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UKbride Member Request 20 Mar 2018

Me and my h2b are struggling to agree on anything. We are very different and...

Me and my h2b are struggling to agree on anything. We are very different and have different social backgrounds so trying to plan our wedding is becoming very difficult he feeling we should have a simple wedding while I've would like a traditional 3day wedding weekend. He's worried it will upset his family or make them look bad. How can I have my dream wedding without looking snobby!

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Margarita Sudvajiene
Margarita S. 20 Mar 2018

This is your wedding, don't think about others, even family, you are having it once in your life, so just enjoy, as well talk to your boyfriend and say, you both need to agree what is most important for you, not for your friends or relatives, this is my thoughts, goid luck xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

I can't say I've ever even heard of a three day wedding. Is there a way you can compromise with each other?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

The best thing to do is sit down and talk through things with your partner and see if u can compromise. After all it's not just your wedding it's his too. I'm sure it will work out if u chat

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

3 days??!! Crikey! Why not compromise with one wedding day. A BBQ informal party thing the night before and then another the day after? Whilst it is your day, it is actually both of you's special day and you should want him happy too. I think you need to compromise rather than force him round to your way of thinking.

Shelley Rayworth
Shelley Rayworth 21 Mar 2018

A 3 day wedding weekend ? Never heard of that an weddings a but like marriage is about compromise x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

It depends on what cultural background shes from some cultures all the wedding traditions do take a few days

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

Never heard of a 3day wedding weekend?! Tbh it’s a day for both of you so you both need to reach some sort of agreement on how you both want your day to be or you’ll end up with settling with something either of you want just for the sake of having a wedding. Hope you sort it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

You are going to have to compromise at some point on your day, it is his wedding day too, i know i would've hated for my husband to have been uncomfortable with our day but surely there will be a happy middle for you both x

Danika O'Connor
Danika O'Connor 21 Mar 2018

What is a traditional 3 day wedding please?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

You both need to talk about it and discuss why you each want the type of wedding you want. There’s bound to be some middle ground. Give a good few hours over to talking it over and write down each thing you both agree to. At the end of the ceremony you get that bit of paper and that’s the main point of the wedding. Everything else is about bringing two families together and your friends. It has to be right for both of you and not just your dream day. That’s a wedding not a marriage.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

3 day wedding? Never heard of it. Wedding day is 1 day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

What’s a traditional 3 day wedding? Never heard of that unless maybe your Asian and I know they’re weddings go over few days? Surely you have the day and that’s it? Maybe breakie next morning but that’s it?

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 21 Mar 2018

Having googled 3 day weddings it seems to be a new "tradition" spreading across the USA. Which could be why none of us know what you mean... I agree with other brides to be, Sit down and talk it through, with your Husband to be. & Don't forget its his wedding too...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

What is traditional about a 3 day wedding weekend? Unless it is cultural it sounds a tad expensive for everyone involved.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

Yes its your wedding but I see where your h2b is coming from you want this big 3 day wedding but that's not what getting married is all about its about marrying the person you love and saying your vowes together maybe your husband is feeling a bit neglected because your forgetting the true reason why your getting married you shouldn't be wanting this big 3 day wedding if he's the 1 that proposed to you then you shouldn't realy be thinking about having this big 3 day thing your letting your mind take over the love you have for each other plus if u both cant agree on anything is it realy the right time to be thinking about getting married and remember it's not just your day it's his too

Mand East
Mand East 21 Mar 2018

It about compromise with each other as it both your day

Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 21 Mar 2018

If you can’t decide on the wedding itself it might be time to postpone the wedding until you can talk to each other about the rest of your lives 😳

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

We did drinks the night before in a local bar for anyone who wanted to come and then the full ceremony-meal-ceilidh-buffet-dancing thing. After that neither we or our guests would have needed or enjoyed a 3rd day of events. Perhaps you could compromise on 2?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

Wats a 3 day wedding? OMG. WHY. ? Marry at 2pm or 3pm meal at 5.30 evening guests 7.30 off to hotel for night then honeymoon. Who needs to drag it out for 3 days.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Mar 2018

Have a 2 day wedding...average it out

Becky Moss
Becky Moss 2 Apr 2018

I am soo lucky my partner just says what ever i want we will have think that may be his way out of planning it haha i dont mind 😂😂 xxxx

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