UKbride Member Request 10 Dec 2017

Do any other Brides not enjoy the whole wedding dress thing? Everyone around...

Do any other Brides not enjoy the whole wedding dress thing? Everyone around me is so excited re the dress but having been to lovely shops I just don’t enjoy the experience and after the trying on sessions I actually have pains from how tight they are on my organs lol. Ive found a dress I like but don’t ever think it will be top of my excitement list xx

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 10 Dec 2017

Your experience is exactly why I ordered my dress on-line from Debenhams. I could try it on in the comfort of my own home and make sure it was what I wanted. Definitely no tight dresses for me.

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UKbride Administrator 12 Dec 2017

I'm exactly the same, in fact i'd go as far as to say I hated the whole experience of buying my dress! For various reasons it was one of the worst experiences of my life...I don't like clothes shopping/trying on clothes as it is and wedding dresses are quite uncomfortable, I also hated being in my undies in front of a stranger because I'm painfully self conscious. I've only put my dress on once since I got it (it was off the peg so was able to put it on at home) and I dont really have a desire to ever wear it again. It looks nice don't get me wrong but I don't really feel comfortable or confident in any thing and I think the thought of being the centre of attention in it freaks me out. I get married in just over 3 months though so I guess i'd better try and come to terms with it haha I don't know what to suggest to make the experience any better, but thought i'd let you know that you're not alone :)

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UKbride Administrator 12 Dec 2017

I don’t like the idea that everyone will be looking at it, at me, expecting it to be beautiful and stuff. And even if they don’t think it is, they will all say it is and I just don’t know if I can be bothered with it all. I’ve just made sure I’m comfortable and I feel like me and it’s my style (as much as a white dress can be) and that’s the most I can do.

Andrea Allison
Andrea Allison 12 Dec 2017

I've not even been yet. Absolutely dreading it. 😱

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 12 Dec 2017

I’m not a big shopper, small waist big boobs and struggle to find things that fit well

I only went to the one shop, a nice big one that had a big selection, explained what I do and don’t like, three dresses later and the job was done

Some of my friends turn it into a ritual and shop in so many places

Urgh, not my thing at all

As long as you have found a dress you like, at least you can put that but behind you and look forward to planning the other bits x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Dec 2017

Its one if the top three things I am not looking forward to

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UKbride Administrator 12 Dec 2017

Didn't enjoy the dress shopping either...have found my dress tho so thankfully this experience is over x

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 12 Dec 2017

Try looking @ elsies attic website for unusual vintage wedding dress thinking outside the box ....1950's are perfect for different shaped ladies beautiful ! ...... Also coast are bringing out wedding dresses online , worth a look .
Please choose what you feel comfy in , I did , it's important to be not squeezed into what your peers think of the going trend = Buck the trend & do something Different !!
That way you can relax & be comfy .....

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UKbride Administrator 12 Dec 2017

It's the one thing I was looking forward to, but I fell in love with a dress on the Lindy Bop page and ordered it right away, along with the bridesmaids' dresses.

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UKbride Administrator 12 Dec 2017

Hated it first time round, loved it this time (Had to re-buy due to dropping 10 dress sizes) got my dress in the first shop. I actually like my dresses a bit on the snug side cause I know then that I won't have a repeat of my prom (my dress kept falling down and I spent most of the night making sure my boobs hadn't popped out again)

Vicki Clough
Vicki Clough 12 Dec 2017

I did not have to go throw it i got givon a dress it fits and its me i fell luck i did not have to look as i hate that sort of thing

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UKbride Administrator 12 Dec 2017

I totally understand your feelings. I wasn't a bride that went and tried on a million dresses at various boutiques I saw one went and tried it on with a couple of others and bought it and that was it.

I think a lot of brides forget what a wedding day is actually about and get caught up trying to get the best of the best. A lot of people even getting into debt just for a dress. Such a shame that the real meaning of a wedding is becoming lost on a lot of occasions x

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 12 Dec 2017

It certainly was not my favourite part of the planning. I wouldn't say I didn't enjoy it but I was relieved after trying on around 10 dresses that I found the one on my first shop and that I wouldn't have to do it again. I have gone to two fittings for my dress now and the last one I actually really enjoyed as the dress is almost done and fits me properly now - it was much more satisfying.

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 12 Dec 2017

So glad it's not just me! I was envisaging a Hollywood scene of finding 'the one' dress wise or at least something akin to 'Say Yes to the Dress'! Instead I've found the whole experience quite flat and stressful. I've tried on a multitude of dresses and have narrowed it down to two but haven't had that bridal moment and no tears of joy from either me or my bridesmaids. Hate that the dress is such a big focus of the day when it's obviously not the most important bit!

Sophie Taylor
Sophie Taylor 12 Dec 2017

Alexandra Devi nice to know it’s not just us!!! xx

Siobhan Knight-Potgieter
Siobhan Knight-Potgieter 12 Dec 2017

I have to say I’m the opposite to you I tried on quite a few as I didn’t want to miss out. It sounds like your trying to go for quite a structured dress and it’s just not working out, perhaps look at the high street options available or ask the dress shop’s in advance for them to pull out their non-boned options etc

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UKbride Administrator 12 Dec 2017

I dreaded going dress shopping and about an hour in I wasn't enjoying it anymore than I was to start with. I tried a dress on I quite liked, just as much as some others, my mum took one look at me and burst out crying. So for me that was the dress I thought! I then tried a veil on which made me feel a bit more gooey inside over it all. But I never got particularly excited lol

Rebecca Chappell
Rebecca Chappell 12 Dec 2017

I didn't hate it but I did feel completely overwhelmed and out of my comfort zone and felt I was an inconvenience for my sister and mum who I had dragged along. The bridal boutique atmosphere felt very fake and forced. I needed up saying yes to a dress that any other dresses I tried on couldn't top so thought well.. It must be the one then!

Ashley Power
Ashley Power 12 Dec 2017

Online shopping for me! I’m decidedly “plus size” (5 foot 10 and a between 18-22 in size), not a “dressy” person, hate attention being on me or in my grungies in front of a stranger so not even going to bother lol

Carol Boyle
Carol Boyle 12 Dec 2017

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UKbride Administrator 13 Dec 2017

I am still searching for my wedding dress, wedding dresses I’ve tried are made for tall women and I am only 4’10 , I didn’t feel the wow when I’ve tried 3 dresses on WED2Be. It just overwhelmed me. Only thing I could think of is to go to Bespoke wedding dress shop which is gonna cost more than my budget. Good luck , hope you find the right wedding dress


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