Charlotte Massey
Charlotte Massey 25 Feb 2018

How would u tell your bridesmaids that’s there wearing the colour of your...

How would u tell your bridesmaids that’s there wearing the colour of your choice even if they don’t like it

48 Comments
Tracey McIlree
Tracey McIlree 25 Feb 2018

To be fair as much as I don't like being rude. I would and have told my bridesmaids that if they don't want to wear what I have picked then they won't be a bridesmaid. I understand and don't mind if someone was big busted and prefers straps but I won't be dictated to and it's an honour to be asked xx

Kelly Garrett
Kelly Garrett 25 Feb 2018

I was a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding, I am not a fan of red but her colour choice was “red wine”! I wore it anyway as it was her day and I love her......But now it’s MY turn 😁

Sara Hughes
Sara Hughes 25 Feb 2018

My sister let us choose the colour of the dress so I did the same but it's your wedding if that's what you want to do then it's your choice xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

I don't think you should have to worry if you've picked the right bridesmaids. Mine got to pick their own dresses but I told them what colour they had to be. I didn't have to be firm about it, they just happily accepted it.

Charlotte Mansell
Charlotte Mansell 25 Feb 2018

I've already had people who I haven't asked to be bridesmaids saying "I hope you won't have pink because I won't wear it" 3 people have said that to me :/

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

Your wedding, your colour scheme, your choice. I think 95% of women understand that it's not their place to say they don't like the colour when they've had the honour of being asked to be a bridesmaid, those who don't realise this and kick up a fuss don't deserve to be a bridesmaid!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

It's your wedding and your choice I've told mine if they don't like it they don't have to be a bridesmaid either like it or lump it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

My colour scheme is my choice.
My bms have no choice in the colour but do have some say in the style

Anya Williams
Anya Williams 25 Feb 2018

I think a role of a bridesmaid is to wear the wedding colour choice. It's just one of them things.

I would expect it as a bridesmaid. And expect my bridesmaids to choose what colour I picked x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

Erm because it's your wedding not theirs

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

"You are wearing the colour of my choice even if you dont like it"

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

I don’t think Bridesmaids expect a choice do they??

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

Why would anyone question is if it's your colour scheme? Mine wore ivory and I let them choose the style x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

How about,I'm the bride,it's my wedding and if you don't like it/refuse to wear it then don't be in my wedding?

Did these women not realise that accepting the position means that they don't have control over what they wear 100%?It's one thing if they were requesting style (such as straps due to a large chest or not wanting to wear a short short dress) but to complain about the COLOUR is bang out of order. Give them the option of wearing what you've picked or wearing what they like but not being a bridesmaid

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

It’s your wedding!! Don’t like it then don’t come! Simple lol

Marie Richardson
Marie Richardson 25 Feb 2018

I wouldn't even dream of mentioning to a bride I didn't like the colour if I was a bridesmaid as at the end of the day it's not my wedding it's theirs. My girls all know my colour choice and noones mentioned they don't like it and to be honest my response would be tough luck anyway lol just be honest.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

Just say that _____ is your colour scheme. BMs wear what the bride picks, that's part of the role.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

I was my sister in laws bridesmaid. She chose purple and yellow. I can't stand either colour. Especially purple for weddings!!!.. But i didnt even mention this to her and I wore it proud.

If they even mention they dislike the colour just ignore it. If they actually ask not to wear it then say of course but you can't be my bridesmaid I am afraid as I would like my colour theme untainted so its this or nothing.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

I would like to think that as your bridesmaid I would realise it wasn’t about me and I’d wear what ever colour the bride chose. I’ve only ever been a bridesmaid once. I fell in love the the teal dress my friend picked out for me, then she told me the actual dress would be in red, not my colour in the slightest. She knew I preferred the teal one and talked about it with me but I told her to go with her choice obviously as as a bridesmaid I was there to complement her.

Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 25 Feb 2018

As long as you don’t need to be friends with any of these women after the wedding, stating ‘I am the Bride! You will OBEY!!!’ seems like an entirely rational, reasonable and mature approach 🙄

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

I'm giving my bridesmaids the choice of style not the colour... it's your wedding. I wouldn't dream of saying to a bride that I didn't like the colour... it's a dress they have to wear for 1 day.. deal with it or step down

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Feb 2018

As long as they don’t look bad in that colour then you should choose.my youngest has red (ginger)hair and pale colours look horrible on her.

Loralie Davies
Loralie Davies 25 Feb 2018

Just say what goes around comes around! It might not be their favourite colour but you hope they know you would/will do the same for them if/when the time comes,it could be a wedding,an anniversary,a child's birthday,you will be there for them no matter what and you hope they will do the same for you xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

I am a bridesmaid in January and I am so honoured to be asked that I would wear a tutu if she wanted me to. At the end of the day it is my best friends wedding so I will do what ever she wants. It's not my day it's their day. Just be honoured to be part of it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

Have they actually said they don't want to wear your colour choice? I can't believe it's like this nowadays. It used to be all about being honoured to be picked as a bridesmaid. The wedding colours are just that, and they are extremely lucky to be playing a huge part in your special day. If they are that self absorbed and so self conscious of what THEY will look like on YOUR day, I would say dump them as a bridesmaid and a friend. Swap them for someone that will appreciate what they have been asked to do.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

Eek. It’s my daughter’s wedding. We are all going together and basing any colour choice on colours in bouquet. Photographer says it looks good if you get a kind of ombré effect in the dresses if different shades of same colour or if same dress in different colours. Having seen photos I agree and just want everyone to enjoy the day. https://goo.gl/images/7ytS7Q

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

Like it or lump it love, it's my wedding

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

It's your day... if u have a colour scheme so be it... anytime I've been a BM I wouldn't of dreamed of going against the B ideas. They should just be honoured to be asked.. if they complain get new BM's.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

Your day, your colour. I told my MOH the colour and let her pick her own dress. The bridesmaids wore a dress of my choice for the day and the dress of their choice for the evening ( both young girls so all 4 dresses came to about £60 so not a big deal)

JoJo Russell
JoJo Russell 26 Feb 2018

This is the colour you are wearing for my wedding!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

Just choose the dresses and say "this is what I'm planning on getting for you" and don't bother with being rude...there's no need to say they're wearing what you want whether they like it or not unless someone says something.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

Is it that they personally wouldn't have picked that colour or do they actually look awful in it?
You'll want to look back at your photos and think you and your bridesmaids look amazing together so making sure it suits them is important I think. I have my sister and my sister in law as bridesmaids. They're both different shapes, heights and skin tones but I'm considering that in the scope of dress colours I consider but if it comes down to it just being "not what I would of chosen" then that's when I would draw the line and say tough because that's what I like you in best.
Find a balance, you don't want a sulky bridesmaid feeling uncomfortable and fidgeting all day because she's miserable, it will make you feel bad all day

Samantha Cooper
Samantha Cooper 26 Feb 2018

I would say "right Susan the colour theme is mustard yellow. Here's your dress" just like that 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

Just like your statement. Be direct x

Sammi Taylor
Sammi Taylor 26 Feb 2018

Tbf, they should already know... It's part of the parcel of being a bridesmaid... It's your wedding and you choose the colour scheme...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

"Wear this or do one"

Lisa Booth
Lisa Booth 26 Feb 2018

I would never put my bridesmaids in a colour/ style that they would feel uncomfortable in. I want them to enjoy the day as much as you. Personally their opinion means much more than having my favourite colour in my wedding theme.

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 26 Feb 2018

I respect their opinion, but at the end of the day, if mine even mention the colour i would be disappointed, okay if they dont like the style, as can be changed but i have a colour theme, and how the colour would affect them, i have no idea....

Tanya Alexander
Tanya Alexander 26 Feb 2018

It’s tuff at the end of the day. It’s your day , your choice. My attitude if the don’t like it don’t be a bridesmaids. I have 6 bridesmaids. Different shapes heights styles the lot. They are all not going to agree on the same dress . So they don’t have a choice.

Tracey McIlree
Tracey McIlree 26 Feb 2018

I actually had the same thing Charlotte mansell x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

‘You’re wearing this colour’

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Feb 2018

I was like “this is my colour scheme and this is the colour dress your wearing” to be honest if they care they should trust you obviously your not going to pick something hideous are you and if they don’t like it then they shouldn’t be wearing the dress and should maybe back out x

Claire Newstead
Claire Newstead 26 Feb 2018

Tell them to f**k off if they don't like the colour choice. It's your day, not theirs and if it bothers them that much then you can do without. I abhore pink. Seriously despise pink. But I wore it on my sisters day because she wanted me to.

Rachel Higgins
Rachel Higgins 27 Feb 2018

Alice Peters

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Mar 2018

It's your wedding not there's if they don't like it don't have them they are there for your day not you there for theres

Emily Newberry
Emily Newberry 4 Mar 2018

I am having the Same trouble... I am having a winter wonderland theme but one of my bridesmaids are staying they don't like the colours but I don't know how to tell her that that is what she wearing x

Eliza Munnelly
Eliza Munnelly 5 Mar 2018

@Tanya Alexander have you considered "mix and match" if all your bridesmaids are that different? Have them all in the same colour, length and silhouette but different necklines/straps? The photos will look not that different to if they're in the same dress but if your girls are in a style that suits them they'll be more comfortable in the dress and may lead to better photos etc x

Kim Reid
Kim Reid 6 Mar 2018

If they are true friends they would wear bin bags for you just tell them

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