UKbride Member Request 23 Jan 2018

How do you have a private and intermate wedding without offending people?

How do you have a private and intermate wedding without offending people?

Samantha Reason
Samantha Reason 24 Jan 2018

Tell them its your day, your way. Someone will get offended if you tell them in a nice way anyway.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2018

Nowadays I don’t think you can do anything without offending people just do what you want for your day people that matter won’t mind and those that mind won’t matter xx

Sammy Eldridge
Sammy Eldridge 24 Jan 2018

Go abroad, that’s what we’re doing. We have invited everyone so nobody is left out but most people won’t want to pay a fortune for flights & accommodations so only our nearest & dearest will be there.

Zoe Holiday
Zoe Holiday 24 Jan 2018

Just do it your way and heavily hint at the cost per head is extortionate and your not willing to pay for it.🙈 I'm lucky everyone I know fits into a small intimate wedding 😂. Or make room for evening only guests and invite them to the night.
I think il invite my work colleagues to a posh meal around the wedding time because they don't know my partner so I'm not budgeting for people like that

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 24 Jan 2018

I guess it depends on size of venue & what you class as intermet anyway...
Our local registy office only seats 50 including me & groom, so ours is quite small just family, (the other room only fits 10... ) And can have 100 guests at reception.. most people will understand if you explain.. Good luck on your big day..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2018

Someone will be offended without a doubt. The polite ones will keep it to themselves. Everyone else will be fine. Just be honest about the decision you've made and let people know (some family members might otherwise think their invite went missing in the post and just turn up anyway!). You could always do a smaller get together after the honeymoon with anyone you really wanted to catch up with. Good Luck x

Kathy Deane
Kathy Deane 24 Jan 2018

You can have a massive wedding and people still get offended over different shit. No matter what you do, you will still have people imposing their opinions etc. Do what you want to do between you and your other half and that should be the end of it. Xx

Audrey Dempsey
Audrey Dempsey 24 Jan 2018

I have 2 storys for you my stepdaughter went got married with just her witnesses then we all met up for dinner then she had a reception amonth later everyone understood why she did it that way my friend is getting married in feb and doesnt like fuss so she told her close family to come to regi office then they going for meal after again everyone understands its down to the person and what you want and comfortable with so dont worry and enjoy your day xx best wishes

Beth Collicott
Beth Collicott 24 Jan 2018

I am having 10 guests. Two are our 12 year old girls, the rest are close friends. No other family, no parents, no siblings. Are they offended? I doubt it; but even if they are then thats their problem not mine! Its our day and we have done it how we want it. You shouldn't be concerned about other peoples views.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2018

You can't please everyone, all of the time. You could bend over backwards and turn yourself inside out trying to keep people happy and someone will be pissed off. If you want private and intimate, keep it that way - don't talk about your wedding to anyone you have no intention of inviting and the same goes for any pre wedding events. Don't invite people's opinions, just make them between you and h2b

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2018

I’ve gone on the basis that it’s MY wedding, and I shall invite whoever I please. Anyone not invited to the day is invited to the evening, and my other half and myself decided very early on it’s only family and close friends to the ceremony, everyone else gets an evening invite. You are not obligated to invite anyone. If they get offended, that’s their problem. The day isn’t about them.
Harsh, maybe. But I’m already (4 months into planning) fed up of people’s self importance.

Charlotte Hill
Charlotte Hill 24 Jan 2018

We are having an intimate wedding in 5 weeks, 21 if us in total. We are going away for a weekend and all staying together. It’s what we want as a couple and at the end of the day its about us not everyone else! We are having a big party a couple months after for all. You have to do what is right for you as a couple not what you think would please most!!! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2018

Do what you want.its your wedding. You will probably offend someone. I did at mine but I didn’t care as wanted people there that where close family and friends.the ones that we saw more then once a yr...stick to what you want..good luck.xx

Katie Hoban
Katie Hoban 24 Jan 2018

I think no matter what you do there's always someone that gets offended! but yep it's your wedding so your choices x

Emma Walton
Emma Walton 24 Jan 2018

We're going to lake windermere just me, my partner and our 2 eldest. Getting married in our hotel suite. We're going to have a reception when we return to the Midlands and have a none religious blessing performed by a friend so family can still see us commit x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2018

Remind them the day is about you and your partner- they can like it or lump it!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2018

Run away

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2018

If anyone is offended and makes a thing of not being invited to the day then... goodbye 🤗🤗 last time I checked it was me and my partners wedding... not their special day 🤵


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