The venue I love that we were planning on saving for have just emailed me to tell me they are selling next year and are still taking bookings for this year. They have given me new quote which has taken £700 off! I believe it could be done if we do a budget wedding such as people bring their own food etc and I have friends that are singers and djs. The only catch is (very embarrassing) my partner is still married! We are saving up for his divorce too so we can tie the knot! The venue offered me 2 dates in September this year and if we go for it I'm worried the divorce won't be done in time for the wedding. How long does it take for a divorce? It's really not worth the risk is it? My favourite venue that is selling and has given me a fantastic offer for £1,500 to hire. I could really just hide under my duvet covers right now :( Also.. it would be so embarrassing to explain why we can't get married that early! And they made the effort to discuss this deal just for me.
Personally would wait for the divorce to come through then think about booking a venue. They will do offers again next year so I'm sure this won't be your only opportunity to have it.
There would be enough time if his wife is prepared to cooperate. If there are finances or children issues to resolve it’s unlikely to be done by September. Best of luck and I hope you get the date sorted 🙂
I don’t think people should have to bring their own food to a wedding 🙄😐
In theory if the divorce is simple and all the paperwork.is filled out by yourselves, and all copies are signed and returned promptly during the process then roughly 4 months...thats how long mine took. This was a few years ago, and waiting times may change depending on your family court. But to donut yourself is simple....as long as everyone agrees and there's no solicitors or drama. I didn't have to attend court. X
Depends if the divorce is contested and includes financial settlements which require declarations . A divorce without any contesting or financial dividing can take 8 weeks min however the registrar will need a decree absolute no less than 3 months before the actual wedding to prove you can legally wed .
I would wait until the divorce was in progress. Mine was meant to be straight forward and is still going on a year later x
We went through the same . I booked the wedding before my h2b was divorced. Turned into a nightmare. It ended up ok but u dont need the added stress. We get married in june so all good . Good luck , but u will find something suitable im sure x
I fully cooperated with my ex husband with the divorce. I signed the paperwork on the 16th September 2015 and we were issued the decree absolute (which is what you need to show the registrar) on the 16th March 2016. So 6 months and it was straight forward.
Would it be an option to have a blessing and reception there and then do the legal bit later if his divorce isn't finalised in time?
I really wouldn’t risk it... I’ve been seperated nine years this September and have no financial ties with my ex , but only started divorce proceedings last September after I got engaged. Hadn’t got divorced before purely because I could never justify the cost. However due to the fact he has delayed sending paperwork back 😡 and then made mistakes on paperwork and had to have it sent back😡, I’m only just at the stage where my application for decree nisi is with the judge😳. I’m hoping the absolute will be through by end May/ beginning of June as long as there’s no more hiccups😩.... and I’m getting married on September 2nd this year!!!.... To say it’s stressful is an understatement!!!... I really don’t think your divorce would be through in time even if there were no hiccups.., remember you have to give notice to your council atleast 28 days before the wedding... and have to have the absolute by then... Honestly, just don’t put yourself through it.., plan your wedding for next year and enjoy planning it rather than having the divorce overshadowing it... I’m sure you’ll find a venue you’ll fall in love with , there’s so many to choose from. Good luck.xxx
My H2B & his ex wife had a perfectly amicable divorce, nothing was contested & all paperwork was filed quickly & correctly..... still took about 5 or 6 months for it to be finalised & get his decree absolute. Which you need BEFORE you can give notice of marriage, and you have to do that a minimum of 28 days before... so you need at least 7 or 8 months from starting the divorce proceedings.
I really wouldn’t risk it, its a lot of money to lose if you can’t go through with it in the end xx
My divorce took 2years to complete because my ex was being stupid, hiding finacial info, & changing jobs, so my solicitor couldn't look getting me money from my half of house etc... So It depends on loads of things.. i wouldnt risk it... My ex did. & had to cancel his Barbados wedding 3x cause it wasnt done.. cost him an extra grand in the end. Cause of notice of married & licence having to be changed as well as flights & hotel..
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As long as divorce not contended it can be 6 months
This must be some venue to take the risk and ask people to bring their own food
My partner had to be separated for 2 years before the divorce proceedings began it was amicable they have 2 children together x we've just never had the money to get married til 10 years later lol x finally getting married this year whoop x
I was engaged before i was divorced too. I started the divorce proceedings in august and the divorce was finalised at start of december but we had been separated for 6 years and we had already sorted the house years ago so it was straight forward really. Im getting married in september. Good luck x
I wouldn’t let people bring there own food. Why don’t you do the buffet, and get your family and friends to help you. Speak to your solicitor and see when it will be ready, an what can you do legally if the wedding comes before the divorce. I hope this helps
Hi I would not risk it :)
I’d personally wait until the divorce goes through. That way you can save up more money and you may even find a better venue whilst you’re waiting. Good luck, hope it all works out for you both!x
I would wait for divorce ad you never know how long it will take. It would be soul destroying if you couldn't get married. Regarding guests taking their own food, why not it's different and afterall they are coming to see you get married. Good luck x
You can do your own divorce on line. Quicker and cheaper than solicitors x
My divorce was done & dusted in 6 months
No idea about the divorce bit but just wanted to say I think it's a lovely idea to get everyone to bring food and drink it's a celebration of your love and life together not a free lunch x
Thank you everyone. And to the own food thing, that was a heat of the moment thought because of the rush. I wouldn't want anyone to bring their own food. We have decided to wait and not take the risk. Such a shame. Maybe something else will pop up. Divorce will hopefully be settled this year. My dream man came with a little bit of baggage lol
Ray C, I do agree. Unfortunately I am one to worry what everyone would think but I believe that they should also respect our wishes. When we have the money we will pay for food though :)