I'd love some wedding party advice! My fiancé has 6 siblings all under the age of 14. We are having a small ish wedding and don't want to end up with nearly half the guests as part of the wedding party! We both have already chosen friends to be in the wedding party I have one brother who my fiancé and I are both close to. We would love him to be a groomsman but are worried that this will annoy my fiancé's family if his siblings are not included too Can anyone suggest ways to include his siblings and make them feel part of the wedding? Thanks :)
How about asking them to do a collective reading
if there’s quite a lot of them you only have one brother your side surely that’s what you could say? Because it would be unfair to have 2/6 etc. So by not having any it’s fair on everyone plus they’re young too?
Your wedding your choice. You need an adult as a groomsman maybe siblings can beil ushers or do readings or a song.
Your not obligated to include family. But its nice
Getting to go is involvement enough for me lol
Maybe ushers, ring bearer, serve welcone drinks at reception. Or instead of having any family pick close friends then no one is left out
Ushers? Readings there are lots of different roles you could hand out
I don't think it's necessary and wouldn't cause an issue, my husband had his brother as best man but I didn't have his sister as bridesmaid 🤷
Your wedding your choice! You need to do whats right for you. I had the same problem but with my Nieces/Nephews. I was with my Nephew when he was born and have always had a very close bond with him. I would of loved to of had him as a pageboy but knew there would of been comments made about the other 5 not being involved. I knew he would be there so have decided to have just our children walk with me down the isle with my adult Bridesmaids and have 2 Bestmen so the only children involved are our own. I'm sure all of the children will be excited to be therr xx
I would do whatever you want to... But if you want to include them without them actually being in the wedding party, maybe you could give them all a little buttonhole / corsage in the same style as the wedding party (if you're having flowers)? Since your brother is an adult and you are both close to him I think it's ok to have him as a groomsmen xx
We are only having a small day do, and although slightly different situation, I want everyone to feel involved. Some have been given specific jobs, others I have asked to contribute to speeches/readings. Speaking to everyone I found some are just happy being a guest. We have not give family any specific roles like bridesmaid or ushers (apart from my niece who is flower girl, but she’s the only child and won’t cause friction at 2years old lol). Speak to them , you might be surprised with their responses.
Make them ushers .... they can escort “vip” guests to seats, hand out confetti,hand out order of service etc
Get the oldest to be a bridesmaid, the youngest a flowergirl and the rest to write a poem for after the meal
I am in a similar position so my partner is having a best man and the others are being ushers or groomsmen. X