So - Very unexpectedly I have found the dress! Of course this is amazing but wasn't expecting to find it so soon. This is also before we have even booked a date (Although we doing this in like 2 weeks). I suffer with anxiety and once again, it has reared it's ugly head, and making me feel bad. When me and my h2b got engaged (10 months ago), I got it into my head that if I brought or got anything wedding related before we booked a date that it would jinx everything and it would be bad luck. And, although, I haven't officially brought the dress yet, my anxiety is now freaking me out by saying "I should have waited". I love the dress, it is just perfect. I cried when I tried it on and I find myself looking at the picture online almost everyday. I guess I am worried I have got too ahead of myself as I wasn't expecting to find anything until around this time next year. Has anyone else had anything like this or am I just being paranoid and letting the anxiety get the better of me?
I know it is hard when you have anxiety, I too have been diagnosed with it as an offset of my PTSD. It can complicate things and make life so much more difficult. However all of these thoughts are just your mind playing tricks on you and are very rarely going to come to head. If you have found THE dress then do it! Get it before you miss out as you may never find the one again, just imagine how much better your day will go if you can enjoy it in your dream dress! I am not supersticious regarding weddings, I think if it isn't going to work out its not to do with the dress or getting stuff to early. My fiance has seen my wedding dress as I asked his opinion when I tried it on haha! I love my dress and I'm not getting married until July 2018. If I hadn't got it though I just know I'd have beaten myself up for that! I hope you get your dress and that your anxiety will subside, this is a happy and exciting time, enjoy every second and I will send all my best wishes to you for the most beautiful day! x
Don’t ever let the horrible work anxiety get to you, I suffer with anxiety and it was so bad I had to take Kalm tablets to help with my anxiety and nerves. The best thing I do is think of all the postives I’m doing and how happy I’ll be. If you’ve found the dress before the wedding and feel beautiful then that overrules that feeling. Don’t ever think of the negatives always the positives, if you want to plan your wedding now do it :)
Sending you a big hug ((((( ❤️ )))))
Anxiety & panic attacks are the worse as my new husband suffers from that & PTSD .... I believe you need to think of the positive as the others say above & Know that if you buy it now you will be saving a lot of money as I believe the cost of wedding dresses will go up .... Get it now whilst it's cheaper ... & warm wishes for being beautiful on the day in your dress , the one that makes you feel Special !!!! 🌟🎉💫🌟🎉💫
Love Sarah xx
Can you reserve it until the date is booked and then go buy it??
You’ve found a dress that you absolutely love, it doesn’t matter if you haven’t set a date, finding “the” dress is hard, count it as a win I didn’t get mine until about 3 months before the day, leaving it so late caused a lot of anxiety, I had nightmares that it wasn’t ready in time and I ended up wearing jeans, had to repeatedly tell myself to stop being silly and remind myself that’s it’s normal to be a bit crazy about your wedding, nothing goes to plan so just take it as it comes, trust me after the day you’ll laugh at how close to a nervous breakdown you got ️
it happened to me too. went out to look at colours and walked away with the perfect dress. nothing bad has happened xx
So why did u go look at a dress before you booked the date?
Have you tried an app like headspace to help you try to manage your anxiety? If there is something that helps you bring you anxiety levels down a bit, exercise or CBT or mindfulness or whatever, I think if you can make time for that thing, then the problems with the dress will feel more manageable? I hope you feel better soon x
Hiya, I too can relate to this although it does sound as though you have had that 'feeling'. I have sporadically suffered with anxiety over the past 10 years. The week after I got engaged, I went to a shop that was closing down and ultimately ended up buying a pretty dress. That night I started with anxiety because it didn't feel right. Luckily my Grandma a week later told me to go round and try it on again and we both agreed that although very pretty it wasn't me. I now have a dress I am struggling to sell and get anxious at the thought of going to try on dresses and make a decision.
Although this doesn't have any answers for you, hopefully you can take comfort in knowing you are not the only one. I won't say 'don't worry' because I know myself that no matter how many people say that it won't help but you know this feeling will pass and then you will know what to do. Trust yourself and try be excited about the reason you're doing this, you're going to be a wife YAY!!!! xxx
I don’t get married for 2 years and I have just brought mine, found the one really quickly! Go for it. xx
I did the same. Have a dress, no date and no venue. I took my daughters for some fun on the last day of the holidays.
I love my dress, but have deleted every picture i had of it so i dont start to overthink it. We are looking at venues in the new year.
Did we not have this exact question a couple of days ago?
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