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UKbride Member Request 30 Jan 2018

Stressing about distance guests have to travel to venue! My mum and I are...

Stressing about distance guests have to travel to venue! My mum and I are disagreeing over travelling to our dream venue. The venue is an hour (max) from my guests and about an hour and a half for some of the Grooms guests. Will this be an issue for one special day? Will evening only guests think it is too much hassle even if i put on a bus or two at the end of the night? Should i consider busses both to and from the venue for evening guests? So many questions, sorry!!!

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 30 Jan 2018

Hi a bus would be ideal :)

Lauren Hayes
Lauren Hayes 30 Jan 2018

Me and my partner just recently moved an hour and a half away from our families and we found our perfect venue where we now live. We decided if people wanted to spend our wedding day with us then they would, they could always get a hotel if it’s too much travelling for them x

Karena Amey
Karena Amey 31 Jan 2018

Hi, I'm having the same problem, wondering if evening guests will travel the distance for the evening reception...... I think a bus is a great idea but also true friends wouldn't mind traveling

Michaela Hill
Michaela Hill 31 Jan 2018

Our venue is about the same distance as yours and we are putting on coaches for day and evening guests. This can become expensive and not within everyone’s budget so we are charging £10pp for a return so
We are not out of pocket! All guests think this is a good idea and seem
Really happy with it that there not having to pay loads for taxis and accomdation. Best decision we made!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

If they think it's an issue then they don't really want to be there I got married in Spain and lots of people came over from England and my brother flew in from America don't want to sound harsh but if it's where you want to get married then they will move heaven and Earth to get there, enjoy your special day xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

Our venue was about about the same distance and we put on a coach for the guests from the two main towns on the way. I would advise you take a deposit from people though. If they get the bus then they get the deposit back...but if they don't you keep it. We never did this and ended up with folk making their own way there and a 70 seater at the end of the night that only about a dozen folk actually left on. Some of those who got the coach on the way up also ended up getting a lifts back with people too. Some people ask their guests just to pay for their seats as well.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

We had ours 2 hours from most people. Everyone stayed over bar 2 and they drove home at night. I provided accommodation options at and near the venue then left them to it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

We aren't putting a bus on through the day as most ppl drive we were guna get a bus for night time as just my work lot to come and found it cheaper for a 16 seater taxi!! Our venue is also an hr away

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

We had guests travel 100s of miles for our day, and I am prepared to do the same for upcoming weddings

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

My fiance and I are from towns about 90 minutes apart. We are getting married in my hometown so only 50% of the guests have to travel rather than all of them and have chosen a town rather than country venue so it's easy for our guests to access hotels and public transport both before and after the wedding.
It's the guest's responsibility to get themselves to and from your wedding though, if they want to come they will. We regularly travel 2 hours plus to weddings and 90 minutes to my partners home town for social occasions, it's not that far.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

Our guests will be traveling about 4 hours, from both sides! I'm sure an hour would be absolutely fine! We've traveled several hours for evening dos, if they won't make the trip, they're not true friends!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

If they love you they’ll be there. My family and friends all live about 2-3 hours away and when we get married we are getting married local to our home so all our guests will have to travel far. It’s your big day just give them plenty of notice so they can arrange travel xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

No, poeple will sort out their own transport or accommodation. Providing transport is a very old fashioned and dated idea.

Charlotte Mixture
Charlotte Mixture 31 Jan 2018

Sod the guests... it’s your day, your dream! If they’re important enough then they’ll be there! If not... I’m sure you’ll still have an amazing time! We’ve had to be quite brutal to keep a reasonable budget!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

Mine is 45mins from where we live. Depending on evening numbers I may arrange a bus. But at the end of the day if people wanna be there they will x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

Our venue is an hour away from the locals and the others are travelling several hours! I am not providing buses for either. Never been done for any I've attended either.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

I live in South East Essex. We drove to a wedding in Inverness, Scotland. It took us 12 hours to get there. If people want to go, they will make the effort

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

Sod the guests! My venue is a hotel 5 minutes from my house as it was best for our budget. H2B has relatives in France who are invited to the day do. Venue is in Wakefield West Yorkshire and we have evening guests invited from Manchester way and from Taunton in Somerset!! If friends and family want to be there to help celebrate your day, they won't care about having to travel!

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 31 Jan 2018

Only answering the bus question.. but if they’ve got to drive there, they won’t leave their cars and get a bus home so I wouldn’t bother unless your going to put one on for both to and from the evening x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

I debated about this too as a lot of our guests are travelling. However, those who want to come badly enough will not be put off by that. Some of our guests are coming from abroad to be at our wedding which means the world to us :). No one has complained about distance or anything and we've had several people say they're happy to be part of our special day. You could always organise a bus, but make the guests pay for themselves as others suggested.

Shelley Rayworth
Shelley Rayworth 31 Jan 2018

My venue will be about the same away from us an if people are having a drink at the reception they'll have to find accommodation aswell to stay over but I think if they really care an want to be there it wont be a problem x

Shakira Badwal
Shakira Badwal 31 Jan 2018

Some of our guests were 3 hours away. If they want to be there they will.

Kattrina Loizou
Kattrina Loizou 31 Jan 2018

We had this worry but then decided that if our marriage was important enough for then they would travel!

And if they don't then they've taken themselves off the Guestlist and it's cheaper for us

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

We're getting married near Wolverhampton and I have family coming from Cornwall. We just made sure there was a hotel near by for a reasonable price and gave people plenty of notice.

Charlotte Flower
Charlotte Flower 31 Jan 2018

We are getting married in Hertfordshire,and have family and friends coming from Yorkshire, Manchester, Wales, Surrey, Poland and America. I think 1-2 hours is very reasonable for travelling to a wedding. It is one day, and people can always book a hotel near the venue for the evening if the want to drink and not drive. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

I live in London and getting married in Scotland! Bit further but people are coming x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

if they want to share your magical day they will get there no matter what i live in lincolnshire but my family all live in oxfordshire/buckinghamshire were im originally from and they all made arrangements to either come up the day before/ day of our wedding and stopped in hotels etc we didnt have any of them moaning etc most liked having the break away x

Alaska-Lily Morrison
Alaska-Lily Morrison 31 Jan 2018

We've got guests coming from the other side of the country.. and flying in from America. I'd be more than happy to do the same for theirs if needed as being part of the day is more important than the distance in my opinion (obviously different if illness or other things can stop the travel) but I wouldn't worry too much. Its up to you where you want to get married xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

I have people flying from Ireland !

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

People will make it, that’s not too far at all

Hollie Johnstone
Hollie Johnstone 31 Jan 2018

It's not your responsibility to find accommodation or worry about how people are getting to and from your wedding. That is their prerogative to sort out if they are involved in attending your big day. For example guests on my side will be travelling from all over the UK and from Germany too, whereas my H2B's guests are all from Brighton where we're getting married bollocks to anyone who complains I say 😂

Zoe Holiday
Zoe Holiday 31 Jan 2018

Your wedding should be where you want n t it to be. On your invites you could suggest local b bs and people could make a weekend out of it (if you marry on a weekend) and if you pay for transport no people won't have a problem as the travel costs are taken care of people who want to share your special day will be there no matter what

Charlotte Lundrigan
Charlotte Lundrigan 31 Jan 2018

Our venue is about 1hr 15mins, u have had comments but my thoughts are it's our day, our dream venue so those that want to come will xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

My venue is around 40 mins from ourselves and most people are happy to travel. I have friends travelling 2 hours to come and possibly family who will be in Australia at the time coming back for the wedding. If people want to be there they will be. Personally I don't think it is an unreasonable distance to travel.

Sammi Louise
Sammi Louise 31 Jan 2018

I don't think that's an issue. My sister in law had her wedding about an hours drive and had a great turn out!

Eleanor McCullough
Eleanor McCullough 31 Jan 2018

Our venue is in Gillingham, Kent. The football club to be precise, and a lot of my family (if they all come, invites not sent out yet as wedding is in 2020) will be travelling from South East London, roughly 30miles away and between 35mins to an hour away too. Like someone else has said, if they want to be there they will be there. And like someone said to me: it’s your big day (and your partners) nobody else’s, you have what you want. Buses are a great idea, but how much extra would that put on to your wedding budget. I had to travel from Gillingham to Eastbourne to a wedding, and I even went to Santorini! So if your guests want to be there, they will travel. Maybe you can do an invite that has a list of places to stay over night, if some guests would prefer not to travel back the same night. I’ve done that, stayed over. Another piece of advice I was given was: the moment you start a sentence with the words ‘ I suppose we should, or I suppose we have to..’ then don’t do it. You do/have what you want. 🙂 apologies for the ramblings and have a fantastic day 🙂

Gemma Collins
Gemma Collins 31 Jan 2018

Personally I hate travelling to weddings however you do it if you want to be there. My cousin's was 45 mins away and I've been to one 3 hours away and stayed was invited to the whole day but also a reception only 2 hours away and stayed in a premier Inn. So I did it for others. As for me I'm getting married in a hotel 10-15 Min drive from most guest. However we will be inviting some 3 hours away and 2 hours away but to the whole day. Plus they can stay . If they want. Xxx

Rebecca Taylor
Rebecca Taylor 31 Jan 2018

Ours is very similar. About an hour for me and the groom, and others it’s roughly 1.5/2hrs. Some people are coming the day before and staying. Some are just making the journey. If they want to be there they will be. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

We have a little distance between our church and reception venue I don't think people would mind it's your special day! we are thinking of doing maybe a mini bus for people at the end of the night to travel to there hotels or homes if need be so it will help the cost for them and know one needs to worry xxx

Heather Perry
Heather Perry 31 Jan 2018

My guests are 3 and a half hours away, his guests are hour and a half away. If they want to be there, they will.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

I have travelled to loads of weddings well out of that distance. I plan in advance and stay over somewhere or Car share. X

Sammy Eldridge
Sammy Eldridge 31 Jan 2018

It’s your day, go for the dream venue & those that really want to be there will travel to it.
We are getting married thousands of miles away & our nearest & dearest will travel.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

My now husband and I had to drive 5 hours ourselves to get to the venue! I also had a relative catch two planes from America, and some family and friends flew from france. If they want to be there to help to celebrate your big day and visit the whole family - old and new - I don't think yours would mind an hour and a half drive

Jenna Hexley
Jenna Hexley 31 Jan 2018

If they are worth inviting they will travel, our venue is about an hour away too, its not an unreasonable expectation of people to go a little further afield for a wedding :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

We got married in my home town, a very small do. We had guests travelling from Blackpool, Leicester and Dudley. If they want to be at your wedding they'll be there! People travel further for a night out!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

I am getting married an hour from my house and we have put a coach on for day guests and night guests no one has complained. I have been to a few weddings which are an hour away from my home. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jan 2018

We are about 30 mins from our venue. Our ceremony is in our village then travel there. For some it will be further. We are putting on a coach from the church to the venue and back to our village at the end of the night. We have a lot of none drivers and our venue is kind of out of the way. We will be putting on the invitations to rsvp if seats are wanted (how many and if they want both ways or just 1)

Bethan Heron
Bethan Heron 31 Jan 2018

I have family coming from all over the UK and abroad and they are just getting hotel rooms

Jayne Harper
Jayne Harper 31 Jan 2018

If they want to be there they will make the travel no matter how far it is. We are getting married 4 hours away from our home and all our guests are travelling and staying either at the venue or local hotels. Most of the guests are staying at the venue though.

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 31 Jan 2018

An hour to an hour and a half is practically nothing to travel for a wedding. If your guests have a problem with travel could they look at local hotel rooms? My family range from an hour and a half away to 5 hours away. And no one's complained to me about he distance. The ones who have travel issues have just booked hotel rooms in the venue or around the area.

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 1 Feb 2018

We are getting married three hours from home, our view is if people are invited and want to come, they will be there, if they don’t want to travel, that’s fine too

Go with what you want, it’s not your mums wedding

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 2 Feb 2018

I wouldn't worry too much about it. People will find a way of getting there. My venue is about 45 minutes from where I live but we have guests coming from all over so having it at a venue near home that's not as nice would only be a convenience for some people.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Feb 2018

I put together a 'guest info' sheet for my guest with hotel and a map details. As its about the same distance for our wedding too. I contacted the local travel lodge who gave me a conference booking where they hold about 25 rooms at a discount rate for your guest, but they have to book on line via a link I gave them on info sheet. We also have allocated rooms at the hotel we are getting married and family have booked those rooms. It's yours and H2B day if they want to share your joy they will make the effort. Most of the rooms are already booked for ours and that's both day and evening guest.

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 5 Feb 2018

Half my family live over 4 hours away from me, we went for a venue that suited us, if they want to accept the invitation then its making the effort to travel. The minimum time from my local family to get to my venue is 35 minutes driving....

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 5 Feb 2018

Also fully aware i probably wont have hardly any extra evening guests but everyone important to me will be there during the day.

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