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UKbride Member Request 3 Feb 2018

Am I being a bridezilla!?!? I am paying to have my hair and make up, and...

Am I being a bridezilla!?!? I am paying to have my hair and make up, and my maid of honours hair and make up done at the wedding venue (hotel) on the morning of my wedding. Due to a winter wedding we get married relatively early (1200) as we wanted as many hours of daylight as possible for photos. Guests who are there the night before are asking if we can arrange for our stylist to do their hair after us. We spoke to the stylist and she has said so she isn’t in a rush she could come to us for 6am. As the bride, I don’t want to feel like I’m being rushed because she has other people to get to in the hotel, nor do I want to get up at 6am on my wedding day - id like to be as relaxed as possible not tired and grouchy. If it is meant to be my day is it unreasonable to make it all about me and my maid of honour and tell other people they will have to sort their own hairdressers and make up artists out if this is something they want. I feel like I’m being a brat but at the same time don’t think it’s fair that my hair and make up are rushed or done in the early hours or the morning???

58 Comments
Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 3 Feb 2018

Hi They should make their own arrangements it is not your place to sort guests out as well as your wedding party :)

Kelly Alford
Kelly Alford 3 Feb 2018

That sounds reasonable. If they want a stylist they can arrange one, it's not your responsibility. They probably haven't thought through the logistics of it all.

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 3 Feb 2018

I agree with your concern. Perhaps your stylist has an assistant or associate she could recommend for the others?

Beverley Lennon
Beverley Lennon 4 Feb 2018

I agree with Susan, if your stylist could recommend someone that would help but if there’s nobody available that’s not your problem and they shouldn’t be expecting you to sort them out! Girl you’ve got enough to deal with without having to style your guests too!! I’m actually surprised at the cheek of some folk. Good luck xx

Samantha Williams
Samantha Williams 4 Feb 2018

I personally think it’s quite rude to expect you to help arrange their makeup and hair. It’s your day and there’s no chance I’d be waking up at 6am to get my hair and makeup done. I mean alternatively you could do it the other way round, where they get up at 6am but then if the stylist is delayed doing theirs, that’s going to stress you out. I personally would say they should find their own.

Nicola Bridgen
Nicola Bridgen 4 Feb 2018

I would tell them unfortunately she doesn't have the time to fit them in and offer alternative numbers of stylists that they could arrange themselves ... failing that send her to them first at 6a.m!!

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 5 Feb 2018

Why don’t you suggest they get their own to come to the hotel? That’s what me my mum and sisters did at my aunties wedding x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I think they are the unreasonable ones expecting you to sort it out for them to be honest. If you were having your hair and make up done at home would they expect to have the use of your stylist then? I would just tell them that unfortunately the timings don't work as things would have to be started too early in order to fit everyone in. As others have said if you want to be accommodating then you could ask your stylist to recommend someone but I'd still call that going above and beyond for them. You're definitely not being a brat x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Id see if they can arrange there own. Or if yours can suggest someone xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Jeez do they not think you’ve got enough to think about?! Tell them to sort it themselves!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Tell them she can get to them for 6. No reason why you should change your already stressful plans for them.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Tell them to F off and find their own bloody stylist!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I'd tell them she can't do it...or offer them the 6am slot.

Adrienne Merrick
Adrienne Merrick 5 Feb 2018

It's your stylist you have her on your terms and at a time that suits you! If your guests want to utilise her then they have to fit in around your time with her. Else they sort out their own stylist to come to the venue.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Why can't your guests have the 6am slot?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

It's not your job to provide a stylist or MUA for your guests. They need to find their own. I don't like how she has suggested that she does you so early,it sounds like she's seeing £££ signs. Her priority should be her booking with you and I would consider it majorly unprofessional for her to take these other bookings. You can't rush bridal make up or hair and you should have the freshest. Tell your selfish guests to get their own

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

It’s not up to you to arrange your guests hair and make up!!
Tell them she can’t do it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

When I got married I paid for my maids to have hair and make up, I also arranged for other family members to have their hair and make up done as well with the mua that I had. They all got done and I was the last one to get ready as I wasn’t rushing around and it worked out brilliant and stress free. If you don’t want to get up that early why not allow the other guests to have their hair and make up done before you then you can still have a relaxed morning and get ready when you are wanting to, then that way it’s a win win situation all round and not a stressful morning x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Get them another stylist or recommend one. It’s your day after all x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. The day is about you!! You should have things done when you want and not worry about rushing another people can have their hair and makeup done xx

Heather Perry
Heather Perry 5 Feb 2018

Thinking your guests can have the 6am slot, and you can have a lie in. Alternatively, they can arrange someone else to do it. Not a bride zilla at all.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I would keep my stylist for myself to make sure I'm not rushed or stressing about the timings. if there were a few people that wanted a hair and makeup artist I would either ask if my stylist has an assistant they could bring with them to focus on the others or hire someone else in addition to mine. If I hired someone else I would ask guests to pay in advance so I'm not out of pocket. good luck x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I arranged for my hair and make up lady to get a colleague of hers to do my in laws hair and make up as they were in a different hotel. It wasn't any bother for me as I gave the contact details over and they sorted it all themselves. Why don't you do somenting like that? That way you can still relax and aren't rushed and don't have to worry about others xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I don’t think you are being a bridezilla at all, I would feel the same. If you want to be helpful, find another local hair & makeup artist, and give their details to your guests. Tell them that your stylist is unable to fit them in, but here are some recommendations. It’s then their responsibility to book it themselves.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Get a quote from another hair and make up artist and let your guests pay for her. I bet once they know the costs involved they are happy to do their own make up.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Say no give them local numbers of salons let them sort them self u r the main event and should be pampered no rushed

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I would tell them to sort their own my make up person brought help with her as there was my hair and make up plus 3 adult bridesmaids mum of bride and mum of groom plus 2 little bridesmaid hair and even with her team I felt like it was totally rushed to get to her other job! I hate feeling rushed as it was it was complete manic so I would simply tell them that your have to get someone else in even if you organise it and they pay

Siobhan Knight-Potgieter
Siobhan Knight-Potgieter 5 Feb 2018

It’s quite odd for guests to expect this lady to do their hair as well. Just say unfortunately she is fully booked with the two of you but you are sure other hairdressers could come to the hotel for them but they’d have to arrange for themselves.

I’d only help to arrange if it was an elderly guest or someone close such as mother or grandmother.

I had to get up at 7am for a 1pm ceremony as the lady was doing my hair and my bridesmaids as well as make up. It’s not nice but at the same time your not likely to be able to sleep too late 🤷🏼‍♀️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

You are not being a bridezilla. It is your day so why would on earth should they expect you to sort out their hair and make up for them. Ask your stylist if there is someone she could recommend, if she has to be there for 6am then what time would your stylist have to get up. Nothing like weddings to bring out the worst in people.

Sarah Jackson
Sarah Jackson 5 Feb 2018

You are no bridezilla! You are perfectly reasonable. Heed the advice on posts so far x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

It is your day, if they want their hair and make-up done the day of your wedding then it should be down to them to make their own arrangements. You shouldn’t even be asked to supply an alternative number for them.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

No, I think they should arrange their own, the lady will be busy enough with yours and you def don't want her having to rush. It's YOUR day!!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

No they would definitely have to get a stylist sorted for themselves it is your wedding day that you have planned & you shouldn't have to get up so early & have to be maybe a bit rushed on your special day..Also you want to enjoy your morning leading up to the ceremony, They need to sort themselves out

Dawn Mcintosh
Dawn Mcintosh 5 Feb 2018

Why not see if she has someone that could come with her to do them whilst she does you?

Sonia Overfield
Sonia Overfield 5 Feb 2018

Tell them to sort themselves out it’s not your responsibility to get them ready as well u need to be relaxed and enjoy the day. So politey tell them we’re to shove it an concentrate on ur self

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Seriously where do people get their audacity from???
I’m not a selfish person, but this is the one day where you get to be, you and your partner. What would they have done if you didn’t have a stylist coming?
Your going to have more than enough to worry about let alone concerning yourself with whether they got their hair done.. You have a beautiful day and get pampered and let these grown ups sort themselves out.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Just be polite and explain that the stylist has said they won't have any time as they have other appointments after you. Nobody can complain about that as the stylist is a business person and is likely taking a lot of appointments. Just leave it at that then. You don't owe anyone any explanations and in the process you're not being rude or a bridezilla. Nobody wants to get up at 6am on their wedding day and you shouldn't have to! My wedding isn't until 1pm and I'm not getting out of bed until 9am. You need plenty of rest so you look fresh on the day, nobody should be trying to dictate when you get the stylist that you paid for to fix you up!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I don't think that's unreasonable at all. If they want their hair doing, they should be looking for themselves!! The hair stylist should be focused on you, not any one else!

.Melanie Brice
.Melanie Brice 5 Feb 2018

Tell the rest of them to get lost and do their own bloody hair cheeky sods. Honestly how rude!

Laura Campbell
Laura Campbell 5 Feb 2018

Tell them to do their own bloody hair... Fecking chancers

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Tell the others to sort their own out!!!!! Do u want to be tired all day? It’s your day enjoy it however u want getting up at 6 on my wedding day would be a no xxx

Amber Neat
Amber Neat 5 Feb 2018

I would tell them where to go!!! I would be fuming and certainly not happy about having my hair done at 6am just for them!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I would tell them no. Our hair and make up ran over and we were rushed to get ready, so I would think it better that they concentrate on you then have to worry about others x

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 5 Feb 2018

I would tell them that there's not enough time. Wouldn't dream of arranging hair and makeup for my guests. If they want it then they arrange it. I have sisters and I'm not even sorting hair and makeup for them nevermind the rest of my wedding guests lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

You’ll prob be up before 6am on your wedding day with excitement! You won’t feel tired at all either you’d be surprise how energetic you’ll be feeling. I’d maybe see if your stylist had someone else they can bring to help out with guests as you are right, you don’t want to feel rushed. I was up at 5:30am on my wedding day and was on champagne by 8am! Congrats and good luck. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Other "other guests" can have their hair done at 6am until such time as you feel relaxed about having your own done, make a firm time for your own, its your day!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Absolutely not - tell them she won't be able to squeeze everyone in and yo arrange their own! I got married at 1 and our hairdresser did Me, bridesmaids and both mothers and she was there all morning from 8am!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Your stylist must make YOU.priority ad then your maId of honour.
No one else. If everyone else wants to get up.at 6am to get their hair done fine ..not you. Tell.your stylist you expect her to be with YOU no.later than the time arranged with her no matter what everyone else wants. Get her to bring someone with her to.do guests hair. If she can't. Get your guests to sort their own hair out

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

Totally agree it's your day they can sort there own. Dx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

If they want their hair doing they should be getting up at 6am, not you, completely unfair to intrude on your morning! They should see to themselves! You wouldn't organise their hair and makeup if you weren't at the hotel so why should it be any different if you are! Tell them no!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

I got married at 12:00. December 2017 for exactly the same reason. My lady did my hair (part up and down) and make-up. Straightened my mum's hair and did her makeup. 2 bridesmaids hair (up) and their make-up. She arrived at 8am. I was awake at 6am anyway . I would say that she has said she can't do it and I would advise her that's what you have said (and explain why) and then she can repeat the same if they go to her direct. Tell them to sort their own out, ie do their own research. You've enough to organise without sourcing make up artists and hairdressers for everyone else. Just in case you were unsure...no you are not a bridezilla xx

Victoria Beer
Victoria Beer 5 Feb 2018

No you are not being a brat. Totally reasonable. Tell them to make their own arrangements

Zoe Holiday
Zoe Holiday 5 Feb 2018

Either Blame the hairdresser and say she doesnt have time or offer them her extended hours so you have her for the times you've already arranged and have your guests get up at 6am!

Josephine Parkinson
Josephine Parkinson 5 Feb 2018

I had a winter wedding and to do me and three bridesmaid hair and makeup she had to start at 6.30am for me to be at church for 11.30am. It was only a 20min journey to the church. your guests would be later than you arriving, so there is no way she could do it. They would need to find another stylist to come out, or they need to travel to a salon in the morning.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Feb 2018

There are plenty of other make up artists and hair stylist

Catriona White
Catriona White 5 Feb 2018

I think maybe people are being quick to judge here. Lets be clear, it would be a cold morning in hell before I got up before 6am on my wedding day so my guests could use my stylist. However I think it's more likely that they didn't realise that would suggest this arrangement than that they would put their needs first. I'm more surprised that your stylist thinks this is a good 'Solution '. I'd talk to them, surely if they schedule with plenty of buffer time around you as the main event and let all the guests know that the bride comes first and her appt takes precedence even if it means them missing out last minute. Then they can fit round you and if that's not acceptable to them then they can find someone else

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Feb 2018

I think you're being totally fair! I wouldn't want to get up at 6am either!!

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 9 Feb 2018

You are not being a bridezilla - tell them that your stylist cannot fit them in - its not up to you to get your guests ready.

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