UKbride Member Request 11 Jan 2018

When we first started wedding planning I wanted to go abroad and my other...

When we first started wedding planning I wanted to go abroad and my other half was not so keen, but after talking about it we agreed to go for it and began looking at Italy, after roughly nine months and speaking to various different venues and planners, my fiancée told me two days ago that he still doesn’t want to go abroad as it’s too much hassle and his grandparents won’t be able to make it. I’ve now got my heart set on Italy and can’t help but feel annoyed and gutted that he’s come out with this now. Can anyone offer any advice? At the moment I don’t really want the wedding anymore :(

Carly Griffiths
Carly Griffiths 12 Jan 2018

If you have your heart set on Italy I think you should still get married there, maybe if you choose some immediate family and friends and then have a wedding here too for all the people that can't make it, it's not fair for him to change his mind. I would be really upset too.

Stacey Hutchinson
Stacey Hutchinson 12 Jan 2018

I would sit down with your partner and discuss the whole thing properly. You may have different ideas with want you would like as a wedding. One way to have the best of both is get married here and have your honeymoon in Italy with a blessing for your marriage.

Sophie Nairn
Sophie Nairn 12 Jan 2018

If he feels that one of the most important parts of your wedding is family then it's completely understandable that his grandparents are on his mind. It's not unusual to realise what's really important to you as you go along the planning process. Work out what's best for both of you x

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 12 Jan 2018

we would have gone abroad but for us, family is so important, and was worth staying local so all our family could be with us when we said I Do

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 18 Jan 2018

I'd sit him down & discuss it, maybe go for honeymoon. Nice romantic holiday just the 2 of u rather than having family in tow. I completely understand about him wanted grandparents there, Sadly they dont live forever, and making treasured memories with loved 1s is so important... i'd give anything to have mine there, but too late..


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