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So I'm beginning to plan my wedding (April 2019) but I cannot seem to decide...

So I'm beginning to plan my wedding (April 2019) but I cannot seem to decide on anything. I'm planing pretty much alone as I'm haven't got any close friends or family to help. I'm having apx 70 people most on my partners side and I'm not sure if they will like what i choose. It's causing me a lot of anxiety and that's not what I need as I already suffer from mental health issue. Budget is not a problem it's more a style thing. I don't know where to start.

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 6 Feb 2018

Hi have whatever style you like if others don't like it tough it's your wedding :)

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 7 Feb 2018

Its your wedding do what you and your H2B want - don't base it around other people. Once you accept that you will never be able to please everyone it makes planning a whole lot easier!

Natalie Ennis
Natalie Ennis 7 Feb 2018

Don’t worry trying to please everyone as that’s not something that can’t be done. It’s your day. Do what you’ve always dreamed of afterall you’re marrying your soul mate not them.

Mel Ive
Mel Ive 8 Feb 2018

it's your and your h2b's day - the true friends/family will support you. I've had people trying to tell us what we should have, my response "enjoy that at your wedding!" ;-)

Josie Evans
Josie Evans 8 Feb 2018

Just plan your day as you want it, colour schemes and centre pieces etc to your style and taste. It is your big day and you will never please everyone. You don't want to look back on this day and feel regret or sad as you tried to please people. The day is about you and your hubby to be, do what makes you happy so you can enjoy YOUR day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

First thing to do is breathe, relax and breathe again.
Then think about you and your amazing husband to be and what is your story. What things do you enjoy. Favourite colours, venue you both feel comfortable in. The rest will flow xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

It's impossible to please everyone so just go with what you decide on :)

Sonia Overfield
Sonia Overfield 8 Feb 2018

I started with what colours I liked and what kind of style suited me and my husband to be u will never please everyone at the end of the day it is your day and it’s about what u like, I looked at bridal magazines but to be honest when I saw my dress that chose the style of wedding

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Stop.worrying. pic what YOU like a d go.with it. If others dobt lime it its THEIR problem. Make yourself happy not others

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

You’ll know wen u see it wots right I’ve been looking for 2 months now and it’s just come to me wot I want, colour, dress etc

Catriona White
Catriona White 8 Feb 2018

Firstly, you are not alone! If you're feeling this way already you really need to talk to your fiancé. Presumably he knows about your anxiety etc and so you need to clear from the start about him being involved. It's a day for forth if you, so you shouldn't feel that you have to shoulder the entire burden of organising it! Maybe start by getting a bunch of magazines and setting up some Pinterest boards. You gave a number so big things first, venue and then a theme to fit venue. Get a feel from magazines etc for your style then divide tasks, you, your fiancé, maid of honour and bridesmaids if you have close friends you trust. Good luck

Shelley Rayworth
Shelley Rayworth 8 Feb 2018

It's your wedding hun, do whatever you an H2B like. Is he helping with planning, when I see things I like I wait till my partner gets home an ask what he thinks an we choose together x

JoJo Russell
JoJo Russell 8 Feb 2018

I too suffer with mental health issues and have been planning my wedding for a year. My theme is “dark fairytale” so very much my own taste. I couldn’t care less what anyone else thinks. My mum was a bit surprised that I was having black tablecloths but it’s not her wedding so I don’t care if it’s not to her liking. It will look glamorous and edgy and that’s how I want it. Do what you want, it’s your day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Everyone feels like this. Best is to just chose a theme and stick with it. Bugger what anyone else thinks on the day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

It’s your wedding so you choose what your h2b and you want. You 2 are the only ones who matter.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Dont worry about pleasing other people. Its your day. They are not going to have a rubbish day because they didnt like the flowers you had or the tablecloths you used or the centrepieces. Just decide what you and your partner want and go with it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

It your and your husbands wedding! So choose what you want and don't worry about everyone else.
You need to start with booking your venue, then your photographer. Every thing else after that. Good luck . Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

I just planned my wedding in 12 weeks! 1) find a venue (we were offered a late availability deal that was too good to miss, saving £7000 before we even started!) A lot of decisions are dictated by the venue e.g. is outside catering possible, colour schemes that won't clash (look at what colours are in fashion on the high street), theme (rustic themes in a castle could be harder to pull together) then decide what's important to you - live band, or open bar? I found that it's the little bits at the end that tested the budget, like confetti, favours and activity sets for the kids, so keep it streamlined

Merilynn Browne
Merilynn Browne 8 Feb 2018

Hi I started to buy stuff for my wedding may18. But I then went to a wedding fayre. Which I met Hayley the wedding organiser. She was brilliant and so full of ideas. Which I would never have thought off. Hope this helps

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Why are you worrying about what other people will like? It's your day, have what you want and if they don't like it sod them! Lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

One piece of advice that I've had to take in....you cannot please everybody! At the end of the day, it's yours & your H2Bs day...as long as you two enjoy it that's all that counts x

Bryony Hamm
Bryony Hamm 8 Feb 2018

You can be as creative or not as you want. People will like it no matter what. Even if it’s a little bit different. Or if it’s very traditional too!! I’m ditching the florist and doing all homemade decorations and such (ok not all Home made I have bought pom-poms and lights and stuff) but will be arranging it all ourselves. Pick a colour scheme and theme with your partner then take to Pinterest and google for ideas!!

.Melanie Brice
.Melanie Brice 8 Feb 2018

Do not do this to please others! please... If you suffer from mental health issues then do what makes YOU smile all the more. Stuff what others think just go woth whatever you and he are happy with despite what people may think xx

Anita O'Sullivan
Anita O'Sullivan 8 Feb 2018

“Your day Your way” don’t worry about what anyone else will think, it’s something you will remember for the rest of ur life so go with what you want ... something personal to you ... x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

It's your wedding. Do what makes you happy. If they don't like it, tell them not to come

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Choose something significant to you or your relationship for inspiration. Maybe a place that you might want to use as a theme or a colour or a song, I used my engagement ring as a starting point and based my choices round the style of it, with a little hint to New York in the wedding as that’s where we honeymooned. Most of all choose what you like, it’s your day, if time is difficult do most of it online. Keep a log of what your spending and due dates for payments. Good luck.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Do things that make you happy. Talk to your partner about colours you like. I've pretty much done my wedding planning by myself and would check on Pinterest and Instagram for inspiration and then went to my partner and asked him what he liked until we agreed on colour schemes. But it's your day and you should pick things that you like, it's about you not your guests. It's not about what they like, they are there to support you and your partner.
I hope this helps you. Just Google things, check Pinterest and Instagram for ideas. You'll be surprised how much help you can get from these!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

It's your wedding so do what makes you feel best. If you're really struggling why not hire a wedding planner to help you out? It'll help take some of the stress off you and give you someone to bounce ideas off as well :) x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Take the stress out of it by not trying to please everyone! Planning your wedding should be fun! Take some time with your partner and have a chat about what the two of you want, there are lots of online tools that can help such as Bridebook (a planning app) it will guide you through what you need to do and when! Relax and enjoy! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Just do what you want, it’s your day and you do not have to please anyone except yourself and your partner

Janice Barker
Janice Barker 8 Feb 2018

I have spent year trying to find what i want and yesterday thought sod it im booking what i want and stopped worring about other. I dont have a theme just play old fasion get married and party with the ones we love

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 8 Feb 2018

Your day , your choices ......
Lots of different decorating ideas =
Your favourite colours , vintage look , festival look , Alice in wonderland with a cream tea , look at pin interest , hitched.co.uk for photo inspiration , Google wedding fairs with unusual ideas ,
Look at wedding magazines for inspiration .....
I eventually had to stop as overwhelmed by ideas , some of which I couldn't afford ...
I will post some photos for ideas ...
Warm wishes for your special day ... Xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

It doesnt matter if they like what you choose or not. The day is for you and your partner no one else. Your giving your guest the privilege to be their. Focus on what you like and want not your guests

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Claire Atkinson could you help? Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

You will most likely never please anyone. Do what you like make it your prefect day

Michelle Palmer
Michelle Palmer 8 Feb 2018

My wedding is mostly butterflies and things we like! It’s based on a purple love heart. Means a lot to us but for someone else it’s just a Purple Heart💜

It’s your wedding, your day! You enjoy it! No matter what you do people will mean about something!!

Look on Pinterest and eBay for ideas! Most of my things are from eBay xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

I started with an ombré bridesmaid dress and tipis everything else from there Just fell into place. It’s your special day about you and your soul mate you must have what you want do not worry about anyone else x x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

It’s your wedding. It’s what you like thats important

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

I get it but at the end of the day its your wedding. Who cares what they like? It isn't their day its yours! My wedding its a complete odd ball style (nothing matches up) but that's me and my partner for you. I love my guests and they love us which it why it won't be there thing but they'll love it since its very us.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Whether your guests or your fiance's, they should all be there because they want to celebrate you and your happiness. If you plan things the way you want them, you'll be happier and less stressed, which will make for happier guests.

Samantha Cooper
Samantha Cooper 8 Feb 2018

Set up a Pinterest page and start adding pictures that you like, and after a week or so you will start to see a pattern emerging. Like everyone else has said, it's your wedding at the end of the day and it's what you want (and your hubby to be 😜) it will all work out you will see. Once you have a colour theme it will get easier. April is spring time so focus on that as well, spring colours and flowers. Xx

Donna Milner
Donna Milner 8 Feb 2018

Iv planned and bought every thing I want for my day h2b just pays for it and he will see it on the day he's always said it's your day and have it how you want it so I have lol it's your special day so do it how you imagine it to be the worse thing you could do after your big day is to say I wish I'd done that or had that on the day go for it enjoy the run up and planning it's exciting oh and I bought my wedding dress on my own cause I wanted to have what I wanted to wear good luck and congratulations x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

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Sarah Facey
Sarah Facey 8 Feb 2018

It’s your day have what you want, you don’t have to please everyone. I’m getting married in Aug 2019 and going for country/rustic theme, Pinterest is fab place to look for inspiration and ideas

Laura Hall
Laura Hall 8 Feb 2018

It's your wedding not theirs, it's doesn't matter if they don't like it as long as you do. Plus get her husband to be to help out.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Can’t your H2B help you?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Your wedding your choice sit down talk to your partner and find out what they would like xxx think about what you would like then go from there xxx wedding and reception venue first off. Tournerbury woods on Hayling Island is amazing xxx if you are looking for a caterer I know an amazing one as well. They help with everything.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

Please dont worry about what others will and wont like - it is your day and it is impossible to please everyone. This video made me chuckle (I hope it does you too) and its so very true

https://youtu.be/RBTpRaws5ts

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Feb 2018

I’m the same as you my wedding is on October the 6th and dnt have much famlie to help and most of the people going are my partners friends and famlie talk to you partner and tell him how you feel

Vittoria Di Franco
Vittoria Di Franco 9 Feb 2018

I've been watching other people's wedding videos on you tube to get some ideas and inspiration lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Feb 2018

Bless you. This sounds tough. You should pick some thing that show you as a couple. I'm still trying to work out how to incorporate the fast and furious. Or Disney cars. Ha ha. Still not quite there xx

Kayleigh Thomson
Kayleigh Thomson 31 Mar 2018

It's your day at the end of it all so do what you and your partner want

Jaz Nokes
Jaz Nokes 31 Mar 2018

Get yourself on Pinterest for ideas :) and don't worry about other people, it's a special day for you and your partner and anyone else is simply lucky to be invited x

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