Hello fellow brides, I need your advice! My father and I haven't always had relationship growing up but over the past year he has become a more permanent fixture in my life. He is even helping pay towards my wedding. I always thought I was headstrong and knew that my mother would walk me down the aisle because she has always been there and raised me. But now I'm beginning to feel very guilt tripped into letting him do it. What would you do? Thank you in advance. x
Hi get both your parents walk you down the aisle :)
Stand your ground. My brother walked me down the aisle. He was the one who was always here for me.
Do it with both :)
Have them both walk you down the aisle x
Im having my step dad and uncle they are both like dads to me i couldnt pick one or the other x
I'm having both my parents they have both been their every step of the way for me x
Stick with your mum I say, just talk with him about how uv always felt & mum deserves to walk you down the aisle
‘Guilt tripped’ is rarely a positive reason to do anything...
I'm having my Mum walk me down. My Dad's been around in my life but my Mum raised me and I know that who I am today doesn't really have much to do with my Dad.
I think you should stick to having your mum giving you away. When I get married my future MIL is giving me away as my dad has nothing to do with me and my mum sadly passed away. It might seem strange to some people but I’m very close to my future MIL and she’s the closest thing I’ve had to a parent for a long time so I couldn’t imagine anyone else giving me away x
Let them both do it. If they don’t like the idea - let one take you have way & the “hand you over” to the other parent to continue the journey
Have them both x
At the end of the day he is you dad good or bad and I’m sure it would be a massive honour for him, I’m sure your mum would understand as a mum I would or just have them both ️
You have to do what's right for You! Remember there are other parts in the wedding you can involve him in, maybe witness or usher
Im having my mom come in the car with me n my dad wlk me down the aisle i wanted my stepdad to wlk me half way 2 but the aisle isnt big enough so hes going to be a witness
Give him another job to do. Like being a witness. He'll still feel involved & you still get your moment with mum
I've had a on off relationship with my mum since teens but after all the problems she the one who has shown the most interest the one making it possibly to do this by giving me a sum of money to help us put deposit down and the one who's always been there no matter how bad we've got I was on talking terms with my dad who wasn't there for 21 years for about 2 years he was back in my life even if i was still talking to him my mum would always come out on top because she's the woman who gave me life the one that brought me up never walked away no matter what are differences have been no doubt about it...do what u feel is right deep down don't let guilt over take what you feel x
I don’t talk to my dad so he would never get the chance to walk me down the aisle. Even if he comes into my life before the wedding it just wouldn’t happen. I’ve chosen my brother to walk me down the aisle xxx
Have both x
My mum has been there for me more but I don't want to have that conversation with my dad. So he's walking me down the aisle and my mum is doing the father of the bride speech :) nice compromise and they're both happy with it.
Your mums been there for you for all of your life. Your dads been back in it for just 1 year. Just because he’s helping pay towards the wedding doesn’t give him the right to “give you away”. I’d feel bad on my Mum if someone else or even both of them walked me down the isle. Just remember who’s ALWAYS been there x
Get them both to do it xx
My son is giving me away when I marry and when my daughter marries I'm the one giving her away as her father was never around to be honest if he turned up and she asked him it would break my heart as I'm the one who's shared her journey to the beautiful woman she has become x
Couldn't they both walk you down ?
Either get both or neither and get someone else ( I’m getting my youngest son because of a fall out with my family) or even walk down yourself!! Like you say your a strong woman
I had the same situation and considered both but when I asked my mum what she'd prefer she said she would love nothing more than to watch me walk down the aisle
Have them both walk you down the aisle... My young son and my mum are walking me down the aisle because my dad has passed away so that's why my sons walking with me otherwise I would have had both my parents too...
I had a rocky relationship with my dad but a good few years before he passed away our bond was amazing... Go with your gut instinct and what YOU want, not what you think you should do xxx
It can always be a shared duty or even split. My father walked me down the aisle, to my mother who gave me away.
Mum. She was always for you, not just in The last year. I have The same situation and anything will change my decision. My mum was always when I needed her. Always helped me, always talked with me when something was wrong. She deserves for it. It is the most important for me what she did, not that somebody appear in last year, even my dad. For example I haven't talk to my dad for long years and nothing will change when he suddenly appear. Nothing. I choose my mum
I had my big brother walk me down the isle coz dad was never around really, but I didn't want to pick between my mum or dad x
Do what feels best for you. I think your mom should, but I don't know your situation so it is hard to help.
This is a little like me. My dad left when I was 7, came back into my life when I was around 20. I'm 27 now.
So it's been a good 7 years. And he's been there for those 7 years... But not as much as my mum and she's always been there! More so than him.
Sticking to tradition I'm having my dad walk me down the isle, but I'm having my mum come down the isle with my son, my page boy. Wouldn't feel right without her a part of it some how.
And my son wouldn't walk down on his own, and he loves his nanna to pieces! Since my dad has came back into my life I couldn't cut him out, but I want my mum there too. She knows I couldn't cut my dad out and take his role away from him and respects that and she was over the moon when I asked her to walk down with my son!
And my mum just got remarried and had my two brothers walk her down the isle recently. And I was her only bridesmaid.
So, we were all together for that.
And on the top table I'm having my dad and my mum with her new hubby on the other side of her. Cause I couldn't cut him out cause he's lovely.
I would get them both to do it one either side and no fear of tripping
Your Mum raised you, he didn’t. I’d want her to do it. If my Mum was still alive, that’s what I would do. She was there for everything else, why not this?
Don't feel guilt tripped in anything. Make the decision based on what you want, not what you think will make people happy. You have the option of both of them walking you down if that's something you would like to do. Enjoy your day and make the decision that makes you happiest. Xx
I stick with your Mum if she’s been there non stop. I think it’s wrong that your being guilt tripped when the money’s supposed to a gift to help out. There shouldn’t need to be a reward for gift. I think you might hurt your mums feelings if you change your mind. Xx
Have your dad walk you to your mum half way down the aisle then she takes over and "hands you over" (sorry it's Friday and that's the only way I can think to phrase) or they both do it. Good luck xx
Have a father and daughter dance then at least he’s included in some way x
Have a father and daughter dance then at least he’s included in some way x
Talk to your mum about it. She may prefer to watch you walk down the aisle
I think your Mum is a definate, but if you want maybe have both? Someone giving you money is not an immediate spot in your wedding party and I am sure that is not why he wants to contribute. Hope you get it sorted x
Thinking that your mum has been there all your life and your dad only a year I think you should have your mum and have your dad do something else like a speech at the wedding or something it sounds your mum deserves the honour more than your dad or if you can't choose et ween them have them both
I'd go with your mum, don't let anyone guilt you into doing anything you don't want to do, even if your dad has been making an effort recently
Think of your Mother she was there all along where would you be today without her? How must she feel ?