UKbride Member Request 10 Jan 2018

Hi ladies I need to know if I’m over reacting or not ? My hen do is...

Hi ladies I need to know if I’m over reacting or not ? My hen do is one night two days away in Brighton . I have planned every last detail from travel - to restaurants . It’s all booked and paid for and was finally getting excited as there was some drama at the beginning . I sent the plan to everyone last night and every one was happy then to find out my future mil and his aunties have booked to stay the night before aswell and go the morning before so they can know the area plus with that they have invited one of my friends who they don’t know to stay the night before with them . I’m furious as we would all love to go for longer but it’s not how it worked out with prices and the fact they are making it about them when it shouldn’t be what they want as it’s my hen do . I’m just really annoyed and my partner doesn’t get it .He thinks I’m overly angry . What do you think ? Would this bother you ?

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 10 Jan 2018

Personally this wouldn't bother me, I don't really understand why you are upset. if they want to stay the night before why not? If they want to extend their stay and do their own thing prior to everyone else getting there I don't see the problem, As long as it doesn't have any impact on what you have planned once you are there then they have not hijacked your hen.

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 10 Jan 2018

It's a pity they didn't ask you so that you could have joined them but c'est la vie ... people just don't think sometimes and it was probably not meant to be hurtful ... it was just thoughtless. To be honest I think you need to concentrate on what you are involved in and enjoy it. It really is not worth carrying the anger around with you because it will spoil it for all of you.

Steph V
Steph V 10 Jan 2018

I completely agree with Emma.
I personally wouldn’t be angry, obviously if their plans were to change your own then that’s when you should have a word but if they’re doing this all before your hen do I think just let them crack on and as long as they’re paying and not you. Regarding your friend they’re probably doing this as a kind gesture to get to know her and not let her feel left out. If it’s really bothering you just have a word with them.

Beth Abbott
Beth Abbott 11 Jan 2018

This would annoy me too. It sounds like they want to over shadow you. I can imagine if it were my mil or his family they would be saying "oh we are eating here, there's a lovely place just a bit further down. We could have gone there."

I totally understand it would make me angry. Don't let it ruin your time though. Some people are just that way inclined. Hope you manage to have a lovely time regardless

Rachel Turnbull
Rachel Turnbull 12 Jan 2018

Maybe they are planning something special for you and need your friends help and an extra day to sort :/

Just a thought

Louisa Stanley
Louisa Stanley 17 Jan 2018

I think Rachel may have a point. It would bother me a little, but not to the point I would let it ruin what I already had planned.

Kelly Alford
Kelly Alford 23 Jan 2018

I am all too familiar with the interfering mil and the annoyance that can cause. The main thing is that they are clearly excited for your hen do, even if they have gone rogue. You'll have a great time either way.


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