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UKbride Member Request 20 Mar 2018

My mum wants to be part of the bridal party, she has never been a bridesmaid...

My mum wants to be part of the bridal party, she has never been a bridesmaid before and will be a big part in helping me decide on things. I said yes and made her MOH. When ppl ask who is in the bridal party I tell them and they think it's really strange. Anyone else had this? Also, me and my sister don't get on. She was my MOH last time (twice married) and I was subsequently hers, just because were family really. Because of that do I have to have her in the bridal party this time? If rather not but hate being mean.

17 Comments
Amber Freeman
Amber Freeman 20 Mar 2018

It doesn't matter if other people think it's strange it's about what makes you and your partner happy. If you don't want your sister in the bridal party then don't feel like you have to. My partner is 1 of 7 siblings and only 2 are playing a part in ours :) x

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 20 Mar 2018

Nice that you can involve your Mum as MoH. No reason to include your sister in the bridal party anyway but the fact that she was you MoH last time is excuse enough.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 20 Mar 2018

Hi do what you want it's your day after all :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

Its your day so I don't see an issue with what you have decided. I guess it is a little strange since mother of the bride is already a big role and technically she would have been part of the bridal party anyway and could have walked down the aisle with you etc if you wanted but if you want her to be MoH as well that's completely your choice! We decided to have our mums be our witnesses and sign the register to involve them in the ceremony and we are having a traditional top table so they'll be sat with us for the wedding breakfast too :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

Why do people see it as strange? My mother would be part of the bridal party along with my bridesmaids anyways but, the fact my mother is walking me down the aisle I wouldn't have it any other way. She will be coming with me to try dresses on (not that she will pick one for me because the ones she likes are fucking hideous) lol. She will also class as my something old so two birds with one stone

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

Sounds fabulous! Stick to your guns, you'll be fine x

Cydonie Riley
Cydonie Riley 21 Mar 2018

I don't think that's weird- I really considered my mum being mine and even without the title she's been a godsend to me throughout the process. Glad you and your mum have such a good relationship!

Hollyanne Greenbank
Hollyanne Greenbank 21 Mar 2018

Sounds lovely, don’t worry about what everyone else thinks 😃

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

Have I missed something? Isn’t mother of the bride already an important part of the bridal party? It was mine 🤭 perhaps why people think it’s strange!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

Do whatever you want!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

Do what you like, it's your day :) my mum is part of the bridal party though. She is getting ready with us all in the morning and is involved in quite alot. On the day, I don't she will be walking down the aisle but she's involved in everything else but that xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

She is mother of tbe bride what more does she want? But its your day. Do what makes you happy

Anya Williams
Anya Williams 21 Mar 2018

Your mam is the mother of the bride so I class that as bridal party anyways. But I say go for what works for.you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

She's your Mum!! If you want her as your MOH then what's the problem? I think it shows you have great love & respect for her! ️ screw what others say, ain't their wedding is it?!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

From someone who’s mum is really ill, I think it’s wonderful your including her in your bridal party xx

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 21 Mar 2018

We are having both mums walk down isle with me... As they are controling the young bridesmaid & ring bearer, (their grand children) also signing as witnesses.. Don't see a problem, Do what feels right for you & yours.. Its funny how since i started planning our wedding it seems every man & his dog, That arent even invited have an opinion about what i have chosen...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Mar 2018

At the end of the day, this is your wedding and your choice. If you are close with your mum and you want her to be your MOH, then there is nothing wrong with it. As far as your sister goes, one alternative would be to give her a different task such as reading a poem. That way she still feels included, but you get the bridal party you really want.

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