Victoria Lavery
Victoria Lavery 18 Feb 2018

Ok ladies I would like to know what you are doing the night before your big...

Ok ladies I would like to know what you are doing the night before your big day. Where are u staying. I want to stay at home with my h2b and our daughter. Partly so I can make sure he goes to bed on time and has a good night sleep but also because I want to spend time with them before a big hectic day the next day. Anyone I say this to say no that's not tradition I've to say at my dad's or hotel. What do you think?

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 18 Feb 2018

Hi I want my Fiance to stay at our home to but he wants to be traditional and will be staying at a friend's house :)

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 18 Feb 2018

My Fiance will be staying at our home as he wants a good night's sleep but he will leave in the morning to go to his best man's place. He will not see the dress or anything prior to me arriving at the other end of the aisle.

Chloe Mitchell
Chloe Mitchell 18 Feb 2018

I'm staying at the hotel with my bridesmaids and my mum the night before.

Kelly McKee
Kelly McKee 20 Feb 2018

I will be at home with a house full of people! H2b is staying at his bestmans. I will have my 2 girls, mum, sister, bro-in-law and 2 nephews!

Vanda Kaminski
Vanda Kaminski 20 Feb 2018

Both my fiance and I are staying at the hotel the night before in seperate rooms. I'm taking my bridal party and the mums for dinner and he's taking his groomsmen and the dads.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Hotel or friend/parents

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Staying at my mum and dad’s with my moh

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

My husband stayed at home with his brother who came to stay with him. He had our boys and I took the girls with me we spent the night at a hotel. Our boys joined us 2 hours before the wedding. Do what you want. Everyone is different. Hope you have a lovely day :)

Andrea Lawlor
Andrea Lawlor 20 Feb 2018

I'm staying at my parents house with my bridesmaids and my H2B is staying at a hotel next to our venue

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Do what you wanna do, most things aren’t tradition anymore, you already live together and have a child, still very happy so do what suits you! I am staying at our venue the night before with my mom and my 2 youngest who will be page boy and flower girl, my eldest will stay with my partner as he is an usher so needs to be there with him on the day, but we are doing it this way because we will have so much to do on the day, I need to get my dress to the venue, meet my hair dresser and mua, take other bits and bobs, so easier to get up early at the venue than at home to get to the venue.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Sod tradition and do what you want. We are both staying at our venue the night before because it's an hour's drive from home, the only reason we have separate rooms is so we both have a room to get ready in the morning of the wedding, if it wasn't for those sorts of logistics we would also be staying together the night before.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Can you not compromise, stay at home together but one of you leave in the morning to get ready else where? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

You're his fiancé, not his mother. Plus, that's what the Best Man is for. My husband stayed at our house with his Best Man and Groomsman while I stayed at my folks. However, whether he gets 4 or 8 hours sleep the adrenaline on the day will keep him going and you'll have too much going on to worry about what time your fiancé got to bed.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

It's your day, do what you want. Traditionally, you wouldn't have seen your groom before the wedding, but traditionally, your first time of seeing him would have been at the actual ceremony so you can safely ignore that. Lots of people are not doing that tradition anymore

Shelley Rayworth
Shelley Rayworth 20 Feb 2018

I'm staying at the venue with my children an h2b is staying at home x

Emily Catling
Emily Catling 20 Feb 2018

What does it matter if it’s not traditional? If you want to do it then do it. It’s your day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I'm staying in a local hotel, but only because a) our flat is a little small b) the other half will be getting ready at ours and c) my MIL has already told me there will be no room at theirs.

Amanda Winsper
Amanda Winsper 20 Feb 2018

I will be staying in our venue the night before with my family and hubby 2be will be staying in a hotel with his bestmen .... he doesn’t want to see me the night before the wedding .... you do what’s right for you xx

Sonia Overfield
Sonia Overfield 20 Feb 2018

I’m staying at home and hb2b is going back to his parents the night before the wedding the. Coming back to our friends to get ready while me and all my bridesmaids go to my parents to house to get ready

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

We've been together 10 years & have 2 kids.... we know what we're getting into & we're not superstitious! So we'll be waking up together at the venue then will get ready separately. Go with what works for you. Ignore what you "should" do & just do what you WANT to do.

Kattrina Loizou
Kattrina Loizou 20 Feb 2018

We are all staying together at a hotel and even sharing a car to the wedding

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

We're both staying at the venue the night before most likely together in the same room. All our families will be there too so we'll have breakfast together and then I'll go and get ready separately so he doesn't see the dress

Emma Banks
Emma Banks 20 Feb 2018

My fiancé will be staying at home with the boys staying at ours and I’m staying at the hotel we are marrying in the night before

Ainslie Greer
Ainslie Greer 20 Feb 2018

I’m staying at a hotel with the bridesmaids and he’s staying at his mums with his best men. It’s totally up to you guys on what you do!

Amy Southwell
Amy Southwell 20 Feb 2018

I’m staying at home with my H2B x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I am staying at our venue the night before with my bridesmaids and daughter having a girly night and then we can all get ready together the next day, my partner is staying home with my boys and getting ready there xx

Lynsey Britton
Lynsey Britton 20 Feb 2018

Oh staying at best man's house I'm having most of my bridesmaids sleeping over at mine with my boys and having a pj party

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I'm staying at my Mummys. But mainly because I want to relax on the morning of the wedding. If I stay at my own house I'll be stressing about getting everyone else ready first, and then rushing myself. I don't want to be stressed on that morning..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

My husband stayed at our house on his own, he went out for dinner with his best man before then had a night to himself, I stayed at my parents house with my parents and a couple of my bridesmaids. We had our church rehearsal the evening before so we had that then we went out separate ways, I actually loved saying goodbye to him and knowing the next time I’ll see him was at the alter xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I stayed at a lovely spa hotel near my venue with my family. My hubby came up for a swim and stayed for dinner with everyone, then he slept at home by himself x

Gemma Bosher
Gemma Bosher 20 Feb 2018

My fiancé will be staying at home and I’ll be at my parents the night before

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

We are both staying at the venue the night before but in separate rooms. I’m also having the kids in my room and then he’s having them while I get ready x

Beck Walker
Beck Walker 20 Feb 2018

I'm staying home with the kids and my h2b is staying at his Mums. I'm having a Chinese and a few drinks with my bridesmaids and some of my family. I'm determined to have a stress free night.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Do what you want

Nikki Rowley
Nikki Rowley 20 Feb 2018

Myself and h2b will be at home together but then we aren't doing a lot traditional, I don't think it really matters these days just do whatever you both want to xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Do whatever you want hun. Personally I don't know what I will do but I know that I would prefer to spend the night in out own home with him and then him leave early so we can get ready and travel separately x x

Donna Carter
Donna Carter 20 Feb 2018

Do what you want to Do, you don't have to stick with tradition, it's your day, do what ever makes you happy and if others disagree that's their problem.

Heather Perry
Heather Perry 20 Feb 2018

Im staying at the hotel where we are getting married, and hes staying at home

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

It’s your day... We both stayed at the venue the night before had a dinner with the family and then goodnight kiss on the bedroom door and didn’t see him again until he was at the end of my walk!

Rebecca Sullivan
Rebecca Sullivan 20 Feb 2018

In staying at our venue with h2b and our daughters. H2b and I are also staying at the venue the night after. Our daughters will stay with family for the night

Marie Richardson
Marie Richardson 20 Feb 2018

Im staying at the hotel where we will be married with my MOH but this is mainly to keep the costs down and not worry about transport the morning of the wedding. My H2B will be staying in our house and will be heading to the hotel with my brother and father (as they live next door). My daughter will be staying with my sis and her and my other bridesmaids will all head to the hotel together to get ready. We have the 8 rooms in the hotel as part of our package so will all have our own space to get ready etc. If you want to wake up together do it but i do think it would be less stressful not to be together as youve already said your wanting to make sure HE has enough sleep etc, what about you??

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I'm with my other half the night before, we're getting married at 4pm so I'm leaving him at 10am to go to my parents xx

Natalie Toseland
Natalie Toseland 20 Feb 2018

I stayed at home with h2b and our son so we could all have a good night's sleep. He went to his mum and dad's the next morning with our son and I went to our venue to get ready in the bridal suite. He didn't see my dress or me getting ready. Do whatever you feel is best for you. You don't always have to follow old tradition. 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I think it's important that you do you on YOUR big day. Screw tradition If it's not what you want to do. My fiancé and I will be walking down the isle together to the alter which isn't tradition but it's the way we want it to make us happy xx

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 20 Feb 2018

As you already have a child & live together i don't think it matters.. Traditions dont have to be followed, it is up to you, at end of the day you do whats right for your family, & nothing to do with any1 else...
My mum & dad went from my Nan's where they were living at the time & just had their 48th wedding anniversary.... My h2b is going a hotel because he wants the space to get ready, without me 3bridesmaids & 2flower girls & mother inlaw & 2 step sons getting under his feet... Best wishes for wedding & happy future..

Laura Hall
Laura Hall 20 Feb 2018

Not sure yet but I might have night before at hotel we are getting married at with my MOH h2b gets to stay home with the 1 and 4 year old! Then brings to me in the morning.
Or I will go to mums with the girls then to hotel for wedding.

Bethany Hardcastle
Bethany Hardcastle 20 Feb 2018

I'm staying at home with my h2b and and our kids he's leaving in the morning with kids so I can get ready and everything do it how you want no body else x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

We've been together 11 years so we are staying together night before then in the morning I'm going my mum's to get ready. Sod tradition do what you want to do xx

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 20 Feb 2018

As my venue is down the motorway, i don't want to risk it in morning and going to stay in a local hotel hopefully with my mother

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I stayed at our home with my bridesmaids (went out for food and drinks) and husband stayed at his mams. We both went to bed late, both excited and couldn't sleep much but the day still turned out amazing and I say yes to keeping it traditional
It's your day though so do what you want but also make sure your husbands doing what he wants!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I'd be happy to spend it with my fw and our kids but she wants to be at her parents with our boys and for me and our daughter to be at a hotel with my parents xx

Sarah Nicholls
Sarah Nicholls 20 Feb 2018

It's your choice 😊 im staying at the hotel with my mom and braidsmaids but mainly so I can get up and all have breakfast cooked for us and were all in one place to start getting ready. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

It's your wedding so you do as you want. Just because you spend that night apart is not gonna bring any bad luck ect. Start new traditions xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Ha I spent the night in a hotel room with my fiancé as we went down to our location the day before our guests then the next day he went off the best mans room , it is what’s right for you xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I stayed home with my Fiance & kids, went to the venue at 8am in the morning to get ready & got married at 12.30. My husband got ready at home, with his best man so didn't see my dress until the ceremony

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

We have friends staying ours with us the night before and then in the morning our friends and my h2b will be going to his sister's to get ready. Meanwhile my sisters are coming to mine to get ready with me. You don't have to stick to tradition. Some traditions are just silly and unimportant. You have a child and therefore would want to stay with your family. Don't listen to what others say. Do what you want to do.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I stayed at home with my husband,he was out the night before and i had to be up quite early so he didnt see me that day until i walked down the aisle,we had alot of people saying it wasnt right but we never actually saw eachother so i didnt see the point.x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Well I got married abroad and we stayed together the night before and I went off to where my mum was staying to get changed which is where my dress was. It was what we wanted to do so we did it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I'm staying at home with my children and my groom will be at his parent's it's practical and what we want

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

We are staying at home together the night before, we have a 4 year old and 7 month old (will be 1 when we get married) id rather keep a routine and know they will sleep comfortly. H2b is leaving to go to his parents in the morning before hair and make up come.

Zena Hill
Zena Hill 20 Feb 2018

Staying at the hotel with h2b. Will sleep better that way. Then he’ll get ready in best mans room & bridesmaids arrive. Good luck x

Demi McGarry
Demi McGarry 20 Feb 2018

I'm staying at the venue with my maid of honour and my partner is staying at the venue with his best man. Separate rooms x

Josie Long
Josie Long 20 Feb 2018

Staying venue night before with my sis and kids. We are going to do spa in day then lovely meal. All going to get ready together then in morning 😁 xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Me and the husband stayed together at home with our baby girl. We chilled and watched some films. Went to bed together. Woke up in the morning. He got ready in the living room and me in the bedroom with my friend. And he left leaving with a kiss and I met him at the wedding.

Liberty Gibbons
Liberty Gibbons 20 Feb 2018

Me and H2B are getting married in New York and are staying together the night before, as we don't believe in traditions, although once we wake up in getting ready in our room with my MOH and he's getting ready in his parents room. :) X

Lynsey Mc connell
Lynsey Mc connell 20 Feb 2018

I am staying at my mums and partner staying with his mum but you can do it anyway you want xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

My h2b and I are staying at our venue. We've booked the honeymoon suite for the night before and we are going to order room service, just chill and take in everything that is happening and is about to happen.

Danika O'Connor
Danika O'Connor 20 Feb 2018

We’re staying at our venue but in the same room chilling out. I don’t really understand why people stay in different locations anymore, it’s a tradition based on the bride and groom not knowing each other. I’ve lived with my fiancé for 7 years 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tracey Law
Tracey Law 20 Feb 2018

I am staying T our home and my partner staying at his parents

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

we stayed at home the night before. I was to finishing off all the flowers and hubby was loading them into the van. we then went the following morning to the hairdressers and the venue. I got ready upstairs in the cottage with the bridesmaids and he and the best men got ready downstairs. we didn't see each other in our wedding outfits until I arrived at the venue. just do whatever you are happy with. xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I’m having my bridesmaid over watch a film have some fizz etc...my boys are going with my OH to his sisters down the road! It’s meant to be bad luck to see your OH the night before but I suppose it depends on how suspicious you are

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

H2B is staying at the venue with his family and me, my daughter and MOH are staying at my house. X

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UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

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UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

We are staying at our flat as we have lived together for years and think its a silly tradition if you already live together.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

We are staying together do what you want it’s your day after all start your own tradition x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

We are hiring a cottage for the whole weekend of our wedding and will be spending the night before together! Sod tradition do it your way! I am so excited to wake up next to my wife to be the morning of our wedding xxxx

Kirst Wills
Kirst Wills 20 Feb 2018

We are spending the night before together and going out for breakfast together on the morning of the wedding. We are also having a sweetheart table rather than a top table so that we can spend as much time as possible together on the most important day of our lives x

Anya Williams
Anya Williams 20 Feb 2018

We are all staying at the venue. Myself and h2b have separate rooms (moh with me and best man & our son with him) our close friends and family are also staying too. So food and drinks on the night! Can't wait x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I think it’s 2018 and your big day so do what feels right to you. Have a lovely day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I stayed at my parents and my husband at the venue of our reception xx

Gemma Julianne
Gemma Julianne 20 Feb 2018

BBQ at the venue with our friends and family.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

It’s your day, do want you want.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I will be staying hopefully in the venue where I be getting married next day my partner will stay at home or with his brother

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Feb 2018

Was going to stay at the venue but I think I’m going to stay at home and just leave early head to venue where we will be getting ready
Make sure my two kids are ok

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Feb 2018

I got married abroad - I stayed in the hotel where the wedding was taking place with my bridesmaid and my h2b stayed at the hotel we’d been staying in the rest of the week with the best man and friends. It was just easier for me to stay at the venue with the dresses etc ready for the big day.

Lisa Davey
Lisa Davey 21 Feb 2018

We are getting married in Cornwall, and staying there for a week, so I will be staying with my h2b and family the night before then we will be getting ready together, and travelling to the venue together. Who cares what people say do whats right for you! Sod tradition, plus you already have a family together so I think it's nice to start your big day as a family, together.

Kirsty Babington
Kirsty Babington 21 Feb 2018

We are staying together the night before and I will be getting ready at the venue the next morning as we are getting married at a hotel

Kirsty Howieson
Kirsty Howieson 21 Feb 2018

I’m staying at the hotel. But it’s your day you decide what you want to do. Tradition doesn’t always have to be what you do

Tanya Alexander
Tanya Alexander 21 Feb 2018

I would want my h2b to stay at home. But I no he will stay at the hotel. But I’m Going be at home with the kids and they get ready with them. As I don’t want any bridesmaids or anyone getting ready with me bar my mum.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Feb 2018

Do whatever you want hun, I think it's a lovely idea and definitely one that's crossed my mind about our big day. Enjoy the calm before the (wonderful and hectic) storm together as a family. Screw "tradition", it'll be your little tradition :-)

Eliza Munnelly
Eliza Munnelly 22 Feb 2018

H2B and I are staying in a hotel near our venue the night before. Waking up together. He is then staying in the room to get ready with his crew whilst I'm at the venue with mine.

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