My partner and I are slightly older with grown up families. I no longer have...

We are doing flowers for those that have helped, whether that is financially or with making items as a thank you. Both me and my partner having split parents this means that not all of the women will have flowers because they haven’t helped. Hope this helps but essentially it’s your wedding so you should both do what makes you happy c

We’re not doing flowers either. Only gifts for those that actually helped. So moreorless me & h2b. Lol 😂 x

You could get her a small posey to thank her for raising the man of your dreams.. Just so she can't say you left her out, but i wouldn't go overboard.

My h2b's side hasn't bothered with our wedding either. We're getting her a small flower box but we're getting my side a few extra gifts. Totally upto you though it's your wedding. I bought her the flower box so it doesn't cause friction in the future xx

Well if you’ve got time to swing by a petrol station on your way then sure but I wouldn’t make a special effort for someone who’s not bothered. It doesn’t matter what your age is, weddings are stressful and you need help, they should recognise that.

No, if she hasnt helped; no flowers! Flowers are a thank you for supporting whether financially or otherwise. We are giving both our mums flowers because both have helped ...but if they hadn't done anything then we wouldnt.

No no no & no

We aren't doing flowers or gifts for any one just to save a few pennies.

I always thought that gifts for parents at the wedding are not because they were helping you organise the wedding but because they raised your husband to be the man he is today...
Saying that they never mention it and don't offer to help, well have you actually asked for their input?
Seems like whatever people do is never right and you can either be upset because nobody is interested or they are too interested and start to take over...

I agree with Sharon and Paulina. We are in a similar position to you in as much as both Fathers have long passed, my Mother is in a care home and too far gone to even be told about the wedding and the only one to be there will be my future MIL. We would normally have given her flowers for being the groom's Mom (but she is having to fly over and returning straight after the wedding so that isn't appropriate).

You're supposed to give flowers to the MILs now? =_= these wedding rituals are getting out of hand! Consider giving them a slightly fancier wedding favour (like a single flower ribbon-tied to the favour) if it makes you feel better?

I'm doing gifts for people who have helped or are likely to help on the day xx

My mother in law to be Is the same! Changes the subject every time we mention it so m in the same boat as you!! It’s a horrible feeling isn’t it because I really want her involved x