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UKbride Member Request 22 Mar 2018

I'd love some wedding party advice! My fiancé has 6 siblings all under the...

I'd love some wedding party advice! My fiancé has 6 siblings all under the age of 14. We are having a small ish wedding and don't want to end up with nearly half the guests as part of the wedding party! We both have already chosen friends to be in the wedding party I have one brother who my fiancé and I are both close to. We would love him to be a groomsman but are worried that this will annoy my fiancé's family if his siblings are not included too Can anyone suggest ways to include his siblings and make them feel part of the wedding? Thanks :)

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Mar 2018

How about asking them to do a collective reading

Emily Finch
Emily Finch 23 Mar 2018

if there’s quite a lot of them you only have one brother your side surely that’s what you could say? Because it would be unfair to have 2/6 etc. So by not having any it’s fair on everyone plus they’re young too?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Mar 2018

Your wedding your choice. You need an adult as a groomsman maybe siblings can beil ushers or do readings or a song.
Your not obligated to include family. But its nice

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Mar 2018

Getting to go is involvement enough for me lol

Lesley Smith
Lesley Smith 23 Mar 2018

Maybe ushers, ring bearer, serve welcone drinks at reception. Or instead of having any family pick close friends then no one is left out

Simone Mair
Simone Mair 23 Mar 2018

Ushers? Readings there are lots of different roles you could hand out

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Mar 2018

I don't think it's necessary and wouldn't cause an issue, my husband had his brother as best man but I didn't have his sister as bridesmaid 🤷

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Mar 2018

Your wedding your choice! You need to do whats right for you. I had the same problem but with my Nieces/Nephews. I was with my Nephew when he was born and have always had a very close bond with him. I would of loved to of had him as a pageboy but knew there would of been comments made about the other 5 not being involved. I knew he would be there so have decided to have just our children walk with me down the isle with my adult Bridesmaids and have 2 Bestmen so the only children involved are our own. I'm sure all of the children will be excited to be therr xx

Alex Donaldson
Alex Donaldson 23 Mar 2018

I would do whatever you want to... But if you want to include them without them actually being in the wedding party, maybe you could give them all a little buttonhole / corsage in the same style as the wedding party (if you're having flowers)? Since your brother is an adult and you are both close to him I think it's ok to have him as a groomsmen xx

Kerry Jones
Kerry Jones 23 Mar 2018

We are only having a small day do, and although slightly different situation, I want everyone to feel involved. Some have been given specific jobs, others I have asked to contribute to speeches/readings. Speaking to everyone I found some are just happy being a guest. We have not give family any specific roles like bridesmaid or ushers (apart from my niece who is flower girl, but she’s the only child and won’t cause friction at 2years old lol). Speak to them , you might be surprised with their responses.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Mar 2018

Make them ushers .... they can escort “vip” guests to seats, hand out confetti,hand out order of service etc

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Mar 2018

Get the oldest to be a bridesmaid, the youngest a flowergirl and the rest to write a poem for after the meal

Christy Barker
Christy Barker 1 Apr 2018

I am in a similar position so my partner is having a best man and the others are being ushers or groomsmen. X

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