UKbride Member Request 5 Jan 2018

Hi Everyone, having a minor meltdown! I was just wondering what everyone...

Hi Everyone, having a minor meltdown! I was just wondering what everyone else’s opinions was on this. I left my hen party in the hands of my bridesmaids many moons ago, the date they’ve picked is only 5 weeks away and to press I don’t know what is going on, and the feedback I get is no one else seems to know what’s going on either! As a result ive decided to just do it myself but I want to make an actual night of it and maybe go a bit further afield and stay over night but all three of my bridesmaids have excuses as to why they can’t or won’t come, ranging from money to they can’t possibly leave their children with their children’s fathers (are men incapable these days??) I’m not looking at spending a fortune or going abroad I just wanted a good night away with my girls, but it seems too much to ask. I haven’t asked anything of them so far other than to plan this which they haven’t and they aren’t paying for their own dresses, hair, make-up, flowers or anything on the day. Am I being unreasonable? What would you do? Thanks xxx

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 5 Jan 2018

What a predicament. It MAY be that they have a surprise organised. Funny that none of them are available for what you want to book but they have set a date? Perhaps you should explain that you are getting anxious and ask directly if there is a surprise or if you should organise something. You can tell them if there is a surprise looming you will leave them to it. If not ... then perhaps you need to make a back up plan. A surprise is a surprise even if you know there is to be a surprise!

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 5 Jan 2018

I agree with Susan - there is a possibility there is a surprise, but perhaps express your concerns to them and see if they can ease your mind. If not, its not an unreasonable request to want an overnight stay somewhere, and I too would be very frustrated.

Susie Booth
Susie Booth 5 Jan 2018

Or guilt has set in because they forgot..or thought one of the either would sort it and noone did ...just ask outright and explain they are making your hen a bad experience x

Lynsey Mac
Lynsey Mac 6 Jan 2018

Have to agree with Susan.

Another likelihood is, it’s January, people are pretty skint right now due to holiday period.


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