Rebecca Walker-Davies
Rebecca Walker-Davies 28 Jan 2018

I'm getting married in August this year. My h2b and I have been together 2...

I'm getting married in August this year. My h2b and I have been together 2 years and so far the two families have not yet met. I want them to meet before the wedding but my h2b says no it's better for them to meet on the day. Has anyone got any advice on this?

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 28 Jan 2018

Hi it is odd that you have not already met them :)

Kerry Martyn
Kerry Martyn 28 Jan 2018

We only recently got engaged (at Christmas) our parents have a couple of times under medical circumstances - then again for New Year's Day meal 12months ago...

Because our wedding will be in 2 years time we are having an engagement party to ensure our families have chance to mingle and get to know each other a little in advance...

Perhaps you could have a family get together a few months before??

Michelle Davies
Michelle Davies 29 Jan 2018

We are exactly same. We did sunday lunch at our venue last week as i didnt feel it right they met on the wedding day x

Danika O'Connor
Danika O'Connor 29 Jan 2018

We’ve been together 7 years and our families will be meeting on the day 😂😂😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Our families met at our engagement party and because me and him live miles from my parents but close to his, when my parents come to visit we usually plan to go for a meal with his parents as well...its nice for people to meet before the day as Its less awkward for them

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Due to my family being over 300 miles away from where I live with my now husband who I had been with 5 years then, the first time the families had a chance to meet was the night before the wedding for a couple of hours and they all got on fine xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Definitely think it's a good idea to get them together before the wedding, even if just the once.

Anita O'Sullivan
Anita O'Sullivan 29 Jan 2018

We get married in July ... our parents have met numerous times ... with my FIL to be even coming to stay with my Mum & Stepdad 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Me and hubby had been together 6 years before we got married. Our families met about 9 months before the big day and we arranged to go to a convenient pub restaurant and had a whole corner for ourselves where we could all mingle. It was really good and would recommend you do it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Our families had met briefly however when we booked our venue we invited both sets of parents along to view our venue with us then we went out for lunch afterwards so they had met properly as we didn’t have an engagement party or anything xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

We had a parents meal after we got engaged but the majority of the family hadn't met bar this meal.
Maybe best just even having something in the house beforehand?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Ours are meeting the day before when we all go for a “get to know you meal”

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

We got both sets of parents to meet at our reception venue and we all had lunch together. Was really nice to break the ice before the big day x

Amber Neat
Amber Neat 29 Jan 2018

Much better to meet before, please go out for dinner

Donna Winter
Donna Winter 29 Jan 2018

We're having an engagement party for this reason. Not just for family, but friends. I don't want a lot of "strangers" at the wedding. I've not met his best man yet. I don't want the first time to be when I walk down the isle.

Natalie Casey
Natalie Casey 29 Jan 2018

We have been together for almost three years and our families will be meeting on the day 😊

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Immediate family I'd say organise to meet, but everyone else can meet on the day. I'd find it odd if they hadn't met before

Hazel Cottrell
Hazel Cottrell 29 Jan 2018

We had an engagement party for friends and family to meet. We are having a families meal out before the wedding, hen and stag do’s and a meal the night before the wedding in the hope everyone will know everyone so it’s not awkward or his side and her side in the room.

It’s your choice but I would want them to meet each other before.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

I.met my sons w2b parents in October last year. We had a meal together . Broke the ice as we hadnt properly net at engagement party 4 years ago.
I.would get parents to.meet up.before wedding with you both

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

I’ve been with my fiancé for 8 years (we got engaged just over a year ago) & our parents didn’t meet until we got engaged because they lived so far away from each other. We went out for a meal just the 6 of us so they could meet & it was lovely. Our mums have just met again at my hen do & it’s been really nice for them to get to know each other a bit before the wedding. I’d definitely recommend meeting beforehand! It gives them a chance to discuss what they’re going to wear good luck!

Morgan Robb
Morgan Robb 29 Jan 2018

We have been together for 2 years and our parents have only met the once due to the distance we all live apart. I would defo recommend going for a meal or something beforehand. Your wedding is a big enough day without everyone having nerves about the parents meeting for the first time. Extended family are fine just meeting on the day x

Jasmin McCormick
Jasmin McCormick 29 Jan 2018

Organise a wee meal or day out beforehand so they have an idea who's who xo

Sammy Eldridge
Sammy Eldridge 29 Jan 2018

On the day you should be concentrating on yourself, not making introductions so I’d definitely want them to meet before hand. When my brother married we only met his wife’s family on the day of the wedding, my family talked the back off them for not meeting us sooner.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

It depends on your families. My family is completely different to my H2Bs and although some of the 2 families have met, we're having everyone officially meet at the wedding where everyone will be on their best behaviour. We don't think there will be any problems but just in case, nobody will cause problems at our wedding. Whereas if they all met beforehand and didn't like eachother, it would stress us both out so bad!

Sonia Overfield
Sonia Overfield 29 Jan 2018

Mine and h2b parents have never met in the 10 year been together and won’t meet till our wedding day in December but that’s mainly down to his mom who won’t go out any were or for a meal

Aleisha Bristow
Aleisha Bristow 29 Jan 2018

None of our family have met due to distance between them. My h2b parent won’t be at our wedding anyway (personal reasons) however we ain’t worried that they won’t get on Cos both sides are pritty much the same 😂🙈. So they are just Guna al meet on the day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

My family havnt met my fiances family yet. They are meeting at my 40th party in march. Heres hoping they get on lol xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

My Mum & Dad invited the in laws round to their house and cooked them a meal when we got engaged, Was lovely as we didnt feel it would of been right to leave it until our wedding day for our families to meet xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

We had an engagement party so that everyone could meet before the wedding. It was a great idea, and everyone loved having the opportunity to not be total strangers :) x

Deanna Leanne
Deanna Leanne 29 Jan 2018

Our families met shortly after we got together 4 years ago and have been great friends since and we spend the holidays together but everyones different and now we are engaged I don't think I would have liked them meeting on the day 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

If your families are both local enough, you could organise a bbq around May/June time for them to come together. Either at home or a local park/beach type place. Keeps it kind of casual and people can move around, chat etc.

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 29 Jan 2018

We're going for a big meal the day before the wedding since both families are staying at the hotel for 2 nights. My Dad lives about 300miles away so there's no chance to do it before the wedding

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 29 Jan 2018

I got my other half 's sister to meet my mum in early January just after Christmas last year before marrying September last year .....so they at least met once before the Wedding ...

Zoe Holiday
Zoe Holiday 29 Jan 2018

Have an engagement/pre wedding party

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

My mum hasn't met my partners parents yet, they are just going to meet on the day lol. Although his dad lives local to us, we both live far from our mums and there is never the opportunity for them to get together anyway. We aren't bothered by them meeting on the day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Our parents met a couple of times but not siblings and opposite parents. We had a meal at our reception venue night before the wedding, hubby stayed there. We contacted those staying there and said we'd be meeting about 5pm and have a bar meal, if you fancy joining (tho paying for themselves). Gave venue a heads up and we did that. They set us up in a separate room. It was really nice and meant that on the actually wedding day people had already introduced themselves to each other and was really relaxed x

Yaz Benourida
Yaz Benourida 29 Jan 2018

What I did was 6 months before the wedding had a meal out with as many immediate family members as I could (spread all over the world) and then day before the wedding also have a family meal. It worked well for us. Glad they managed to meet before hand as it allowed them to be a little more comfortable together.

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 30 Jan 2018

My parents only met his for the first time just over a year ago - we have been together for 11 years. They don't live anywhere near each other. I don't think its a bad thing if they haven't met before the wedding, they might try extra hard to be polite to each other is they haven't met before lol

Michaela Hill
Michaela Hill 31 Jan 2018

My parents are separated and my H2b parents have still not met.... we’ve been together 4 Years! We get married in 4 months so I am
Planning a meal so they can meet before. For me personally I think it would be strange for them to meet on the day but it’s down to personal preference.

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