Hi girls are you going to pay for your bridesmaid dresses? My friend said she had to buy hers? I’m confused what the tradition is I have four all various sizes from 6-22! So they’re going to be same colour but whatever dress they choose Any tips im starting to stress!!
I had to buy mine when I was a maid of honour. I ended up spending a fortune. She is now my bridesmaid and it sounds awful but I do expect her to pay for her own as I spent a fortune. I will however be buying for my sister and sister in law.
I will be buying my bridesmaid as it my decision to have a bridesmaid and feel therefore im responsible to pay x
My bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses, however because I also have girls varying in sizes I decided on a multiway dress from Debenhams as it doesn’t break the bank and means the girls are in similar dresses but can choose how they want the neckline :)
I'm paying for my bridesmaids dresses, but if selecting their own dresses give them a max budget xx
I'm paying for my 3 bridesmaids but if they want any alterations to the dresses they'll pay for them. They are paying for their shoes. Jewellery will be bridesmaid gifts.
Maybe you can set aside a max amount you'll pay and if they go over that they pay the extra?
I’m paying no matter the cost
I personally wouldn’t ask someone to pay for bridesmaid dresses, it’s your day therefore you pay. Each to their own though, if you do want them to pay make it clear right from the beginning when you ask them to be bridesmaid what the cost implications are, there’s nothing worse than being asked then being told later you need to fork out a fortune.
I paid for my bridesmaids dresses but made sure they came in @ £30 so stayed within my budget .... & got their jewellery as their thank you presents ... Have a look @ january sales , websites Lindy bop , elsies attic & chi chi clothing are all beautiful but reasonable ( not China based )
I'm paying for the dresses but they are paying for their hair and make up.
Im paying for dresses but they need to pay for hair and makeup etc x
Im paying for shoes, bags and dresses. The jewlery is a Gift
I would say that it is normal for the couple to buy the dress. You have asked them to play a role in the wedding and will likely be doing a lot for you so I think it is only fair that the couple pay for the dress, hair, makeup etc.
We did half and half. It was a way to ensure that none of us were out of pocket. The groomsmen are doing the same.
They're paying for their own dresses after all they get to keep them and wear them again.... however I asked them all their max limit and the dresses I've seen are more so my partner and I are paying the extra which is £65 per bridesmaid. We're also paying for hair and makeup artist to come out on the morning of the wedding, bags & hair accessories. And my bridesmaid get to pick their dresses too all I said was long and red. If I were to pay for the dresses I'd be choosing them without their say and I'd be getting them back to sell them. At the end of the day the bridesmaids aren't going to be doing anything different than what a guest would do except from be in more photos 😂
Personally I wouldn't ask someone to be apart of the day then ask them to pay for the attire. If we wanted them in the bridal party then we should pay for them to be. That said, weddings can be pretty pricey and I know some bridesmaids wouldn't mind paying for a dress that they could potentially wear again. If your budget allowes buy the dresses for them, if it's all getting too expensive speak to them and see how they feel about buying a dress they could wear again, if you don't mind them being different.
I paid for everything for my bridesmaids- dresses, shoes, hair, make up and jewellery because I wanted to and we had money in the budget but I've been a bridesmaid where i happily paid for my own shoes so we could wear what we wanted and happily did our own hair and make up.
There is no right or wrong way to do it, it's down to what you want to do and ultimately what you can afford.
Only thing with them paying for their own stuff is you'd have to expect them to wear something you like and they are comfortable in so if you want them in all the same shoes for instance then I'd suggest buying them for them as heels one might be comfy in, another might not be able to walk in etc.
Don't stress over it though, I'm sure if will all turn out perfectly xx
I've asked the bridesmaids to pay for their own, then it belongs to them to do as they wish. I've then said we will be paying for hair and make up as a compromise 😁😁 xx
My bridesmaids are paying for there own minus one who's in secondary school and my mum's paid for that there paying for their own hair and make up too
We’ve paid for ours and their shoes ... they’re sorting their own hair and makeup out x
We are paying for everything... dresses, shoes, hair and make up. Xxx
We have paid for the bridesmaid dresses but they are paying for their own hair make up and jewellery and shoes but then we're paying for personalised champagne flutes, dressing gowns and hangers and I'm still getting them a little something to open at the ceremony xx
I have bought the bridesmaids dresses and shoes but have asked them to pay for own hair/makeup
UK tradition is bride and groom pay,American is the bridal party themselves. Personally,I wouldn't feel right asking people to be in my wedding and then telling them it'll cost them X amount
I think it's up to the individual people involved. We have paid for the bridesmaid and best man outfits. Only thing we haven't brought is their shoes as we have given them free rain so they are comfortable. We had a budget and if they had chosen a dress over the budget we probably would have asked if they could put a little towards but in our eyes we asked them to be part of our day therefore we are paying xx
I am paying for my 3 bridesmaids, x
I’ve paid for it all: dresses, shoes, bags, hair and makeup and I’ll be getting them a bracelet too but told them if they want to get any earring etc then they have to get them x
Don’t stress. If you think it may be a difficult cost speak to your bridesmaids and see if they would agree to cover half at least if you set a budget per dress, or you could say you’d pay for the dress as long as they do shoes, nails etc
A bridesmaids dress doesn’t have to be expensive, I got mine from chi chi london, they go up to a 26 in certain sizes and my girls ranged from an 8 to a 26. They all looked fabulous, I loved the dresses so much I had an extra one for myself and they got more compliments then the bride !
Also little mistress is a good place to look, or ASOS it’s not worth the panic about it because if they are truly happy to be your bridesmaids and have enough time helping you out wouldn’t be an issue x
We brought all out bridesmaids dresses. But luckily we got them all in the sale. All besides 3! I would be cautious though as i had a bridesmaid drop out leaving us to pay for a dress that we could no longer use . but my bridesmaids hair and make up is there own responsibility xx
I've been bridesmaid 9 times and only ever paid for 1. The trend was they buy the dress we buy shoes x
Im buying mine but the girls are getting own shoes and paying for own hair and make up
I have 3, I’m paying up to £130 if they pick anything more they’ll be topping it up
I had a budget of £50 per dress. The dresses that my girls loved were £75 so they kindly paid the rest. I think the rule is, if you want them in something particular (same dress, colour, hair, make up) then you should pay. I’m very relaxed about hair and make up so the girls are paying/doing their own x
I'm buying the dresses myself, hand crafting the jewellery as a gift for them to keep. However hair, make up and shoes is up to them. I'm not made of money and they know that and are happy with that compromise xx
I'm having my bridesmaids in black dresses so they are getting their own in whatever style and budget they want, I don't even mind if they wear something they already have.
I bought my bridesmaids but they bought there own shoes etc but that depends if you can afford to or not if not just speak to the girls. I got mine from Quiz they tried them on instore and then I ordered off their website with an online discount code for extra discount x
Here it’s the norm for the bride to pay for the dresses. In America it’s the norm for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses.
if you want them to pay, make sure they know when you ask them so that they can decline the offer if they can't afford it! I also think that if your making them pay for dresses you can't tell them which dress to buy! you can give them a colour but you can't say "you need to have this dress!" they should be able to pick one they want and possibly wear again! also if you can't afford to buy there dresses don't have that many bridesmaids in the first place!
I've paid for my girls dresses (and their hair). I know some people do ask their bridesmaids to pay for there own dresses but I have asked them to be apart of my day, it just doesn't sound right to me to ask them to pay. They are paying for their own shoes and accessories but I have said they can wear whatever they want in this regard.
I’ve paid for mine and got them from jjshouse.com 4 dresses for under £200
I'm paying for my maid of honour and bridesmaid dresses. I think it's only right that I pay. However any t
Alterations will be their job to sort as iv got enough to do haha
I have six and paid for the dresses (gave them a few options to choose from). They are paying for their shoes as they have chosen them and Ill be getting them a piece of jewellery to compliment their dresses. If i had let them have free reign then i would have asked them to help out a little, especially if they were over £100.
I have bought mine for my bridesmaids, I don’t think they should have to pay for the dress. X
I think it’s only fair you pay for them? Your asking them to be a part of your day. I paid for mine and their jewellery was part of their gift. The girls paid for their own hair and makeup as for me that is a personal choice and it’s up to them if they want it doing! As a previous member posted my girls wore the Debenhams multiway dresses. Just the same as two birds, a fraction of the price and much better quality! Also cuts cost on alterations as the top half is tied so just the length may need altering! Good luck! Xx
I'm paying for dresses shoes hair and makeup and buying them a present and dressing gown slippers hanger and glass. Only having 2 I'm paying for this as I think it's a bit off asking them and then making them pay.
When I was a bridesmaid I paid for mine
I am paying for my bridesmaids dress but they paying for own shoes hair and makeup xx
Both myself and one of my bridesmaids are getting married next year. We have both agreed to buy the dresses and pay for the hair but they buy their own shoes and do own make up.
I have 7 bridesmaids and 2 flower girls paid for all thier dresses and will be paying for shoes and hair. X
I’m paying for 5 bridesmaid dresses but asking them to buy own shoes/sandles, hair and makeup x
I’m paying for two of mine as mums paying for my sisters as she done the same when my sister got married
I’ll be buying dresses & shoes but may need to ask my girlies to sort their own hair & makeup how ever they would like to have it x
I wouldn't dream of making my bridesmaids pay. It was my decision to get married, so why would they have to pay for their frocks?
I paid for all my bridesmaids stuff as I asked them to be part of my wedding only thing I asked them to pay towards was there hair x
Im paying for the dresses and for them to have hair done but the older ones are all buying own shoes :-) xx
I have one English and one American bridesmaid. I want to pay for their dresses, but my American friend feels she should pay for her own. However it works out, I'll make it right somehow! Not going to stress over it.
I am paying for the dresses and jewellery for all of my girls but they are paying or using their own shoes (as I have no specific requirements or ideas for them) and their own hair and make up (as I'm doing my own and not having a professiobal). My girls are more than happy with this arrangement and think it's more than fair.
We are all in agreement that as I have asked them to be part of the day then they shouldn't pay for the stuff they don't use again.
I think of your asking them to pay don't have any bridesmaid. I wouldnt dream to ask then pay for their dresses. You asked them. As a bridesmaid myself we paid for hair and shoes but not dresses
Im paying for my bridesmaids dresses & shoes flowers n accessories to wear x
I'm buying my own dress for my sister's wedding and likewise my bridesmaids are buying their own.
I will be buying my bridesmaids dresses
when i was a bridesmaid, the bride brought my dress but asked me to buy the shoes... which was fine. For both our groomsmen and bridesmaid we are going to set a limit per person (telling them beforehand)
I probably will pay for their hair but not make up (if they want professional then they can pay but they probably will do their own)
When I was bridesmaid for my sister I paid for my dress and shoes ... her budget was very small so I offered and I picked my dress just in the colour she wanted... I’m paying for my bridesmaid dresses but all mine will be children
Im buying mine for my bridesmaids
I am buying dresses but they paying there own hair make up and shoes x
I feel that as it’s my day I will buy the dresses but I am not breaking the bank
I am buying the dresses but if they need any alterations once they have arrived they will pay for them themselves however you need to do whatever you fee is right and according to your budget x