Nafeica Wafaquani
Nafeica Wafaquani 18 Jan 2018

How do you keep everyone happy on your big day when everyone expects so much...

How do you keep everyone happy on your big day when everyone expects so much from you?

35 Comments
Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 18 Jan 2018

Hi don't even try it is impossible :)

Katie Mitchell
Katie Mitchell 18 Jan 2018

I agree with Lucy it’s about you & your husband not them as long as your both happy that’s all that matters

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 18 Jan 2018

Its your wedding.. They are only there to witness & Celebrate your happy day... Do what you want as a couple, Its not a competition.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

You don’t. It’s your day!

Shakira Badwal
Shakira Badwal 18 Jan 2018

I just didn't care 😂 was Perfect because we were happy. I just made sure the kids were happy (we had 20 kids attend) because I know they would of kicked up a fuss if they got bored. We had garden games, candy floss, pop corn machine, slush machine and a candy cart for them.x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

Remember that it is your day. If they aren't happy then did them. They are guests they don't need to like what you have done. It's your day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

Your wedding. Your day. Only be concerned about you and your hubbys happiness .
If people arnt happy with your plansthey can stay away

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

Your wedding so do it your way and stuff everyone else x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

you don't... it's your wedding not there's.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

People being happy is their own responsibility. Totally agree with the other comments before me, make sure YOU are happy, it's your day, and it'll be you reliving it for yourselves in years to come. Your friends and family that are thrilled to be a part of your day, will all be happy if they see you are (and if they aren't, that's totally out of your control) x

Kirsty Normington
Kirsty Normington 18 Jan 2018

I thought the same... the answer is if you try and keep everyone happy, you won’t be happy yourself.. you two make it a day to remember, planned how you want it. Everyone else is there to witness you two happy.. if their not happy with that then maybe not worth inviting?!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

You don't! The best piece of advice about my wedding was 'you can't please everyone, so you may as well please yourself.' Which is exactly what I've done!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

The only people to be happy are the bride and groom! Don't even think if anyone else! Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

It's your wedding, not theirs. As long as you and the groom are happy that's all that matters. People should be happy you've asked them to come and share the day with you.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

In honesty stuff everyone else. The only people whos happiness counts on a wedding day is the bride and groom.
If anyone else isnt happy then thats their perogative they didnt have to attend.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

Just keep yourself happy its your day :-)

Natalie Taylor
Natalie Taylor 18 Jan 2018

https://youtu.be/-kg_Dc2b2Jw

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

It’s not about making your guests happy!
They are invited to celebrate your happiness, that should be enough for them x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

Impossible, I’m having same problem, I’d have given up n cancelled our day if it hadn’t been for my friends support, it’s your day, do what makes you both happy , if people don’t agree with your choices or aren’t happy they can stay away,, hope it all works out I’m sure u will have a wonderful day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

I’m planning my wedding, we get hitched in July this year and I have stressed so much about trying to keep people pleased and I have now decided bugger it! Loved ones are there who can deal with any crap people pull. It’s your day to sparkle and all that matters is you and the one your marrying.

Jennifer Braid
Jennifer Braid 18 Jan 2018

Keep yourself happy. Happiness is infectious if you and your groom are having a good time everyone else will

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

You stop telling brides that everyone expects so much from them and reassure them it’s their wedding!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

You don't... it's your day, please yourself, if others don't like it, tough. Enjoy your day, it's one day, don't stress yourself, enjoy it x

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 18 Jan 2018

Do what you want and don't be pressurised by others. Your wedding day is about you two as a couple and should reflect your personalities and be about what you want. Whilst you can appreciate feedback and help make sure that ultimately you do what you want to do on your day regardless of others opinions! Good luck.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

I'm finding that the best mindset to have is "f*ck 'em it's my day"...obviously you care about the guests and want them there but don't let their needs take presidence over yours. Most people who truly care about you will enjoy your special day no matter what and truthfully I don't think people actually DO have high expectations most of the time it's just us freaking out over things that we don't actually need to worry about.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

You don’t - as long as you and your oh are happy that’s ALL that matters

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

Keep yourself happy it doesn’t matter about anyone else. Just you and ur husband. If you where to please everyone it wouldn’t make you happy.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

You don't, it's your day (as well as your other half) you make plans and arrangements that will make you happy and if those around you don't like it, they aren't worthy of being invited if you ask me! Those who aren't keen on something but truly love you and value your relationship will keep quiet and appreciate it's your day, not theirs!

Kirst Wills
Kirst Wills 18 Jan 2018

Easy..keep yourself and your partner happy. Everyone else should be happy for the both of you, its your day☺

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

You keep you and your significant other happy and ]^{*~€ to the rest. It’s avkut you two and no one else

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jan 2018

You don't. You make sure you and the groom are happy. It's your day, yes of course you want everyone to be happy but you can't please everyone. You will only regret it after the big day if you don't do it your way. Believe me I did. Everyone who's planned a wedding says it and those that haven't then realise and wish they did and then end up saying the same. Good luck

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jan 2018

Simple it's your day so if people don't like what is happening that's tough

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jan 2018

You don't it's ur and HB2B day... all these people that say it's for the parents friends relatives etc. They are all there at ur request to celebrate ur day. Do do what u want to do I'm sure everyone will enjoy however u choose to celebrate.

Sarah Elizabeth
Sarah Elizabeth 20 Jan 2018

Just don't .. I haven't started planning yet so could be wrong

Jodie Howard
Jodie Howard 26 Jan 2018

I think you need to think about yourself, there is always drama and there shouldn't be as at the end of the day two people are getting married because they love each other. Just do what makes you have h2b happy.

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