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UKbride Member Request 11 Feb 2018

I'm bisexual and a same-sex bride-to-be. How have other LGBT's found...

I'm bisexual and a same-sex bride-to-be. How have other LGBT's found business providers treat them? I'm also nervous about viewing venues with dozens of straight couples, am I being silly?

31 Comments
Demi McGarry
Demi McGarry 11 Feb 2018

Why should you be treated may differently to straight couples. Your getting married like the rest of us. Don't be nervous xx hope you find your perfect venue

Hannah Sydney
Hannah Sydney 11 Feb 2018

Completely agree with Demi. Love is love....have you have a wonderful time planning x

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 11 Feb 2018

If people at the venues treat you differently then that is not the venue for you. Stand proud and don't apologise for who you are.

E Wilson
E Wilson 11 Feb 2018

If they treat you in a bad way then that isn't the place for you at all. I think you will be surprised how this is a non issue now.

Gill Spedding
Gill Figliolini 12 Feb 2018

No congratulations and you have a right to be soo happy . My son is gay and hopes to get married one day i will be there with a huge smile on my face . I think its fantastic x

Cara Johnson
Cara Johnson 12 Feb 2018

Congratulations to you! No need to be nervous about finding your perfect venue, as you deserve to be happiness just like everyone - no matter what sexuality they are. That would be fantastic!

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 13 Feb 2018

I've been to a few wedding fares and at everyone one of them there was at least one same-sex couples looking around and no-one made an issue of it.
Have fun planning x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

We're not a same sex couple but I certainly wouldn't be bothered in the slightest to have a same sex couple look at the same venue at the same time everyone is entitled to get married no matter the sexual orientation, enjoy the experience and if someone dosnt treat you right take your well earned cash else where

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I've worked in hospitality for years and no one bats an eyelid at same sex couples viewing a venue, in my experience.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Dawn Ballard-White, any advice?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Im in a same sex couple and we have just booked our wedding! Everyone has been very accommodating! And made everything around 2 brides good luck on your big day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

It's become so common now that I don't think any venues or suppliers will be surprised. I really hope they're not anyway :) I guess perhaps be prepared just in case because you never know what people are like and some people are particularly cruel individuals. Hope you have a lovely day though :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

It's 2018, is this a new thing?! No. Same sex marriage is such a common thing nowadays and I am sure you will be welcomed by venues, vendors etc just like every other couple regardless of gender, etc. Don't worry about it, the amount of positive attention that the LGBT community get this shouldn't be on your mind. They won't treat you any differently, don't go in expecting them too in a positive or negative way! - HAPPY WEDDING PLANNING.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Many congratulations to you both, you should not have to worry what anyone thinks....... this is about you and your bride to be, I don’t think we have visited any venues that would judge. Anyone with a view otherwise needs to come into reality......personally I would say they are ignorant. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

As a wedding venue planner I can honestly say that if you are treated differently then that is not the venue for you! I just love showing couples around our venue and helping them plan their perfect day regardless of your sexuality. You should enjoy your wedding planning as much as the day itself.

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 13 Feb 2018

Warm wishes for a Special day !
Enjoy planning & go for places & people that make you feel comfy xxxx

Andrea Allison
Andrea Allison 13 Feb 2018

Congratulations to you both.
We are MF couple of an older age. Have experienced this and been asked if I'm the bride/grooms mother.
Upset me at first but in the end laughed as they were the one's who looked stupid.
I agree with others, definitely wrong venue for you.
I'm sure you will find somewhere that is not judgemental.
Have a fantastic wedding 💖

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Don’t be nervous, it’s legal these days and if vendors are unhappy about it, I’m sure they changed businesses when the laws changed! I am also marring a woman and we had absolutely no problems with anyone! Just relax and enjoy planning your wedding!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Congratulations

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UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

If they treat you badly tell them to stick it! These days there is not as much prejudice thankfully. Have a fantastic day ️

Louise Taylor
Louise Taylor 13 Feb 2018

We are a same sex couple and can’t fault any of our suppliers or the venue.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

We are a same sex couple and we are getting married in June and we have had no problem with any vendors and our venue have been brilliant, enjoy planning ur special day xx

Amy Brayfield
Amy Brayfield 13 Feb 2018

I am also a bride of 2 brides and everyone has been brilliant with us! No problems at all. If you were to have any problem, i personally wouldn’t go to them. Best day of your life, don’t want that hanging over you

Emily Catling
Emily Catling 13 Feb 2018

From a different angle to everyone else, when we were looking around venues we were the only couple looking. It was just us and the wedding coordinator. Just so you know. Might make you feel s bit more confident.
Congratulations x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

You.are who.you are. Don't be afraid of that.
View venues and let them know. If they don't like it then THEY have a problem not you.
I.imagine you are not the only same sex couple using their venue.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

We are a same sex couple our venue was amazing they didn’t treat us any differently than a straight couple, and they said ours was one of the best weddings they had had there in ages, go to a gay wedding fare before booking anything, all exhibitors are gay friendly we had loads of venues and everything to choose from we loved it all , congratulations to you both on your upcoming wedding too xx

Rebecca Grogan
Rebecca Grogan 14 Feb 2018

We are a same sex couple and we’ve had no problems at all so far, if anybody doesn’t agree that’s their own problem! Good luck with everything and congratulations 😊 xx

Jessica Bateman
Jessica Bateman 14 Feb 2018

Hi my cousin married her girlfriend last year and everyon treated her the same, no difference it’s normal to see gay marriage it’s not any different

Charlotte Mansell
Charlotte Mansell 15 Feb 2018

We've just booked our wedding and our venue have been amazing as have the registry office. I know how you feel though, everybody just assumes I have a groom and so many things are aimed at Mr and Mrs it's a little deflating. As long as your family and friends are there to support you I wouldn't worry to much on people your never going to see again. Enjoy your planning!!! X

Sarah Jackson
Sarah Jackson 19 Feb 2018

Congratulations! 😊
We went to a wedding fayre at our venue yesterday- we're not same sex - there were two ladies there planning their wedding who were being wooed and engaged by the vendors & venue in exactly the same way as everyone else was. I didn't see any judgement from anyone. I'd reiterate what everyone else is saying; if you get a sniff of prejudice, it speaks volumes about the venue.......keep looking and go with what makes you happy & where you know you're getting that 5* treatment you're entitled to on your wedding day xx

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