’t make it. I’m sure people will understand that there’s a limit on how many you can have in the morning. X

Shawneen Allen
Shawneen Allen 30 Mar 2018

They say to narrow your guest list down do not invite people you haven't spoken to in a year. My Fiancee and I have kept ours to just family and close friends Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Apr 2018

We have the same issue. I have sent out the first lot of wedding invites and asked it to come back asap, then i can add on people when i get declines.

Shawneen Allen
Shawneen Allen 17 Apr 2018

My Fiancee has now been let down by his best man. He told him that he cannot do it and to ask someone else but he gave us no reason as to why he cannot do it. A relative told us that you don't need to have a best man but surely you do to arrange a stag night, look after the rings on the day and stuff?? Xx


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