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UKbride Member Request 19 Mar 2018

Hi, I really just need some advice. I got married 5 months ago and it was...

Hi, I really just need some advice. I got married 5 months ago and it was the happiest day of my life however that’s now all come crashing down. My husband has just left me for his co worker after no warning at all (I know this sounds like a quick marriage but it wasn’t, we had been together for years). I’m now having such a hard time trusting anyone and I know this is in the future but how am I suppose to trust another man if he says he likes me? I trusted my husband with everything, now it all feels like a lie

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Mar 2018

Well one it's only been five months two you'll find someone when times right get back to you first and it's his loss love

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 20 Mar 2018

Hi.. i am sorry your going through this.... Truth is it takes time, & you have to allow yourself to grieve the loss of all you dreamt off.. Dont rush in to anything till your in a better place. Best wishes for the future what ever that may bring.. xx

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 20 Mar 2018

So sorry to hear you are going thru this. Everything will be raw and a bit of a rollercoaster for awhile but in time, when you meet the right person, they will understand your anxieties and do all they can to put your faith back in to trusting them.
I can say this as I have been where you are you and am now planning on getting married again.
I do still have my moments but my partner understands where my anxiety comes from and puts me at ease x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Mar 2018

I'm sorry the wedding didn't work out but you need t to take time to find yourself again.. you say you've been together years so you've probably forgotten what you do as a single person.. take some time to love yourself, do what you love and the rest will come in time x

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 20 Mar 2018

Hi it probably was a lie on his part but hold your head up girl you did nothing wrong :)

sharon jowett
sharon jowett 20 Mar 2018

I can totally empathise with you. My hubby, now ex, left after just 12 months for a much younger model. Long story short, the grass wasn't greener on the other side and now he's all alone. However, I met a lovely guy and we are getting married next year. Time is the greatest healer and karma is a bitch. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Mar 2018

1, breathe
2, take scissors to any piece of clothing he left in the house
3, make a doll of co worker & stick pins in it
4, have a glass of something chilled
5,use any cds as decorations in the garden
6,breathe
7,get girlfriends round to man bash
8, list his belongings on eBay
9,report his passport/bankcards/ driving licence/car as all stolen
10, have another glass of something n congratulate yourself on achieving the above 9 things xxxx
Lol

Amy Carr
Amy Carr 20 Mar 2018

One day when I fell off my bike, I never wanted to go on it EVER again... My Gran told me; To hurt is to live. If you close your self off to every scratch you will never live. You will never experience anything. You will never grow. I never knew how much that would apply nearly every day of my life! :) get back on the bike and enjoy yourself. Don't let them stop you from living. Open your heart and feel again! It's a greater feeling than being stuck where you are now 😘😘

Bethany Hardcastle
Bethany Hardcastle 20 Mar 2018

chop his nuts off why do it after the wedding dont he reliase it cost 5000 for a devorse men like that dont deseve women anyway or men x

Sharon Lockyer
Sharon Lockyer 20 Mar 2018

When my ex left after 24 years of marriage for a family friend it was a huge shock to me and my family. It took me a year to get my head round everything another year to recover and I year after that I met a wonderful man who I will be marrying next year after 7 years together. It took me a long time to trust anybody again but take it slowly, there is no rush, you have to have sometime on your own to rediscover yourself but embrace it and always hold your head up, don’t slag him off and be the better person things will improve and who needs a snake in their lives xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Mar 2018

Hmmm it's really hard and painful but dear please just let go and move on with life ok, and remember not all men are the same

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 20 Mar 2018

Sending you a big hug (((( ❤️ ))))
You say that you have been together for years so no wonder you are hurting as you have poured your all into this relationship .... Please see a counsellor as you are in shock with a bereavement process of loss ..... Be kind to yourself & get safe close family & friends to love & support you .... Have some pamper time at a spa and / or book a cheap hot holiday for some vitamin D sunshine ( look on Facebook holiday pirates for ideas )
Take care & I am so sorry , go slow in healing & don't rush into another relationship too soon , give time for healing & recovery .
Love Sarah xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Mar 2018

H.O.P.E>>> Hold On Pain Ends. I got divorce 20 years ago, and exactly 20 years on this year I am getting married. It took me years to trust and love someone again. I never thought after tearing my divorce papers and shed bucket of tears that 20 years on that I’ll be happy and marrying again. It won’t be easy , the hardest part is asking yourself “ What’s wrong with me? ( Rejection) Thinking it’s all your fault. But it is not. After all the bucket of tears you’ve cried , in the future you’ll laugh and say “ What’s that all about . You’ll find yourself stronger and find happiness too, but it will take a lot of time to heal. And it is true .. Time is Best Healer. When you go down , get back up again , and again. Cry if you must but also have FAITH. I hope you have a loving family and friends to help you get thru this , I didn’t . Just me and kids and my Faith. Take care , lovely. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Mar 2018

This is awful im so sory this has happened! All i can say is basterd doesn't deserve you if he can do that after only 5 months of marriage! It will be hard but u will get over it, good luck

Cheryll Houghton
Cheryll Houghton 23 Mar 2018

It happened to me. I met the perfect man for me and getting married next year. Trust takes time as I had my guard well and truly up. Finally happy. X

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 28 Mar 2018

I am so sorry to hear this, keep strong and stay smiling, you will come out of this the one better off xx

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