Have any of you been put in this situation. I have just had someone ask me...

Hi very rude I wouldn't invite them :)

Very rude and no, I wouldn't invite them.

"Sorry, it's a small, family-only shindig." ;-) Besides, who on earth invites themselves, pah!

Rude!! Seriously though who on earth does that!!

Its quite rude - if you wanted them there you would have invited them in the first place. Just say your venue is at its limit. I have had a few guests ask if they can bring their new someone with them who I have never met - its just incredibly annoying that they want you to pay for someone you don't know

Not at all. Quite frankly it's just plain rude! Since when did you ask? I had people messaging me and asking me outright if they were invited! I told them straight. Too many people and not enough budget.

Very rude

I'd tell them the same no my wedding isn't for 2 year but I've already decided whos coming and who isn't and I won't budge on the matter if they don't receive an dinvite they aren't invited simple

Personally I think you’re being calm about it 😂😂 I’d have flipped! That’s so downright rude! As if people think it’s cheap and easy just to add their name to a wedding 🙄 tell them where they can go!

I had a family member ask for a day invite through another family member so I sent one to keep peace and she's said nothing about it and hasn't r.s.v.p'd 😡 xx

Tell them to do one! If you wanted them their they would of been on the guest list so tough! Never mind what anyone else thinks, its your wedding not anyone elses. Ive had a few that have suggested so and so comes... not happening!

How rude ... if you wanted them there hey would have made the cut !!

How very rude!!

Very rude..would just tell them u have only so many spaces and uve filled them.

I think it’s rude to invite yourself! Don’t feel pressured to invite people for the wrong reasons, but I agree it’s an awkward situation to be put in x

Unless you’ve planned a wedding then I don’t think you appreciate how hard it is to juggle numbers & costs. Some people will think an evening invitation is no big deal, just like inviting someone to a birthday party.
I get people I hardly know saying “Don’t forget my invite” Just ignore it.

I don't think they know that it's coming over rude & as someone else said until you cost up a wedding it's hard to picture how £ can run away with you .... Once you start adding more & more folks = really hard to do a cut off , of course if you are rich you would invite everyone !!!!!

that is so rude you can only invite so many not everyone i would never ask for a invite

I wouldn't give them one me and my partner are finding it hard people that we haven't spoke to for ages are asking when we are getting married but we have to draw a line somewhere x

Very rude. You would have invited them if you wanted them there.
Tell them polity that guest list has been sorted and sadly not everyone is on it as your venue only holds so many and you cant invite any more people
Either that or ignore request

Not too bothered on the evening guests numbers tbh they have to pay for the bar and the food isn't that expensive so I'm like more the merrier . However sit down meals with with wine and bubbly for the wedding breakfast now that's a whole different ball game . You have to have limits I think weddings are so stressful I decided to take a laid back approach to it all .

It’s very rude. People these days have no appreciation for the cost of a wedding, even an evening guest costs. I hope you told them that all costs have been accounted for and that the fire safety limit for the venue is at its maximum. Or else just “bugger off” should suffice.

Someone asked me if they were invited. It made me feel extremely awkward because they weren’t. Had to find a polite way of telling them no 😕 Yeah you shouldn’t really ask people if you can come, it puts people into an awkward situation

I had a freind who was coming to my wedding with her family member really try to get me to invite her b/f “no sorry it’s all sorted “ -id never met him before good job they’d sadly split before my day

I had this from 7 couples and I squeezed them in, paid extra for them for all and only one couple showed up. It's very rude. I knew there was a reason why I hadn't invited them in the first place

Very rude. Tell them all the invites have been sent and you are at your maximum for numbers. If you had wanted them there don't they realise that they would have been invited in the first place.

If you wanted them there they would have got an invite x

So rude! We’re getting married abroad which kinda makes it easier, but the uk celebration will be strictly invitation only. I’m refusing to have people think it’s a free for all

I asked about my cousins but only because none of my extended family have my address so was just checking that I hadn't missed a message. I would have been fine with both a yes and a no.

It comes down to mine no ring no bring simple as

We have had people asume they're coming during the day and their family members too. Use this to help you decide.

Dayna Slaterhow rude

Im having the same problem, people who don't bother with me or my partner expecting invites . Don't feel pressured into letting them come it's your day and you do what makes you happy. But yes it's very rude xx

It's very rude, people need to realise that you have budgets and capacity restrictions, tell them no!

Haha how funny this happened to us too yes very rude indeed, just ignore!

It’s very rude!
if they really want to come ask them to pay the cost for evening attendees! If not say “sorry everything is sorted”

I didn’t have someone ask as such, but a friend commented on a Facebook post before the wedding saying “you’re going to look amazing on you’re wedding day, we can’t wait to see you there”! I was so annoyed with it and think it’s so rude! I quickly sent her a message to say that because my family is so large that I wasn’t having any friends in the day time (I had a handful of my very close friends there).

Another “friend” (who is now no longer a friend after this incident) also commented on a post, I think I posted about people responding to RSVP’s. She commented saying her and her little girl would be there, but she knew that her little girl wasn’t invited as I put on both day and evening invited that it was family children only, and when I gave her her evening invite I told her that her daughter wouldn’t be invited. However, I sent her a nice private message so she wasn’t embarrassed, and explained again that we couldn’t have her there because we were only having family children. She told me I was a “f*****g joke”, how the f**k am I meant to get a baby sitter at short notice, neither of them will be going” etc... I have her the invite 4 months in advance, so hardly short notice. It just upsets me that you think you know someone but then their true colours shine through. Each to their own though, it was her that missed out, not us.

Its a bit rude. Id just tell them you dont have the budget to stretch that far and all arrangements are set in stone and you can't alter.
The other alternative is say yea you can come but it will cost £x... as I am at my capacity and budget limit, if your willing to pay the extra then by all means come.

Have had similar, someone assumed they were invited to ceremony when I gave them evening invite I said it was strictly family to that part of the day.

I have had a few people do the same to myself and my partner. You do a named invite. State no guests or plus ones invited and then i received a message saying they are bringing others. Im like errm no your not when we are paying per head . The motto of ' your day your way' is what i now go by aha xx