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Hi girls are you going to pay for your bridesmaid dresses? My friend said...

Hi girls are you going to pay for your bridesmaid dresses? My friend said she had to buy hers? I’m confused what the tradition is I have four all various sizes from 6-22! So they’re going to be same colour but whatever dress they choose Any tips im starting to stress!!

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E Wilson
E Wilson 4 Feb 2018

I had to buy mine when I was a maid of honour. I ended up spending a fortune. She is now my bridesmaid and it sounds awful but I do expect her to pay for her own as I spent a fortune. I will however be buying for my sister and sister in law.

Susie Booth
Susie Booth 5 Feb 2018

I will be buying my bridesmaid as it my decision to have a bridesmaid and feel therefore im responsible to pay x

Rebecca Ames
Rebecca Ames 5 Feb 2018

My bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses, however because I also have girls varying in sizes I decided on a multiway dress from Debenhams as it doesn’t break the bank and means the girls are in similar dresses but can choose how they want the neckline :)

Colleen Rice
Colleen Rice 5 Feb 2018

I'm paying for my bridesmaids dresses, but if selecting their own dresses give them a max budget xx

Eliza Munnelly
Eliza Munnelly 5 Feb 2018

I'm paying for my 3 bridesmaids but if they want any alterations to the dresses they'll pay for them. They are paying for their shoes. Jewellery will be bridesmaid gifts.

Maybe you can set aside a max amount you'll pay and if they go over that they pay the extra?

Kate Phillips
Kate Phillips 5 Feb 2018

I’m paying no matter the cost

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I personally wouldn’t ask someone to pay for bridesmaid dresses, it’s your day therefore you pay. Each to their own though, if you do want them to pay make it clear right from the beginning when you ask them to be bridesmaid what the cost implications are, there’s nothing worse than being asked then being told later you need to fork out a fortune.

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 6 Feb 2018

I paid for my bridesmaids dresses but made sure they came in @ £30 so stayed within my budget .... & got their jewellery as their thank you presents ... Have a look @ january sales , websites Lindy bop , elsies attic & chi chi clothing are all beautiful but reasonable ( not China based )

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I'm paying for the dresses but they are paying for their hair and make up.

Amee Goulding
Amee Goulding 6 Feb 2018

Im paying for dresses but they need to pay for hair and makeup etc x

Heather Perry
Heather Perry 6 Feb 2018

Im paying for shoes, bags and dresses. The jewlery is a Gift

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 6 Feb 2018

I would say that it is normal for the couple to buy the dress. You have asked them to play a role in the wedding and will likely be doing a lot for you so I think it is only fair that the couple pay for the dress, hair, makeup etc.

Emu Wells
Emma Wells 6 Feb 2018

We did half and half. It was a way to ensure that none of us were out of pocket. The groomsmen are doing the same.

Shannon Clarke
Shannon Clarke 6 Feb 2018

They're paying for their own dresses after all they get to keep them and wear them again.... however I asked them all their max limit and the dresses I've seen are more so my partner and I are paying the extra which is £65 per bridesmaid. We're also paying for hair and makeup artist to come out on the morning of the wedding, bags & hair accessories. And my bridesmaid get to pick their dresses too all I said was long and red. If I were to pay for the dresses I'd be choosing them without their say and I'd be getting them back to sell them. At the end of the day the bridesmaids aren't going to be doing anything different than what a guest would do except from be in more photos 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

Personally I wouldn't ask someone to be apart of the day then ask them to pay for the attire. If we wanted them in the bridal party then we should pay for them to be. That said, weddings can be pretty pricey and I know some bridesmaids wouldn't mind paying for a dress that they could potentially wear again. If your budget allowes buy the dresses for them, if it's all getting too expensive speak to them and see how they feel about buying a dress they could wear again, if you don't mind them being different.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I paid for everything for my bridesmaids- dresses, shoes, hair, make up and jewellery because I wanted to and we had money in the budget but I've been a bridesmaid where i happily paid for my own shoes so we could wear what we wanted and happily did our own hair and make up.

There is no right or wrong way to do it, it's down to what you want to do and ultimately what you can afford.

Only thing with them paying for their own stuff is you'd have to expect them to wear something you like and they are comfortable in so if you want them in all the same shoes for instance then I'd suggest buying them for them as heels one might be comfy in, another might not be able to walk in etc.

Don't stress over it though, I'm sure if will all turn out perfectly xx

Ellen Blossom
Ellen Blossom 6 Feb 2018

I've asked the bridesmaids to pay for their own, then it belongs to them to do as they wish. I've then said we will be paying for hair and make up as a compromise 😁😁 xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

My bridesmaids are paying for there own minus one who's in secondary school and my mum's paid for that there paying for their own hair and make up too

Anita O'Sullivan
Anita O'Sullivan 6 Feb 2018

We’ve paid for ours and their shoes ... they’re sorting their own hair and makeup out x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

We are paying for everything... dresses, shoes, hair and make up. Xxx

Sara Hughes
Sara Hughes 6 Feb 2018

We have paid for the bridesmaid dresses but they are paying for their own hair make up and jewellery and shoes but then we're paying for personalised champagne flutes, dressing gowns and hangers and I'm still getting them a little something to open at the ceremony xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I have bought the bridesmaids dresses and shoes but have asked them to pay for own hair/makeup

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

UK tradition is bride and groom pay,American is the bridal party themselves. Personally,I wouldn't feel right asking people to be in my wedding and then telling them it'll cost them X amount

Jayne Harper
Jayne Harper 6 Feb 2018

I think it's up to the individual people involved. We have paid for the bridesmaid and best man outfits. Only thing we haven't brought is their shoes as we have given them free rain so they are comfortable. We had a budget and if they had chosen a dress over the budget we probably would have asked if they could put a little towards but in our eyes we asked them to be part of our day therefore we are paying xx

Kirsty Law
Kirsty Law 6 Feb 2018

I am paying for my 3 bridesmaids, x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I’ve paid for it all: dresses, shoes, bags, hair and makeup and I’ll be getting them a bracelet too but told them if they want to get any earring etc then they have to get them x

Siobhan Knight-Potgieter
Siobhan Knight-Potgieter 6 Feb 2018

Don’t stress. If you think it may be a difficult cost speak to your bridesmaids and see if they would agree to cover half at least if you set a budget per dress, or you could say you’d pay for the dress as long as they do shoes, nails etc

A bridesmaids dress doesn’t have to be expensive, I got mine from chi chi london, they go up to a 26 in certain sizes and my girls ranged from an 8 to a 26. They all looked fabulous, I loved the dresses so much I had an extra one for myself and they got more compliments then the bride !

Also little mistress is a good place to look, or ASOS it’s not worth the panic about it because if they are truly happy to be your bridesmaids and have enough time helping you out wouldn’t be an issue x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

We brought all out bridesmaids dresses. But luckily we got them all in the sale. All besides 3! I would be cautious though as i had a bridesmaid drop out leaving us to pay for a dress that we could no longer use . but my bridesmaids hair and make up is there own responsibility xx

Katie Pearson
Katie Pearson 6 Feb 2018

I've been bridesmaid 9 times and only ever paid for 1. The trend was they buy the dress we buy shoes x

Danielle Thomson
Danielle Thomson 6 Feb 2018

Im buying mine but the girls are getting own shoes and paying for own hair and make up

Michelle Goldsworthy
Michelle Goldsworthy 6 Feb 2018

I have 3, I’m paying up to £130 if they pick anything more they’ll be topping it up

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I had a budget of £50 per dress. The dresses that my girls loved were £75 so they kindly paid the rest. I think the rule is, if you want them in something particular (same dress, colour, hair, make up) then you should pay. I’m very relaxed about hair and make up so the girls are paying/doing their own x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I'm buying the dresses myself, hand crafting the jewellery as a gift for them to keep. However hair, make up and shoes is up to them. I'm not made of money and they know that and are happy with that compromise xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I'm having my bridesmaids in black dresses so they are getting their own in whatever style and budget they want, I don't even mind if they wear something they already have.

Emma Richardson
Emma Richardson 6 Feb 2018

I bought my bridesmaids but they bought there own shoes etc but that depends if you can afford to or not if not just speak to the girls. I got mine from Quiz they tried them on instore and then I ordered off their website with an online discount code for extra discount x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

Here it’s the norm for the bride to pay for the dresses. In America it’s the norm for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

if you want them to pay, make sure they know when you ask them so that they can decline the offer if they can't afford it! I also think that if your making them pay for dresses you can't tell them which dress to buy! you can give them a colour but you can't say "you need to have this dress!" they should be able to pick one they want and possibly wear again! also if you can't afford to buy there dresses don't have that many bridesmaids in the first place!

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 6 Feb 2018

I've paid for my girls dresses (and their hair). I know some people do ask their bridesmaids to pay for there own dresses but I have asked them to be apart of my day, it just doesn't sound right to me to ask them to pay. They are paying for their own shoes and accessories but I have said they can wear whatever they want in this regard.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I’ve paid for mine and got them from jjshouse.com 4 dresses for under £200

.Melanie Brice
.Melanie Brice 6 Feb 2018

I'm paying for my maid of honour and bridesmaid dresses. I think it's only right that I pay. However any t
Alterations will be their job to sort as iv got enough to do haha

Gemma Hardy
Gemma Hardy 6 Feb 2018

I have six and paid for the dresses (gave them a few options to choose from). They are paying for their shoes as they have chosen them and Ill be getting them a piece of jewellery to compliment their dresses. If i had let them have free reign then i would have asked them to help out a little, especially if they were over £100.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I have bought mine for my bridesmaids, I don’t think they should have to pay for the dress. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I think it’s only fair you pay for them? Your asking them to be a part of your day. I paid for mine and their jewellery was part of their gift. The girls paid for their own hair and makeup as for me that is a personal choice and it’s up to them if they want it doing! As a previous member posted my girls wore the Debenhams multiway dresses. Just the same as two birds, a fraction of the price and much better quality! Also cuts cost on alterations as the top half is tied so just the length may need altering! Good luck! Xx

Gemma Collins
Gemma Collins 6 Feb 2018

I'm paying for dresses shoes hair and makeup and buying them a present and dressing gown slippers hanger and glass. Only having 2 I'm paying for this as I think it's a bit off asking them and then making them pay.

Eliza-jane Riley
Eliza-jane Riley 6 Feb 2018

When I was a bridesmaid I paid for mine

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I am paying for my bridesmaids dress but they paying for own shoes hair and makeup xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

Both myself and one of my bridesmaids are getting married next year. We have both agreed to buy the dresses and pay for the hair but they buy their own shoes and do own make up.

Heather Hawkins
Heather Hawkins 6 Feb 2018

I have 7 bridesmaids and 2 flower girls paid for all thier dresses and will be paying for shoes and hair. X

Donna Bell
Donna Bell 6 Feb 2018

I’m paying for 5 bridesmaid dresses but asking them to buy own shoes/sandles, hair and makeup x

Catherine Burgess
Catherine Burgess 6 Feb 2018

I’m paying for two of mine as mums paying for my sisters as she done the same when my sister got married

Sarah Southern
Sarah Southern 7 Feb 2018

I’ll be buying dresses & shoes but may need to ask my girlies to sort their own hair & makeup how ever they would like to have it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Feb 2018

I wouldn't dream of making my bridesmaids pay. It was my decision to get married, so why would they have to pay for their frocks?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Feb 2018

I paid for all my bridesmaids stuff as I asked them to be part of my wedding only thing I asked them to pay towards was there hair x

Josie Long
Josie Long 7 Feb 2018

Im paying for the dresses and for them to have hair done but the older ones are all buying own shoes :-) xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Feb 2018

I have one English and one American bridesmaid. I want to pay for their dresses, but my American friend feels she should pay for her own. However it works out, I'll make it right somehow! Not going to stress over it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Feb 2018

I am paying for the dresses and jewellery for all of my girls but they are paying or using their own shoes (as I have no specific requirements or ideas for them) and their own hair and make up (as I'm doing my own and not having a professiobal). My girls are more than happy with this arrangement and think it's more than fair.

We are all in agreement that as I have asked them to be part of the day then they shouldn't pay for the stuff they don't use again.

Carla Leese
Carla Leese 7 Feb 2018

I think of your asking them to pay don't have any bridesmaid. I wouldnt dream to ask then pay for their dresses. You asked them. As a bridesmaid myself we paid for hair and shoes but not dresses

Stacey Gray
Stacey Gray 8 Feb 2018

Im paying for my bridesmaids dresses & shoes flowers n accessories to wear x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

I'm buying my own dress for my sister's wedding and likewise my bridesmaids are buying their own.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Feb 2018

I will be buying my bridesmaids dresses

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 9 Feb 2018

when i was a bridesmaid, the bride brought my dress but asked me to buy the shoes... which was fine. For both our groomsmen and bridesmaid we are going to set a limit per person (telling them beforehand)

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 9 Feb 2018

I probably will pay for their hair but not make up (if they want professional then they can pay but they probably will do their own)

Rebecca Sullivan
Rebecca Sullivan 9 Feb 2018

When I was bridesmaid for my sister I paid for my dress and shoes ... her budget was very small so I offered and I picked my dress just in the colour she wanted... I’m paying for my bridesmaid dresses but all mine will be children

Samantha Drury
Samantha Drury 13 Feb 2018

Im buying mine for my bridesmaids

Lynsey Mc connell
Lynsey Mc connell 21 Feb 2018

I am buying dresses but they paying there own hair make up and shoes x

Tracey Law
Tracey Law 22 Feb 2018

I feel that as it’s my day I will buy the dresses but I am not breaking the bank

Romy Bettles
Romy Bettles 28 Feb 2018

I am buying the dresses but if they need any alterations once they have arrived they will pay for them themselves however you need to do whatever you fee is right and according to your budget x

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