Lynsey Mc connell
Lynsey Mc connell 13 Feb 2018

My mum is giving me away as she is the one that has always been there but...

My mum is giving me away as she is the one that has always been there but what do I do about father daughter dance I want to do the dance with my step dad as he has always been there for me but I don’t want any tension from my real dad what should I do?

16 Comments
Kelly Tomkins
Kelly Tomkins 13 Feb 2018

Have a father daughter dance with both?

Demi McGarry
Demi McGarry 13 Feb 2018

Just as kelly said. But Say to your dad about the dance and that yoy want to dance with your step dad also x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Feb 2018

I'd go for a dance with both

Aimee Scallan
Aimee Scallan 16 Feb 2018

dance with both

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Feb 2018

Can't you dance with your real.dad?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Feb 2018

We didn't arrange a father daughter dance, bit too American for me. However after my first dance with my new husband my dad stepped up to me and we ended up dancing together. It was unexpected and so special, because it was natural rather than planned. We had said we would have a dance, we usually do. I would just say to both of them that at some point in the evening you want to share a dance with them both x

Holly Marshall-Clarke
Holly Marshall-Clarke 16 Feb 2018

Playing devil's advocate, a bit, it sounds like you don't have much of a relationship with your real dad - don't lose sight of this being your day; your choices. Maybe do the dance with your step dad, with whom you seem to have the relationship, and find another way to incorporate your dad into the day? A reading, a speech, ring bearer... Etc. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Feb 2018

I had my step dad give me away and my real dad had the father daughter dance .. i included them both and they both had a moment in the spotlight ... i also let my dad and step dad have their own photos with me x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Feb 2018

You don't need to have one. This is more of an American thing that is creeping into weddings here. I have been to more weddings than I can count and never seen one done.

.Melanie Brice
.Melanie Brice 16 Feb 2018

I'm having my son walk me and do a dance he's only 12 but he is more than cabible of stepping in. And my step mam is walking me with him x
F your dad's going to be at the wedding then it's a tricky one but of not well your step father can x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Feb 2018

I don’t actually recall any bride and father dances at weddings I’ve been to so unless your heart is set on having one I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
My eldest son (he’ll be 12 at the time) is giving me away as I didn’t want to chose between my dad and step dad and I’m not having a dance with either of them.
The only important dance that will be happening that night will be mine and my new husbands ️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Feb 2018

I'd suggest dance with both? Your call though, it's your wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Feb 2018

Didn’t have one; believe it’s more of an American tradition.
If you want to have one have it with the person you consider more your dad. If that’s your step dad do be it. Your wedding, your way

Victoria Bradley
Victoria Bradley 16 Feb 2018

I have found a song for me and mum to dance to .. she's giving me away too x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Feb 2018

I had the same problem but my Mum wanted to do a Mother Daughter dance instead and actually my StepDad loved it to see how happy she was. She picked Every Mothers Dream by Martina McBride. All the other mothers and daughters and my sister/step sister all joined in later it was a lovely moment. Hope this helps

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

I didn't even realise a father daughter dance was still something people did? I haven't planned for one! If you're worried it'll cause tension, maybe don't have one?

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