My fiancé proposed to me a few months back and we immediately set the date and venue - the date is really important to him and the venue to me, they have a lot of meaning behind them. However the venue doesn't allow weekday bookings so it has to be a weekend, and the next time the date falls on a weekend is early 2021. This doesn't bother us as it gives us more time to save and plan, but I find whenever people ask when I'm getting married and I say 'in 3 years' I get some strange reactions, one person even asked why we'd bothered getting engaged so early. It's getting me down a little bit, has anyone else experienced this?
Hi don't worry about what other people think there are many people who have been engaged over 10 years before getting married :)
I really wouldn't let it bother you, whenever people mention weddings everyone suddenly believes they have a right to give you their opinion when really they should respect your choices as a couple its your day. There are a lot of people planning weddings for 2020 and 2021.
It's your wedding and your decisions. I never understand why some people always have to make negative comments and spoil things for others. Please don't let them get you down.
Hi I’m getting married June 2020 and couldn’t care less what people think, I’ve already planned the majority of my wedding. Don’t let negative comments get to you, it’s your wedding and you do it your way :)
Thank you ladies! I'm such a forward planner so I've already planned a lot of ideas and we've provisionally booked our reception venue. People were just making me feel like we shouldn't be planning etc, and my fiancé is being the stereotypical man and is only interested in actually getting married, not the planning! It's April 2021, so I may follow in your footsteps Steph V and start booking things next year :) x
I'm feeling that, been with him for over 7 years, got engaged in August, wedding 2020. But we brought a house this Feb! & my two siblings are getting married in 2019, so it made sense to wait and get married on our 10 year anniversary... doesnt change that everyone is not excited as so far away though :(
My partner proposed to me this year and were not getting married till 2020 for the same reason my date thats important to me falls on a saturday that year take no notice its your wedding and your special day
Me n my h2b got engaged last year but we're getting married in 2018 and we got the same why we waiting so long blar blar blar but its perfect for us as gives us time to save up. You do what you and your h2b wants as long as your both happy xx
I was engaged to my other half for 8 years before we got married
I got engaged this year and we havnt set a date yet probably be late 2019/ 2020 though as we want to save and buy a house ( and I need to finish uni)
Me and my partner got engaged in 2010 and were only getting married March 2018 xx
I wouldn't worry about it too much! We've been engaged 4 years now and still have no date! We simply can't afford at the minute, but it doesn't change how we feel about each other or that we want to get married! We've got many ideas so when we can afford it should be a bit easier. At least with the time you have you can look around and get the best deals, and you never know, something new and amazing might pop up that you want to book/buy for your big day! Good luck xx
We get asked the same question and to be fair, I don’t care, the date we get married on in meaningful for us. That’s all we tell them- like it or lump it. I doubt your H2B checked through possible wedding dates when he proposed. And it’ll come around so quick. We had 3.5 years to wait, and now we only have 1.5 years to wait.
Me & my hubby were engaged for 10 years before we got married. We constantly got asked what we were waiting for. If you & your fiancé are happy with the date & year you have set that that's all that matters
I'd tell them to fuck off haha honestly its normal to spend time planning and more importantly saving! Plenty of people have longer engagements and it isn't unusual to book a wedding several years in advance. Its none of their business anyway, don't let people get you down, as long as you are happy with it that's all that matters...enjoy your planning :)
what does it matter what other people think hun u please yourselves not others x
It might be 3yrs away but I can guarantee it will be here before you know it. Enjoy planning xx
Me and my husband got married on the two year date of us getting engaged, I like to have dates that mean something so we got married 9th November in the place we met
Ours was almost 3 yrs to give us time to save to have the wedding we wanted, we got engaged Christmas 2014 and get married nxt week. It's flown in and so will ures x
only coz it took 5 yrs to pin you down to a date lol
Tell them to sod off! Nosey, interfering hags! I've only just got married and we got engaged almost four years ago. It's naff all to do with others, you get married when you're ready.
I’ve been engaged 3 years this Xmas and I haven’t planned my wedding yet. It’s what you and your fiancé want don’t worry about what other people think.
We've been engaged for 2 years this new years and we've only just been able to say we should be able to afford it as we were going to book it last year but then found out I was pregnant so don't worry about people life gets in the way we've only just finalised we are having a church wedding I think the wait helps you realise what you really want
Ignore them. We got engaged 2012. Was due to get married 2014 but life got in the way. Was gonna do it 2022 but doing it 2020 instead now x
As long as you're both excited that's the main thing. Me and my partner got engaged in April this year and are getting married 2020. I bought my dress before we picked a venue and got funny looks when I told people try not to let it get you down or feel less excited.
Congratulations on your engagement! My husband and I were engaged for 6 years before we got married. My advise is to enjoy the excitement of the engagement, and not worry about what others think/say. You know you are committed to each other, and you now have plenty of time to save for the wedding you want, as opposed to rushing and having to make compromises to suit the budget. You also have lots of time for planning, which makes for a much more relaxed experience :)
Got engaged 11 years ago getting married next yr.
We were the same we got engaged this August and we are getting married April 2019 and we got some funny looks but at the end of the day you have to save for a wedding and we are also saving for a house as well that's why we are having the wedding in 2019. And at the end of the day it's your choice it doesn't matter what other people say xx
My partner and I have been engaged since end of 2009, we've been together 15 years, which is longer than some marriages last lol.. No rush to get married especially now we're expecting a baby.. Some people can be so judgemental but we're secure enough in our relationship to not care what busy bodies think, I'm not going anywhere and neither is my partner and to us that's all that matters :)
Yep and my wedding is only 2 years away - date chosen because, like you, it is a special date. People don't realise that weddings take time to organise and suppliers need to be booked up way in advanced. I always though 2 years was kinda average. Doesn't stop so many people telling me it's too long. I just ignore them. It's a special date and that's that.
Don’t let them get you down, we were engaged 9 years before getting married. You do it when you want too. We have now been married 6 months. And together 14 years. Good luck with the Edson g planning and enjoy it xxx
Hi it's not a nice feeling, I have been with my future hubby 16years and we got engaged this July, we have booked for a 2020 wedding and when I have told people I get some funny looks and comments. We have done it since can save and have a perfect day and that was our choice so we ate happy with that. We waited this long what's a couple more years x
Congratulations ️ We were engaged for nine years we got engaged and that was that lol and last year we finally got married when you get married is right for you no one else so stuff their views enjoy your planning xx
3 years is a reasonable time. you want to enjoy the planning and saving process. not rush it and make yourself poorly. myself and my partner got engaged in July and we’re looking around 2021/2022 hun! xxx
We been together 2p years and we get we'd this year comming we have are selves 3 years so as long as you ok with it that's all that matter
ignore people who.ask.stupid questions. if your happy with the date and venue that's
all that matters.
you can plan your wedding without stress and rush and it will.be perfect.
I had this problem, don’t let it bother you. It’s up to both of you and no one else. We got engaged July 2016 and get married May 2019 and it’s going rather quick. Do what you want it’s your day x
Don't worry about it. We got engaged nearly 4 years ago and not planning our wedding till 2019! Xx
Its a normal thing. People always ask when are you getting engaged. Then you get engaged and ask when your getting married. Then you get married and they ask about children.
Ive recently got engaged this year and we have said about three years also so we can save and get the same responses.
In this day an age people struggle to save for a house deposit and with wedding costing more than house deposits its crazy for people to expect us to pluck tens of thousands out of thin air. Its not like we know when an engagement will occur so we can save in advance.
If people have a problem I just say feel free to give me a shit tonne of money and we will get married sooner otherwise leave us alone we will do it when we want and are able to
My partner proposed to me pretty quick into our relationship, but we were seeing each other for 6months before actually getting together, and we have been engaged for 5 years nearly due to get married in 2. That would mean iv been engaged for 7 years before I actually get married. Don't let people get you down about it. There's people out there who have been engaged for 10 years and still haven't even set a date for there wedding! What's the point in rushing into things when u can plan it all out steadily xx
I had been engaged for 3 years before I decided I even wanted to plan my wedding! I am getting married September 2018 but a lot of our family had begun asking when we are getting married.
Ignore them! You do you, if the date is as important as what mine is then stick by your guns!
I booked my wedding nearly 2 1/2 years in advance, because that's how we could afford to get married and because my mom got diagnosed with terminal cancer. It made us realise we wanted to get married with as many parents around as possible. They're not getting any younger tbh. You do what's important to you forget what anyone else thinks, all I advise is don't get anything too early or make decisions on colour schemes too early. You will change your mind if you make decisions too early good luck xx
I got engaged 9.10
14 and got married 28.10.17
I was looking at an August wedding but had our little girl in july so put it back a few months x
Don't worry about that at all.Dont see why people have to butt in really.You can be engaged for however long you want yo be.We were engaged for 15 years before we got married 2 years ago and it was no body else's business apart from ours.People have different reasons and other unforseen things may crop up.Who cares as long as you are marrying the person you love at the end of the day xx
Your wedding is special between the 2 of you. Your date will represent this and its nobody’s business how far away it is. Either explain why and they’ll quickly change their tune or tell them to mind their business and be confident your wedding will be what you both want and when 😘
Not quite the same but was with my partner 13 years before he proposed and we have now been engaged 3 years. Hoping to get married next year (finances permitting) but whatever happens it will be when it suits us!
We were engaged for nearly 6 years before we finally tied the knot. Life happened and the wedding wasn't the most important thing any more. In the end our wedding was just a party with a little bit of legal stuff before. Dont worry about everyone else - its your day at the end of it all :-) xx
Girl I've been engaged to me fiance for 3 years. People keep asking us why we haven't got married yet. For us we want to get money up together and ourselves sorted. I think so long as you guys are happy with the date and venue and your happy to wait for what you want to for it. People always have an opinion it's what matters to you that's important xxxx
Congratulations, me and my h2b have been together 6 years, engaged 1, and we have a specific date in mind, with a seasonal venue, the only time this falls is 03/09/2022
That leaves us with 4 years to save as of new year. Plenty of time as we are wanting to buy a house before then! Don’t rush for others sakes! Do it when the time is right xx
Ignore them me and my partner got engaged after a month together we are getting married in April 2018 on our 5th anniversary take your time if you're going to spend the rest of your lives together the date you get married doesn't matter
Just ignore comments like this you can have your wedding when you want and don't let people get you down. I had people asking why we were waiting just over two years and saying it was ages away but I insisted it wasn't. The reasons I've explained are 1. It's given us time to save and 2. I'm enjoying the planning process and as you only do it once then I want to make the most of it. Anyway, I've insisted the whole time just over two years is not long and low and behold we are at 8 months to go and now people are saying they can't believe how quickly the time has gone and it's not long now. Your wedding will be here much sooner than people realise.
I was engaged for 3 years before getting married and felt that a lot of people didn’t take us seriously (also because we’re young) including my MIL I found that the closer we got to the wedding the more people took it seriously and realised it was actually going to happen ( although my MIL wasn’t on board til a few months before ). I would suggest that you only talk wedding things to people that are excited for you. Also I would try not to plan everything too far in advance - it doesn’t always work out. I know it can be really hard to brush off people’s reactions but just remember that you love your partner and they love you. Engagement is a promise of marriage, it doesn’t matter if you are engaged for 4 months or 4 years. Keep your chin up and trust me the year before the wedding will absolutely fly by, I didn’t believe it but it came round so fast! Happy planning, oh and don’t stress the little details everything will work out magically. Hope you have the wonderful wedding day of your dreams
I’m getting married in 2020 I’ve had some comments but I just say it gives us more time to plan and pay for things more spread out so we can have the wedding we want. Other people’s views don’t matter it’s your two’s day. Just ignore it and put it down to change - some people can’t deal with change and different ways. Ignore it and politely point out it’s the best thing for you guys
I shouldn’t let it worry you, everyone does it in different time scales
We have been together nearly 15 years (in Feb) engaged for 14 years and we started to finally plan our wedding a couple of years ago and getting married may 2018
Other things just came along first and we were in no rush xx
You do it how you feel, if that date is important to you then do it on that day x
Yes, my fiance proposed after almost 10 years, it will now be another 4 or 5 before we tie the knot x
I wouldn't worry. Me and my fiancé have been engaged for 3 years and still have no savings and no date for a wedding! We bought a house last year and loads went wrong so we ended up spending our savings on that. Life happens! If the date and venue are important to you then good on you both for sticking to them x
I got engaged sept 2014.. married sept 2017. We were never in any rush as we were practically married before that, i just didnt have the same name as him and our son people will always judge, but just ignore them. It soon comes round fast!! X
I booked 3 years ago and got married 25th november this year. Trust me it flies by. Enjoy all that planning. It really does fly by. N then in a blink its all over. Make the most of it. Enjoy the build up it will all be worth it! No1 will get as excited as u as its ur wedding. Good luck with all the planning =) xx
I have received the same response we have gotten engaged but the date has not been set and people are asking why we bothered. It shouldn't matter what others say it's how you feel about each other and your close family and friends supporting you.
Me and my partner was together for 14p years and got engaged we have no plans to get married yet you do things your way as long Las you are both happy stuff ĺever one else people rush to quick get into debt to pay for weddings do things your way and don't be told any diffent
By time I get married next year it would be 3 years since he popped the question is was a date we wanted, if it's somewhere u really like then don't worry how long it takes
You can never win, we got engaged 6 years ago-we have had 2 kids and bought a house and this year we thought the time was right to book the wedding, so in August, we booked it for December - we get married in 3 weeks!! Yes, it’s an extreme with long engagement and really quick wedding but we’re only having a small wedding and it’s what we want at the end of the day!
Despite the fact it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks (it's your wedding!) I'm sure the average time from engagement to wedding these days is something like 22 months, so pretty much 2 years anyway. Like you say it also gives you time to have fun during your engagement period and enjoy planning your wedding with time and choices on your side - no rushing or unavailability of preferred suppliers (our photographer when booked in 2016 was full for 2017, most Saturdays in 2018 and had a number of bookings in for 2022 already). What's the rush, when you're happy together no matter what your marital status!? Much better that way than too soon after engagement. You can perhaps look at buying a house together / enjoy a nice holiday or anything else you may want to do in between too! xxxx
My partner set our date which is the date we got engaged so we would of been engaged 4yrs when we get married for it to be a Saturday wedding. He had been planning to propose for a while. It never bothered me. Iv had no stress planning the wedding its been fun. X
It’s totally normal I’m getting sick of comments like that! We got engaged July 17 and wedding booked for may 20. X
We've been engaged since 2013 we didn't set a date until three months ago for next year.
I’ve been engaged for over 4 years now and only 4 months ago set a date and booked a venue.
Don’t worry about it. If the date is significant to you then sod everyone else!
The one thing you have to learn very quickly about planning a wedding is it’s about you and your h2b. You will never please everyone.
We got engaged in Feb 2014, getting married next year. Do what’s best for you. Time absolutely flies by, it will be here before you know it! I know it won’t feel like that yet!
Me and my h2be got engaged 5 years ago and still haven't set a date due to wanting to sort out our own place first and get on the property ladder. We never anticipated it would take this long lol
We had a three year engagement, we just told people it was so we could save for the wedding we want. The other reason was because we wanted to buy our first home together before we got married too. Tell them to mind their own business
I got engaged in December 2016 and by February 2017 I had the venue booked for June 2020!! Ignore people and do what you want :) x
People will always have something to say. We get married 22nd December next year. And so many people think it's ok to make comment about isn't that time of year expensive enough or telling me how brave I am. We got engaged at Christmas and it has always been my favourite time of year so we booked it. Go with what you want. If you are happy to wait then that's all that matters xx
We've been engaged for 6 years and have no date or idea of when we'll actually get married. Why do you care?
Ignore them trust me 3 yrs fly by
I get the same Hun we're getting married in 2020 but stuff them it's your special day so what you want to xx
I was engaged 10 yrs before getting married x
hi, im getting married in 2020. when people ask when we getting married they wonder why its 2 years time. i state well my fiance and i are paying for the wedding, so we have to save.
Ive been engaged for 4 1/2 years and we only started planning our wedding in June and we’re getting married in September 2018. It’s nothing to do with anyone else just you and your partner x
I was engaged for 5 years before I got married. No one actually questioned it. I think k people thought we would never actually get married but we did. It's not about how quickly you do it. If you want to wait for your perfect dates then wait. Gives you alot of time to make everything perfect and then you won't have this big rush and panic before the day. X
I wouldn’t let it worry you at all. I have been with my partner 17 years been engaged for 9 years and no date set but we have a lovely house and two beautiful sons one only 10 weeks old! To me that’s the biggest commitment and love a couple can share. We will get married but there is no rush and even better I get my beautiful sons to be part of the special day whenever it may be! Enjoy the time together and making memories in the lead up to the big day and you get the venue and the date that means so much to you both.
I got engaged 2014 and getting married next year! I got the same reactions but it has been fairly stress free and booked things here and there and been saving money! It's your day, do you 😊 xxx
See instead of saying "in 3 years", just say "were in no rush" my partner and I got engaged in 2010 and we are getting married in 5 weeks time. Don't listen to anyone else and do things exactly how you want to
Just tell them you havrnt set a date
Hey ignore the haters! Me n my hubby got together in 2010, got engaged 2012 n got married in October just do what ever you want to do if that means wait for the date then that's your decision it's you lives don't let anyone dictate how you live it xx
I'll have been engaged over 5 years by the time I get married. I get the same reaction but the truth is, I moved away for two years so for two years of our engagement we lived 250 miles away! We have since got a house, I've started my career and we are finally in the right place to start wedding planning. We were aiming for 2020 anyway but we've managed to move it forward a year! Do things at your own pace and do things how you want them done. If it's what both you and your partner want then why should anyone else get a say?
Ignore them, youve chosen that date & venues for reasons important to you so just enjoy the planning. 3 years will fly in anyway, we planned for about 2 1/2 years xx
We had over 2 years between getting engaged and getting married
Just answer them back as : "nanja - as non of your business". Are you getting married for you or for your friends and family? That's the question in the end of the day .
I'm getting married 2022 and get asked all the time why we waiting so long, how long your engaged really does matter to anyone else its up to you. Me and my partner want to get married on a Saturday on a specific date as it be the day we met, and that we have 4 kids under the age of 6 so money wise we can't get married straight away as their needs come first plus they be older to participate on the day and I wount have to relay on family to chase after them
I had this sort of thing we got engaged in January and don't get married until September 2019 I just respond with weddings are really expensive and we need to save up!
My partner & I got engaged this year, at the moment we are looking at dates for 2020, but not entirely sure if even that's doable so we have been telling people 2020 or later! The people that matter to us are very supportive & everyone else can do & think as they please! My partner & I see it as for now we have made a commitment to make an even bigger commitment to each other, it's just costs don't allow us to do it our way for a few years xx
Don't worry I got engaged Sept 2017 gettong married 2019 July for the date and money etc people gave me the same reaction but it will fly by xx
I had exactly the same reaction... we got engaged in April and booked venue straight away for 2020 and most of my friends and family members kept asking why so long?... but I kept thinking at the end of the day, we are saving for a house and now a wedding, I don’t want anyone else paying for it so really 3 years isn’t that long.. x
Yeah :( we got engaged on New Year's Eve 2016, we picked my ring together 2 weeks later and I went to a wedding fair with my best friend the week after (no ring as they needed to size it for me). We decided on June 2020 as we're buying our first house together first.
Got asked by a vendor if my fiancé was aware we were getting married because I didn't have a ring and my date was so far in advance
We've also just booked our venue and no one other than us and my best mate seems to really care and it's bumming me out a bit because this is huge and amazing and exciting and I want my family and friends to get on board with that more!
Sorry, rant over, I can sympathise with how you feel but use this time to get your research done then when you make your decisions you are less likely to second guess yourself - that's what's worked for me this year :)
3 years might seem a long time but trust me it will fly. X
People are too eager to rush anything and everything these days don't listen too them. A long engagement gives you even more time to know each other even better before officially binding yourselves together. I have been engaged 4 years now. It's not a race. :) Have a lovely wedding whenever it may be.
I’ve been engaged for 9 years together 11 years we got engaged when we were really young and knew that it would be a long engagement it was more about the commitment to one another. We did things like go to uni, have some nice holidays, buy a house, get a dog etc. All before we set a date! People need to learn to keep their opinions to themselves it’s none of their business if you don’t get married until say 2030! It’s what’s right for you and your H2B you don’t have to explain yourselves x
Why be so concerned with what anyone else thinks, ignore the negative Nancys in life x
Know how you feel. Got engaged Xmas 2013. Not set a date and people saying have you set a date. No I'd tell you when we have. 😝
We got engaged in 2014 and married in 2017. We had 3 1/2 year engagement. Most people didn’t bother with this tbh but some people don’t realise how expensive weddings are. Don’t bother with what people think
Yep we’ve been engaged since 2014 and our wedding is in August 2019 and everyone’s asked us why we’ve booked it for so long after but it’s your day and whether you’re engaged for 6 months or 6 years when you marry, it shouldn’t matter to anyone else ! Besides I’ve known people who got engaged for a year, married for a couple of years then got divorced. I think a long engagement is just a show of commitment c
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Don't worry what other people think if it means something to you and your partner then go with it. Myself and my partner have been engaged nearly 5 years and by the time we get married it will be just over six. There's no rush to get married we just wanted to ensure it was 100% what we wanted and to have our special day x
Yes! I got engaged in March last year and I’m not getting married until 20th June 2020! We’ve booked our venue and I want to start looking at dresses at the end of this year. I feel like people are so judgemental when I talk about our wedding and they’re like “it’s not till 2020” or when I tell them when it is they just go “oh, bit soon to be planning you have ages” when In reality we don’t as most venues are booked for the following year and a half! Same with entertainment etc. Wish they would just be quiet and let me be excited and enjoy this time! X
I had the same problem, my fiancé asked me to marry him last year April and we decided to get married next April 2019. My friends and others kept asking the same question. ‘Why you waiting so long’ and my answer was that we need to save and I really wanted to get married in April. This gives us so much time to save for an amazing wedding. So don’t worry about what people say, as it’s your special day and you can get married whenever you want.
Ignore people. We got engaged 3 years ago and never really decided on anything. Then in September when there was a complication with dads surgery we decided that now was the time. We are getting Married in June next year and it's fine. It's suits us and that's the end of it. Each couple is different. Don't let anyone interfere in what you two think is right.
Bless you! Your day, and your exciting time to relish! Enjoy every second! I’ve been engaged 10 years, 2 children and Watched most of our family and friends wed. April 2019 is now our time and I don’t give 2 hoots what people think! You enjoy it!
Hi, I have been engaged since June 2015 & we are not planning on getting married until May 2021. I have been to look at venues & have been to wedding day fayres. I think that it give me time to start collecting little decorative bits for the wedding which I’ve started doing. I don’t care what people think. Time goes that quickly that it will be here in no time xx
I have the same experience my fiancee proposed august 2017 whulst we were away in ireland. I didnt know anything about it but we are the same we are saving as hard as possible for a wedding and a house. The venues and people that do weddings are getting booked up already. We like tp go to wedding fayres to start planning but people say there was no point in getting engaged but there is we love each other to death. X
We're getting married in Aug 2019 and I've had a few people say ooh that's a long engagement. It's ok if mummy and daddy are paying for everything! It's annoying because there's just no need for the negativity. I just say well we're paying for it all ourselves and want it to be perfect so we need the time to save. It's not even that far away anyway! People will always make silly comments, just try to rise above it :)
I waited 4years before bf popped question and l love the year 2020 and family are thinking it's mad it's years down line but it's wot best suits u both not other people
Hi - we got engaged in 2016 and aren't getting married until next year (2019). We bought a house instead of getting married straight away. Just gives you more time to plan, and all that really matters is what is important to the both of you. It's your day after all!
My fiance proposed to me last October before going to my 30th bday party. We aren't getting married until 2020 (2 half yrs away). People have kind of been the same with me but I just tell them that the date means something 2 us, doesn't matter if it's during the week or at the weekend. It's what matters to you and your fiance. It's your day not theirs.
I got engaged Xmas 2014 and I haven't booked my wedding yet as I am saving up for it.
I got engaged in April 2016 and we are getting married at the end of July this year so will have been engaged just over 2 years when we get married. The hardest people that I found to talk to when you tell them your wedding date is so far in advance is suppliers. They act so uninterested as you are not that years or the next years business. But I would say definitely book things ASAP as I’ve saved a fortune in people like photograph all because I booked them when I first got engaged. And ignore anyone that gives you a look when you tell them when your wedding date. After all it’s your day!
We had the Same a well. But it gives you longer to save up. We are getting married this August and it's come around so fast. Ignore them enjoy your engagement as we are.
Hi, we're getting married in November 2019 (we got engaged in Sep 2015, and booked the venue in June 2017) we get the same questions, looks and opinions all the time! We find it's often from people who have lots of money and don't mind where or when they get married. It's each to their own and you enjoy your journey. Being engaged is a part of your life together as much as when you're a married couple and when you dated etc. Congratulations and enjoy!
Dont let them put you down! Easier said than done and tell them to mind their own business! Have a great day, plan as much as you want now & keep being excited
A friend of mine took three years to plan her wedding. I am also taking 2 years... I get lots of looks and get told, ' you're so organised'. But It gives you the chance to plan the little details, the things that are important! Plus it's not their wedding, it's yours. Who cares about the looks! If it helps just book the main things you can not go without, i.e. photographer. Then buys everything else you need in the year you are getting married in or in the 12-month countdown. Make a list of the things on something like Amazon wish list. This will help you remember what is needed but as prices change so do ideas! So don't worry about it and it's human nature to question stuff. Were noisy!
Don’t be let down! I’ve booked my venue for 2021 too 😊 we booked because our venue is popular and during the summer incredibly difficult to get if you don’t book in advance. Our venue means a lot to us too and we were heart set on it 😊 we’ve been engaged since October 2016, but we have a little boy who is just a year old, we’re waiting so he’s at a good age and can enjoy it too 💙
We will be getting married 3years after we got engaged. We decided to prioritise buying a house and having a baby first. But I wanted the commitment first. It doesn't matter what people think. I think it's a bit weird the man essentially deciding when to get married if you have to set the date 12/24 months later! Plus you get to save and have the wedding you want rather than scrimp! If the dates important to you, do what you want to do. Marriage is about you two, not anyone else!
I wouldn't worry about what others think, my partner and I have two children aged 11 & 6 and we have been engaged for 8 years we still haven't set a date, I do get asked why get in engaged my answer is because it is away of showing the commitment we have for one another, we have started looking recently but looking at 2020.
Congrats on the engagement
We were engaged for nigh on 7 or 9 years I can’t even remember and people stopped asking me lol don’t even worry about people’s reactions you are what matters and your other half making your day special so giving yourselves time to save up is important not those peoples silly reactions . Just enjoy looking at magazines and Pinterest and getting ideas xx
I got engaged last month but we haven't set a date as such, just said around 2021, we need to save for our big day. I too have had people say that's a long time, my reply has been well it's going to take us a long time to save for our perfect day.we are both happy to have a long engagement, as long as you are happy that's all that matter
I was the same don't let it bother you I'm 5 months away can't wait xx
I got engaged on Xmas day 2017 and the date we’ve decided is 26.08.2023. I’m 19 and he’s 23 and we’re saving for a mortgage before the wedding but I’m the same - found the venue and soooo excited to start planning😂🙉
Just seen your post and I totally understand how u feel. Like u I also got engaged a few months ago, we have booked our venue and our date is set for April 2021!!! (Yeay I actually found another 2021 bride) Ignore the negative people because I can guarantee by next year they will be telling you it’s only 2 years away you’ve not got long xx
I found this too!
Me and my Fiance got engaged last September and booked our venue straight away so we knew that bit was secure. We set the date for October 2020 and people, both family and friends were telling us it was too far away.
It has been difficult sometimes to keep the response light hearted and other times we've had to tell them straight that weddings arent cheap and we are saving for it by ourselves.
So you're not the only one this has happened to. Try not to lose your cool like I did though!
Go with your hearts never mind anybody else what they think . Its your wedding im happy for you both whether it takes imth or 20 yrs its you who are important. Goodluck for the future . We got everthing organised ourselves then gave out the invitations we never wanted any comments or input from anyone as its our day and its turned out so well x
Don’t worry about what other people think. Me and my OH have been engaged 2 years already and our wedding isn’t for another year and a half yet😬 like you said it gives you that extra time to save and plan too. As long as it’s special for you both, that’s all that matters xx
I had the exact same situation as you! At the end of the day if the perfect date and venue can’t be booked until that time it’s not too soon at all! I had lots of comments about it so we paused the planning until slightl nearer, now already it’s next year we get married and not 3 years! It’s gone so quick and you should still be just s excited as what any other bride and groom are for the build up! X
It happens to every bride I think! Try not to let it get to you. People started to moan that we weren’t getting married for 2 years after we got engaged. It got to me a lot to start with but I made it into a joke and said well if you wanna pay for the lot then i’ll get married tomorrow! Get married when YOU want to. It’s your day.
I promise you that it will go so quickly. I have made a list of things to do month by month up and until the big day. Maybe you could do this to help build up the excitement of your big day?
Honestly, try not and let them get you down x
Don't worry, I have been engaged for 5 years and won't be getting married for at least another year, 3 years is a great amount of time to be able to save and organise exactly what you want for your big day, take no nitice of 2hat other people say, it's none of their business!
I have been engaged for seven years time just Hasn’t been right. Don’t worry what people say it’s whats right for you.
Hi it doesn't matter when you get married from when you got engaged. I've been engaged 9 years (got engaged after only being together 3 months) and we are finally getting married this year a month and day short of our 10 year anniversary. We had planned on getting married sooner but we had kids first but when I first told people we were gonna get married we had a 4 year gap which by then was 2010 so we were gonna get married in 2014 but we had our 2nd child that year so then we left it and finally set on 2018 but I'm glad we have had a big gap because like you say it will give you time to save. And also gives you a chance to think of everything you want and colours and theme if you wanted. So don't worry about what people say when you say 3 years away because believe me it will soon be here. And for the dress if you need it made they need 6 months to do it. I'd leave it 3 years away and start looking for everything else like I said before it will soon be here. Have fun with it too xxx
I say who gives a hell what others think. If you are both happy to wait that long, it's great! If you wanted a quick wedding, that's great! It's *your* wedding and nobody else's and you really shouldn't feel bad for that. Realistically it gives you a lot of time to plan all of the smaller details. You do you and let them do them. Congratulations on your engagement and venue booking! 💕💍
Yep been engaged 2 years will be 3 by the time we get married getting married in the same church as my mum and dad on their wedding anniversary and have always wanted this but the first year we made save the dates and I brought my dress and booked the church and this year we are paying everything else off so next year it will be stress free as everything will be done and ignored has worked out perfect for us regardless of what people have said about us waiting so long
I have been engaged for 5years and in the begining had the same problem but i gradually stopped telling people my date and just said were planning slowly and then eventually people just stopped asking lol. 5years have gone so quick and now we only have 18months left! Dont worry about anyone else unless theyre the ones paying for it! its your wedding :)
We got engaged in 2016 and set the date for April 2019, 3 years later. We chose to use the same date that we started dating and it was the first one that lies on a Saturday, luckily everyone understood for us
Yes, I have had the same. At least you have your date set! :) We decided to buy a house first and then get married after that. Don't let it get to you, just enjoy the planning and enjoy the lack of pressure.
We got engaged dec 2nd 2017 and now getting married april 4th 2018 this year and if anyone says we have done it quick i say its our day and life we wanted to . So good luck to you both and whether you wait 1mth or 10yrs good on you be happy and remember its all about you both not anybody else
My mum has bin engaged for 7/8years with as far as i know no date to get married
I was engaged and planning my wedding for 4years lol ignor what people say/think its yoir special day and very clearly date dont worry do what you want
Hey Where getting married in July 2020 has it gives us more time plus I've been able get extra like LED dance floor, photo booth we wouldn't have this we set date earlier. You and partner do what best and whatever you decide Good luck for the future and and have a fantastic wedding. XXXX
When we got engaged it was the 29/02/16 and we wanted to get married on the same date in 4 years time. we got the same reactions from people who kept saying we should get married sooner or what was the point but we are just ignoring them and saying we are saving up and need the time to do it, unless they want to pay for the wedding for us.... its worth the wait for the date and venue you want, its your day after all not theirs! :)
We got engaged this January an not getting married till July 2020, the date is important to us and it gives us time to pay for it all x
Hi I been engaged three years and haven't planned my wedding yet as I am saving the money first. I shouldn't worry what other people think. X
Dont let it get you down it's your choice if you have got the date and venue you want that's all that matters mine xxx
Dont let it get you down it's your choice if you have got the date and venue you want that's all that matters mine xxx
We are getting married in 3 years time... my fiancee proposed on the 8th June this year and i wanted to get married on the same date that we met. We met on the 25th June and the only weekend which this date falls on is in 2022.
At the end of the day its you and your partners wedding, I dont mind waiting 3 years to get married and neither does my fiancee as it is our choice, i feel confident that in 3 years we will have the most perfect day as we will not have had to scrimp and save to rush and plan it in a year xx
Enjoy your wedding planning