UKbride Member Request 14 Jan 2018

Has anyone been in the situation where they change their mind about one of...

Has anyone been in the situation where they change their mind about one of their bridesmaids after they’ve already asked them? One of mine who is a friend from school only ever contacts me when she wants something (borrowing money, babysitting etc.) and will go weeks without speaking to me. At the time when I asked her (2 months ago) we were seeing each other more but since then I haven’t heard from her. How has others dealt with this situation? I don’t want her to hate me.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 14 Jan 2018

Hi seems that she takes advantage of your good nature kick her in to touch :)

Rebecca Nicholson
Rebecca Nicholson 14 Jan 2018

I was in this situation but I never asked her because of the same reason so never hearing from her. Why don't you ask if she definitely wants to be your bridesmaid, make a point of it been a big job, she may opt out herself....

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 17 Jan 2018

My maid of honour, has just saved me this conversation turned her back on our 14 year friendship, & stepped down as moh... Cause we had a misunderstanding which lead to her hanging up phone.. Then last week she messaged me to quit.... Tbh things havent been same between us since she moved from cheshire to yorkshire.. Only time we have spoken over last 5yrs is when she wanted to complain about gf, or gf's family or if she was ill, or gf was out.. I tried to be there for her because her relationship is very volitile & controlled, she has lived has no new friends in yorkshire, &when she tried to leave her a couple of years ago, it was me that took her in, but she went straight back because gf's friends lied & said gf was in hospital having a break down.. Apparently i am not supportive of her lifestyle or her family, because i told her more than once that gf's grown up kids need to act it.. being spoilt & using drugs when daughter has 2yr old is disgraceful, & she should put her son first, & son drives fast on drugs too, I said Nothing that she hasn't agreed with me about loads of times....

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jan 2018

Just say your reasons. My wedding is 2 years away but if any of my chosen bridesmaids make no effort to stay in touch then I would just rescind the offer... Not set in stone until you've got their dresses lol!!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jan 2018

It’s your wedding. If you don’t hear from her unless she wants something, you’re not really losing much tbh. True friends are there all the time, even if it’s just for a completely pointless conversation. There’s no point in having a bridesmaid who you would rather was just a guest. It’s a huge honour to be someone’s bridesmaid, and you wouldn’t usually just ask anyone.


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