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UKbride Member Request 17 Mar 2018

So just found out that h2b has been cheating on me... What the hell do I do...

So just found out that h2b has been cheating on me... What the hell do I do now!!!!

93 Comments
Rachel Fraser
Rachel Fraser 17 Mar 2018

Don't marry him! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

leave of course.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

End it if he can do it now he will do it once your married and you are worth more than that x

Ashley Power
Ashley Power 17 Mar 2018

Call it off, pack his shit, have a big party with all your mates and get drunk as hell!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Yeah this seems an obvious answer... When is wedding? Any chance you can fall in love with a new groom by then to save wasting your time and money lol? Xx

Joanne Lay-Treen
Joanne Louise Treen 17 Mar 2018

Goodbye dik ed

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Throw his stuff out and change the locks. Scum bag.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

I know it's hard but you need to sit down and think about what you want in a man.
It's cheaper to cancel everything than get divorced xxxx

Emma Rigglesford
Emma Rigglesford 17 Mar 2018

Leave him once a cheat always a cheat!!!

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 17 Mar 2018

So sorry to hear this. I personally would not marry him and kick his ass to the kerb. But you do need to talk to him!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Cancel the wedding. Explain the situation. You’re worth more than him

Jess Frosdick
Jess Frosdick 17 Mar 2018

I’m surprised you’re even asking!! Sorry to hear this but he’s an arse and you’re best off getting rid xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Oh that's awful for you. Hope you're ok. Get rid of him. Speaking from experience, you will never trust him again and he will probably never keep it in his pants again. Best to get rid now before you're fully committed
Keep your chin up it's going to be hard for you but you'll be ok xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Fuck him off dead simple us women don't deserve to be treated like that

Gina Cooper
Gina Cooper 17 Mar 2018

good bye is he paying for wedding if so tell your family friends not to go and just get his to and don't turn up!!!!

Danielle Ryde
Danielle Ryde 17 Mar 2018

Get rid hun my ex did that to me and if not for that I wouldn't be marrying my h2b ur better off without him cancel the wedding keep reception though and have a huge party

Natalie Pike
Natalie Pike 17 Mar 2018

Strange thing to ask a forum or people you don’t know....

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

I'm so sorry but at least you've found out now before the wedding. Once a cheat always a cheat don't be won round by him and his apologies. You need your friends and family and get everything cancelled. It'll hurt like hell but you are worth so much more x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

That's terrible. Get rid of him. You deserve better x

Jane Spielvogel
Jane Spielvogel 17 Mar 2018

You will never gain the trust back. Np matter how much you love him and how much he promises it will never happen again, things will never be the same

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Cancel the wedding. Whether you leave him or not is up to you, but don't marry him, not right now. Call your venue/s suppliers and send out cards to your guest list informing them the wedding is off. Once you do that, you may want to stay away from socia media for a while, and turn your phone off. You need to talk to him, find out if there's a future for you. Not saying it'll be easy, but don't be afraid to tell him you need time and space to think things through properly. If I were you, I would end it but it's not my life or decision to make

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Get rid! You're worth more than that love. Cancel everything, try and get any money back off him if you can. Enjoy yourself with the ladies xx

Sara Waters
Sara Waters 17 Mar 2018

That’s crap. Don’t get married would be my advice. If he can cheat before no chance you will trust him after you are married. Hope you have some good family and friends to support you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

If its all paid for then have a party or try to sell it on? If its not paid for then cancel everything, and use the money to have some fun. Hope you're ok ... i can't imagine how you must be feeling xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Get rid for sure...I wasted years on a low life like this and trust me your worth so much more...Leave before he destroys your confidence

Charlie Dalby
Charlie Dalby 17 Mar 2018

Fuck him off. Bye!!!!

Gail Clint
Gail Clint 17 Mar 2018

Is thus site for real..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Once a cheat always a cheat!!! Pack his bags and don’t look back. Worth so much more than that. Cancel it all and find someone who deserves you. Xx

Jessica Peters
Jessica Peters 17 Mar 2018

Get shot, least u found out now but once a cheat always a cheat, no trust no relationship. Gutted for you X

Demi McGarry
Demi McGarry 17 Mar 2018

Sorry to hear this but agree with all the girls. Pack his things and get him out. Why put yourself through it once you are married xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

If there are no kids involved, carry on with the day as planned, then show him up at the alter, once done there, you turn your reception into a ‘better off without him party’

Lisa Cadman
Lisa Cadman 17 Mar 2018

I would just want to know why and how long. Would make a decision from there tbh

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Well, probably not advertise it on social media, asking a bunch of strangers who don't know you, your h2b or the full story such an idiotic question!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Once a cheat always a cheat x finish it now hunnie x it's hard but harder down the line x good luck x

Hayley Stevens
Hayley Stevens 17 Mar 2018

Clean the toilet with his toothbrush, spit in his tea, mix cat shit with his spag bowl, rub chillies in his underwear then pack your bags and find a new man worthy enough to call himself your h2b

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Pack his bags, kick him out n cancel the wedding! Once a cheat always a cheat. If he can do this to you now when you're planning the wedding then he doesn't deserve you. Trust has been broken for sure. You will get through this and be happier in the end. Speaking from my own experience. Good luck to you hun whatever you decide to do. Hugs x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

I found this out 6 weeks before my wedding. I still married him. Needless to say it was the most stupid thing i cpuld have done. He cheated 11 times altogether as i found out, some before and many after marriage. I should have saved myself the effort of a divorce. Be brave and kick his ass out they do not change.

Catriona Rollason
Catriona Rollason 17 Mar 2018

I’m so sorry. Take some time, stay with a friend or family. I would contact your suppliers and explain, see if they will return your deposits if you’ve pain them and cancel it.

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 17 Mar 2018

If you're cancelling the wedding let everyone you've booked know as soon as possible. If everythings paid for you should get everything back except your deposits. If it's really far away a few nice people might give you your deposits back but don't count on it too much.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Sorry this is happening tp you! If things have been paid for have a nice time with family if not cancel everything and kick his ass out xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Ask a group of random strangers of social network, obviously that’s the answer

Sarah Revill
Sarah Revill 17 Mar 2018

Kick him the f**k out !!

hannah foster
hannah foster 17 Mar 2018

I know ppl are saying don't get married and tbh for the most part I agree with that. But have you thought about why he did it? Yes it's a stupid thing to do and I'm not say8ng condone it or blame yourself at all. What I am saying is that not every cheat story is as clear cut as 'He couldn't keep it in his pants' or he's a sleaze or whatever. Did he start having cold feet about the wedding and do a stupid thing? Are things all ok in your relationship, a wedding doesn't fix cracks that are already there. There may be no going back now but once you have calmed down and not so upset maybe think of the whole picture and what might have gone wrong. I'm not saying ppl should just stay together but ppl have got through worse and 'back in the day' things could be fixed rather than thrown away so maybe a thought. Good luck whatever u decide xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Well if the wedding is already paid for, you might as well just go through with it ....

Is that a serious question??

You leave the bastard!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Ok 1 kick his arse hard. 2 pack his crap up and sling it out. 3 call venues explain its cancelled and see what can be done regarding refunds etc. 4 call venders - flowers photographer dress maker etc. Again check on any refunds. 5 send cancelled notifications to guests - personally i would give the reason why even to his family and friends.
If you had insurance on the wedding check the details also you may be able to reclaim some deposits through this. If you already have thing like dresses etc sell them. Have a huge spring clean of house to get rid of traces and have a night out with the girls

Sarah Nicholls
Sarah Nicholls 17 Mar 2018

Omg how awful. U need to do what is right for you. Take your time to have a long think.....no one replying here knows circumstances....not that I condole a cheat.
Don't make any heisty decisions but don't feel bad or embarrased either. This is not at all your fault. Feel free to inbox me if you want to have a chat with someone that doesn't know you and is totally out of the situation. Sending hugs. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Go on the honeymoon with your best friend. Get his face printed on a banner and hang it for all to see

Charlotte Mansell
Charlotte Mansell 17 Mar 2018

For people saying just carry on ... To the OP would you be able to trust him again... If he's out with his mates could you trust that's wheere he is or what he is doing - I'd personally leave that relationship as it will mentally take its toll

Charlotte Mansell
Charlotte Mansell 17 Mar 2018

For people saying just carry on ... To the OP would you be able to trust him again... If he's out with his mates could you trust that's wheere he is or what he is doing - I'd personally leave that relationship as it will.m

Samantha Sutherland-Clark
Samantha Sutherland-Clark 17 Mar 2018

I've been cheated on, ok we weren't actively planning a wedding but we had just bought a home together. If I'd tried to make things work with him, I wouldn't be who I am now neither would I have my beautiful children. Take some time, look at the situation and ask yourself if it is something you can move past as a couple and if you will be able to trust him again. If either answer is no, then have the 'better off without him' party, as you've probably already paid some deposits already so may as well out it to some use. If you can answer yes, then marry him and make it work, not everyone is perfect and sometimes people have a bumpy start x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Hold your head up high x fook him off

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Personally if this happened to me ... As I have children with my H2B I wouldn't consider working it through... I would leave with the kids in tow. If we didn't have children though I would listen to what had happened and his explanation. I could logically see both sides to the story but not if he's willingly thrown his family life with children aside for no apparent reason. But that is just ME... Go with your gut.. and best of luck x

Tanya Alexander
Tanya Alexander 17 Mar 2018

Getting rid It’s harder said that done .you loved this man and wanted to spend you life with him. Yeah cheating is horrible and the worse thing in the world. May have a children to think into it. But I think you need a serious chat with him. Was it a mistake ? Depends if you forgive him and move on. Or get rid of him. After speaking to him . Speak to your suppliers of your wedding you may get your money back. Either way all the best.

Kay Franklin
Kay Franklin 17 Mar 2018

Out of the door lovely. Xx

Teresa Burns
Teresa Burns 17 Mar 2018

Its cheaper and easier too sort things out before you get married. If cant be faithful before bevoming your husband hows he going to when your married. Vows are forever. Im so sorry his done this too you now maybe a sign his not ready to comit to marriage. Hope your ok keep strong you've done nothing wrong

Kay Franklin
Kay Franklin 17 Mar 2018

Better to have found out before the wedding, things can be very complicated once your vows are taken x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

You need to respect yourself enough to walk away, I can't imagine what it's like to go through that but put yourself first, you deserve better x

Michelle Holt
Michelle Holt 17 Mar 2018

Don’t do it bab wait a bit see what the circumstances are good luck. Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

It really saddens me to read this, this should be the biggest day of your life and what he's done is devastating, if you went ahead could you ever trust him again? I'd be packing his bags xx

Leanne Harris
Leanne Harris 17 Mar 2018

Tell him to go fuck himself.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Most cheats don’t change, mine couldn’t stop sticking his man parts wherever he shouldn’t, he’s now married to the last affair he had, well good luck to her with her life of always checking up on him, it ain’t worth it and neither is he! Trust is everything

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Cancel the wedding once a liar and a cheat always a cheat you cannot be in a relationship without trust.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

You will never, ever trust him again so cut your losses and get out now!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Show him the door!

Laura Osborne
Laura Osborne 17 Mar 2018

arse out the door! awful for you..so sorry 😦 he clearly isnt worthy to be your husband

Laura Blair
Laura Blair 17 Mar 2018

Honestly, don’t go ahead with the wedding. No matter how close it is. Whether you decide to stay or not pretending to everyone you’re fine is 100% not going to help. It is the hardest loneliest place to be because nobody knows and you’re trying to carry on as if nothing has happened. Personally I’d leave but it all depends on situation. If it was a one night thing and there’s kids etc then can understand why people stay although I couldn’t do it.

Becky Healy
Becky Healy 17 Mar 2018

One a cheat, always a cheat. Get rid of him. If he loved you he would never of cheated on you.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Ask yourself if u could ever trust him again. U can't live a life of wondering what he's up to every time he goes out, sorry he's done this to you. X

Vittoria Di Franco
Vittoria Di Franco 17 Mar 2018

Personally I couldn’t listen to a man vows with any sense of security or he means any of it if he’s a lying cheat and already shown his his behaviour a reason for a divorce

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

leave!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

Rip his bollocks right off and get rid!!! Call the wedding off. If he has cheated now then he will cheat once you are married! Dont be taken as a fool lovely. X You are worth more than that! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

To everyone bitching about her asking a bunch of strangers on social media, how do you know she doesn't have any close friends or family? Let's hope you the same never happens to you eh?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Mar 2018

You confront him & it head on! You don’t put it in social media!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Mar 2018

Cut your losses and run love. This isn’t the right person for you. He’s not going to respect you! I can appreciate how hard it is as been there and from experience I can say even if you take him back you’ll loose a little respect for yourself and wonder when he’ll do it again. Was on my own for long time but now with an amazing person who knows that although I love him I do not need him to survive xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Mar 2018

But thankful you’ve found out now! So sorry to hear this!

Zena Hill
Zena Hill 18 Mar 2018

Bye bye. Respect for yourself. He obviously doesn’t respect you. X. U deserve better .

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Mar 2018

Dump him and demand money back from things you've booked and paid for. Class a idiot

Victoria Beer
Victoria Beer 18 Mar 2018

Dump his ass

Marie Hart
Marie Hart 18 Mar 2018

Firstly I’m so sorry, it’s an awful thing to find out about your partner. I’m speaking from lots of experience sadly. Secondly be kind to yourself and give yourself time.
Thirdly and this is just me but I’d cancel the wedding regardless of whether you stay together.

I wish you lots of luck in your future and sending hugs and hope you have some lovely people supporting you at this really awful time x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Mar 2018

Hope you have wedding insurance and cancel everything.

Kate Phillips
Kate Phillips 18 Mar 2018

Throw all his stuff out the window and change the locks!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Mar 2018

People like that rarely change, and everyone deserves better than putting up with someone who’d cheat on them. For your own sake call it a day.

Celine Harland
Celine Harland 18 Mar 2018

That’s incredibly sad and you must be very sore. Take time to think, talk. Postponing the wedding is the very least you should think about. I’d get someone you trust to start speaking to suppliers etc. Good luck x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Mar 2018

Kill him or leave him... one or the other

Lesley Smith
Lesley Smith 18 Mar 2018

I would say dont do it. At the end of the day though its yoi choice. As you know he has done this do you truely trust amd believe he wont do it again. Your choice and dont feel guilty if you end it he onviously didnt when he cheated.

Leanne Young
Leanne Young 18 Mar 2018

This is a hard one. When you say you've found out he's been cheating on you, does that mean an all out affair or have you found out he's slept with someone once? Personally although both is completely wrong I think people do make mistakes. If it's the once I would sit down and talk to him, find out the situation and why he did what he did, it'll take a long long time for you to be able to trust him again, if you ever can. But if it's a full on affair then I would leave straight away, as soon as theirs "feelings" for someone else then that's the end of yours and his relationship. This is going to be one of the hardest most heartbraking decisions you are ever going to make, take some time and make the right decision for YOU!

Abbie Barker
Abbie Barker 18 Mar 2018

If no children are involved it makes things much easier. So if no kids run as fast as you can and start an new life without him. You deserve so much more than that betrayal from someone who is meant to love you.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Mar 2018

Give him his marching orders.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Mar 2018

Dump his ass he ain’t worth your time spend the wedding fund on yourself

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

Carry on as if nothing has happened then show him up at the alter and dump him. Enjoy the party afterwards and take your best mate on the honeymoon!!

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 19 Mar 2018

To those who are being rude and saying why is she asking on here, perhaps she has no-one to turn to. Maybe she doesn't want to tell anyone she knows but wants advice before she acts on it. Don't be so rude! To poster: I am so sorry to hear your news, if my bloke cheated, i would leave and he knows this (same for him). Trust is #1 in a relationship, you are making a life with this person, making vows. If you dont trust them, i am sorry, but leave. (or best kick them out, cheating idiot!)xxxx

Susie Booth
Susie Booth 19 Mar 2018

Kick his ass to the kerb x

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 21 Mar 2018

Please don't go through with this marriage. Get out whilst you can. He won't change and if you go ahead you'll be faced with legal bills up to £7k and beyond to divorce. Cut your losses and make a fresh start - he is not the person you thought he was and the trust will never be restored so don't put yourself through it.

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