Angela Tansley
Angela Tansley 11 Mar 2018

What do you do when you're mum isn't keen on the groom? I'm torn between...

What do you do when you're mum isn't keen on the groom? I'm torn between having the day we want and trying to win her round...

18 Comments
Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 11 Mar 2018

Hi my Mum loves my H2B but his Mother has decided not to come to the Wedding because she thinks I might leave him in the future and the house off him :)

Angela Tansley
Angela Tansley 11 Mar 2018

I would love to have the courage to just get on with it, but she's my mum

Emma Williams
Emma Williams 13 Mar 2018

Don't invite her. Simple

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2018

Please yourself

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2018

Don’t let your mother ruin your day! It’s your & your h2b day not her’s my mother stuck her nose in my first wedding to the point where we nearly cancelled it! Thankfully 2nd time around I no longer have contact so it’s easier

Kay Franklin
Kay Franklin 13 Mar 2018

It’s your day, if she doesn’t like it she doesn’t have to go. This is a day for you and your husband to be. X

Catriona White
Catriona White 13 Mar 2018

Sorry to be thick but if she has a problem with your H2B then how is the sort of wedding you have going to make the blindest bit of difference? You get on with planning the wedding you want but I think that's a serious side issue to address sooner rather than later. Explain how much he means to you, see how far she is willing to accept him for your sake (she doesn't have to love him she just has to accept him) and if she's stubbornly refusing to concede anything explain that will impact heavily on your relationship. But I don't see why it should impact your big day x

Jade Williams
Jade Williams 13 Mar 2018

She doesn’t have to like him but as a mother she should accept that you do and show her support on your happy day. I would give her a choice wether she comes or not x

Leanne Young
Leanne Young 13 Mar 2018

I am really close with my whole family so I can understand how hard this must be for you. Have you tried spending some time just the 3 of you maybe go out for dinner so it's a neutral setting and see if they can work through their differences. Is she worried about you or worried he isn't good enough for you?? Either way this is a really hard position for you to be in. I would explain to your mum that you really love this man and want to spend the rest of your life with him and you also want her to be part of your special day. Hopefully she is just being over protective and once you've explained she sees that the wedding is going ahead with or without her blessing. Good luck hun x

Sammi Taylor
Sammi Taylor 13 Mar 2018

If your mum isn't keen by the wedding day then I doubt she will ever be tbf. Just have the day you want it's your wedding day!! Why waste it trying to win her round when she might not even come round anyway?

Heather Perry
Heather Perry 13 Mar 2018

My other halfs arent that keen on me, but weve invited them to the wedding to keep him happy. Up to them if they dont go. Dont bother me x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2018

Have the dad you want

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 13 Mar 2018

My mother in law doesn’t agree with me and my h2b getting married but he said don’t worry about it because we’re still getting married. When we mention it she changes the subject.. we have a little girl and a baby on the way and she doesn’t agree with that either, she thinks we’re rushing things but yet we’ve been together long enough, have children, live together and love eachother to know that we want to spend the rest of our lives with eachother.. she thinks I’m gonna cheat on him because his ex did and I keep saying I’m not his ex I wouldn’t do that! So we don’t even know if she’s gonna turn up and he said not to worry but they’res no way around it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2018

It’s easier said than done, but have the day you and your htb wants. It’s your day and as long as you’re happy that’s the main thing. If you try to take everyone’s considerations into account then it won’t be the day you and your htb want. Congrats and good luck xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2018

Have the day that you want. You could try to please her but it might not work anyway

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Mar 2018

Changing your wedding for her won’t change how she feels. I spent years trying to make everyone get on well in my first marriage. Wasted energy. Trying not to make the same mistake this time

Danielle Ryde
Danielle Ryde 13 Mar 2018

I'm marrying mine regardless what my parents think u love him then marry him so don't worry about anybody else x

Laura Lindsley
Laura Lindsley 18 Mar 2018

don't try and please others this is your day no one elses! youll regret it in the future if your just trying to please someone

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