Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 7 Mar 2018

Hi lovely ladies , next week my h2b is going on his stag do . I’m totally...

Hi lovely ladies , next week my h2b is going on his stag do . I’m totally fine with this and was from the start . My fiancé hasn’t planned any of it , his best man has .I’ve recently found out whose going and some of them are not my idea of good friends . Because they are like party boys and rude about women and basically idiots . So now I’m kinda worried they are gonna lead him astray as he’s abit of an idiot when around them and not the strongest willed person . I don’t want to ruin it for him or the others by being a big downer and giving them loads of rules ( even though that’s what I want to do ) . I’m rather chilled about most things and normal stag do activities I’m okay with . What should I do ? He will be gone for a week . Do I just not say anything or do I say something and suddenly become the fun sponge I don’t know what to do help !

Jess Frosdick
Jess Frosdick 7 Mar 2018

A whole week?! Where are they going??
I’d voice your concerns to your H2B, I’m certain that as he’s marrying you he won’t behave like a fool but you will feel better for telling him your thoughts and feelings and he should respect that!xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Mar 2018

Don't ruin his fun. He loves you and is marrying you. He can't be led astray. He has to want to do anything his friends ask him to do. Most guys for a stag do just get drunk. My husband sent me messages all day on his stag do even though I didn't ask him to. Maybe your fiance will be the same.

hannah foster
hannah foster 7 Mar 2018

I'd leave him to get on with his fun. At the end of the day if he does something he shouldn't then he's giving you a glimpse into your future and you might be better off not marrying him anyway. Sorry to be blunt but it's true. If he's easily led now, being married won't change that. Xx

Christine Aldred
Christine Aldred 7 Mar 2018

Your H2B should hopefully respect you whether he is with you or his mates. His morals shouldn't slide just because he is with his mates, he is marrying you because he loves you and only you, let him have his fun, trust him. Just because his mates are idiots and disrespectful to women doesn't mean he will change just because he is in their company. Chill out for the week and enjoy your time apart, go out with your friends, let your hair down. I bet he doesn't like all of your friends, but because he loves you, he wouldn't say anything. Just trust each other, he will respect you more for it. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Mar 2018

Id just give him a kiss say have fun, don’t be a dickhead and remember you have a queen back home. Love you Bye!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Mar 2018

Leave him to it. What’s the worst that could happen really

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Mar 2018

Leave him to it.

Jennifer Leigh
Jennifer Leigh 7 Mar 2018

I personally would let your h2b enjoy his stag with his friends! You must trust him or I assume you wouldn't be getting hitched! Stags are stags and they may get up to some mischeif but its kind of part and parcel to an extent! I'm sure your husband would respect you and know you well enough not to take things too far without you having to set paramaters? Good luck! Xc

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Mar 2018

Its his stag let him enjoy it. Dont assume he will be led astray because your not keen on some of his idiot mates. Would you want him to.poke his nose into.your hen do?

Carrie Louise
Carrie Louise 8 Mar 2018

I think you need to work out some of your insecurities in him going away. You say you're fine with him going for a week, I'd be terrible if my oh went away for a week! I'd miss him and would honestly have my mood effected by it all, this would then turn into me 'creating' possible situations in my head of 'i hope this doesn't happen and what ifs'. It sounds like although you say you're fine deep down you have some initial anxiety against being seperated for so long and doing the above. I'd create a list of all the things you're worried about happening then work out possible solutions, eg: if he gets hurt - answer: give him Contacts for local doctors etc. Ask him to schedule a 5 min video or voice call a day will help to calm your worries? You're worried his friends will led him astray but honestly if he allows it to happen in a 'he cheated on me way' rather than a he was a bit silly got to drunk astray it's much better to find out his lack of dedication towards you before the marriage. Hope all goes well x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Mar 2018

Sounds like you are looking for worst case scenarios. It could be a week abroad that involves lying by the pool during the day & getting drunk at night. No big deal. How about turn the tables & try figure out how he’d react if your hens were taking you away for a week? Cuts both ways.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Mar 2018

Just let him get on with and have a good, you trust him that is the important thing. It’s you he loves and is marrying. You’re adding pressure on yourself when it’s so stressful arranging a wedding . You have a great hen too and enjoy it all. It will go in a flash xx


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