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UKbride Member Request 6 Mar 2018

I’m getting married again, I’m 25 and no children (don’t no if that...

I’m getting married again, I’m 25 and no children (don’t no if that matters) it’s my partners first wedding. This time round I’m pretty much haveing a dress made for me, the lady who is doing it has suggested that I use my old dress as a base rather than buying a new dress just to pull everything off it and have it remade. At first I thought it could be like bad dew dew but I get what the lady is saying. What do you think? Thanks in advanced

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

Personally i cudnt but everyone is different. It not cus im spoilt brat just bad memories it wud be for me

Candy Smith
Candy Smith 6 Mar 2018

Personally I would want a whole new dress. Even though you would only be using the base, there would still be a small reminder there of your 1st wedding x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

I'm thinking.. .. if it was the other way around, how comfortable would you be with your hubby to be wearing the suit he wore first time around but with a different shirt and tie. If this wouldn't be a problem for you then go for it. If the thought makes you feel slightly uncomfortable then there's your answer x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

I can see the practicality but bad energy. Couldn't do it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

I wouldn’t take the old into the new but entirely up to you and how you feel about it xx

Celine Harland
Celine Harland 6 Mar 2018

Sorry, I couldn’t walk down the aisle to my life partner wearing something so significant from my past. What does your H2B think?

Siobhan Knight-Potgieter
Siobhan Knight-Potgieter 6 Mar 2018

It depends on your feelings towards your first dress/your first marriage.

If you don’t want to use your old dress and don’t want to keep it maybe donate to one of those charities that makes gowns for sleeping babies 🤷🏼‍♀️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

Personally I wouldn’t leave the past in the past
But then again if u still have it must mean somthing so up to u I personally couldn’t

Depends how relationship was
Obviously if your husband passed away would be really nice to move on and take a bit with u
But if just a breakup

Gemma Wilson
Gemma Wilson 6 Mar 2018

I did!! I took everything off the original dress and used the corset bit with hook and eyes, zip and bones to form the base of the dress I was making myself for my second wedding.

It ended amicably with my first so I didn't see a problem using a dress I had worn and knew fit, previously.

Do whatever you want. It's your day, no one else matters. Having been there, done that once, you should know it's all about you, no one else.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

I see the practicality, but I’m too sentimental and know I wouldn’t be able to do it personally. It depends on how you would feel about it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

Nope nope nope my husband was married before and there was no way he was wearing the same kilt to marry me I let him wear it for the evening reception but there was no way he was wearing it for the actual ‘I do’

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

I wouldn't want to wear my first dress again. Wouldn't think it lucky to wear it a second time even if it was only part of the dress.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

I don’t see any real issue with it as long as your partners not fussed. I had the same band that played at my first wedding play at my second - didn’t get a discount for loyalty though ! 🤣

hannah foster
hannah foster 6 Mar 2018

I was in the exact same position. 26 second wedding (my partners first) my mum really wanted me to take my old dress to a dress maker she knew and reckoned she could make it look unrecognizable but I don't think I could go through with it. It's shoved in my dad's attic, I might just get it dry cleaned and give it to the charity that makes little angel dresses. Good luck whatever you decide xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

No i couldnt do it x

Tania todd
Tania todd 6 Mar 2018

No way was my gut instinct...but wouldnt want any reminders of my 1st wedding. Maybe you parted amicably, if you feel comfortable doing it, go for it. It's your day x

Donna Milner
Donna Milner 6 Mar 2018

I'm getting married again and still got my old dress from 32 years ago but personally I could imagine using any part of it I bought new but it's how you feel x

Donna Milner
Donna Milner 6 Mar 2018

Couldnt

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

If i was ever to get married again i would want a completely new dress. Nothing to do with bad dew dew but i would associate it with my first husband. I can understand the makers view though but not for me.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

I would want new personally x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

Noooooo!

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 6 Mar 2018

I would want a while new dress to (I’ve never been married before anyway) and my partner would want me to get a new dress to! And I certainly wouldn’t want my partner wearing the suit he wore for his last wedding. Each to their own I suppose x

Amy Bickmore
Amy Bickmore 6 Mar 2018

What on earth is dew dew??

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 6 Mar 2018

I wouldn't be happy if the groom was wearing the suit from his first wedding so I wouldn't wear the dress even just a part of it. And I am getting married for the 2nd time and it's also my partners first.
However, if you both happy about it then that's all that matters x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

Am I the only person that doesn’t see the problem with this? It saves money, if you’re fully secure in your relationship (which you should be if you’re getting married) I don’t see why your H2B would care where the material for your dress comes from,I certainly wouldn’t if it was the other way around and it’s 2018 do people really still have these crazy superstitions? The dress isn’t cursed, it won’t effect your wedding or your marriage. Do it!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

It would be your 'something old'

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

This is exactly what I wanted to do. Getting married again in September. People I told were funny about it saying it would be bad luck so I looked for another dress. I still think it’s the best idea though if you’re comfortable with it.

Marie Richardson
Marie Richardson 6 Mar 2018

It seriously wouldn't bother me in the slightest it's a dress, there is no hidden magic or curse to It, I think it's a great way of saving money and go for it. At the end of the day it's not about the dress it's about you and your H2B committing yourselves to each other I'd get married in a bin bag as long as it meant I got to marry the love of my life x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

I wouldn't. If I were you I would ask my h2b and see what he thinks, if you are both okay and have no issues with it then go for it. Xx

Tammy Smith
Tammy Smith 6 Mar 2018

I'm getti g married this June 2nd marriage and h2b 1st wedding... I personally would use anything from my last marriage.. . Regardless of cost xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

Not something I would do!

Samantha James
Samantha James 6 Mar 2018

Alternative option could be a charity shop number. You can get dresses for £10 and if you buy big, there will be loads of material to cut down to size. Either way rock the look x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

If I was a man marrying a woman who was getting married in a dress she was married in before I would hate it you have split up,from that person now so that is in the past so your 1st wedding should be in the past too why start a new future with a past you no longer live in

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

No no no

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Mar 2018

I don't see a problem.. . If u are happy to 're use it why not...

Stacey Harrison
Stacey Harrison 7 Mar 2018

I wouldn't but it ur choice xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Mar 2018

Take it to bits and look at the material .... that’s all it is material

Sarah Sharpe
Sarah Sharpe 7 Mar 2018

Personally I think if you are asking you aren't that comfortable with it. I've just got married for the 2nd time and had the same dilemma and because I thought of it as a dilemma I didn't do it. Instead I sold the first one and put the money to a new one x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Mar 2018

It’s a no from me. I wouldn’t be happy if my h2b wore something from his first wedding! X

Jennifer Leigh
Jennifer Leigh 7 Mar 2018

As long as you feel comfortable reusing it why not! Would probably save you money that you could then use for something else? Or sell the old dress if that made you feel better, that would still get you some extra pennies for your big day!

Lauren Hayes
Lauren Hayes 9 Mar 2018

I agree with the other comments about old memories but again it’s all up to you and comfortable you and your new partner feels about it and what your budget it. If you can afford a completely new dress then why not treat yourself for the special occasion xx

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