How is everyone coping with wedding stress? Every time we talk about the wedding we argue.... it’s tearing me apart! ????????
From talking to my married friends this is pretty common.
Wedding planning can feel all consuming!!! Try make an evening together without wedding talk and just enjoy each other's company?!?! This is what my H2B and I are doing and it's working so far.
We’re chilled and sorted ... get married in July and everything is done .. just relax and enjoy it and remember it’s ur day and about what u 2 want .. x
We haven't really argued but then again my fiance is leaving me to it which I don't mind. Maybe try to identify the problem, are you fighting because you bring it up alot, you don't like his style, you're annoyed that he isnt bothered etc and go from there, then
You'll know how to stop the arguments
Ours is on Monday and i'm so ready to call it all off!! My h2b and I are fine, it's guests winding me up!
I guess you need to ask yourself why you are arguing. Is it because you want something he doesnt or vice versa? In which case you need to reach a compromise. It is probably quite common especially if you're finding it stressful. Me and my htb had a few arguments at the start, but eventually once we set a budget and got things booked we were able to agree more or compromise on things. Most of the arguments were either because we didnt agree on something (so we compromised to find something we were both happy with) or more often than not the arguments stemmed from me being extremely self conscious and anxious about it, I would get defensive and negative about it which he didnt like and resulted in arguments, ultimately I am working on myself now to try and get rid of the negative thoughts. Just work out what's causing the arguments and try and work on it...a wedding isnt worth falling out over!
We haven't clashed on any of our wedding planning.....yet! We still have 4 months to go but it's all been great so far.
Planning is fine as my OH is very laid back. But a few arguments about money though
It’s completely normal, wedding planning is stressful. Me and my husband don’t really argue in general but I did lose my shit with him when he forgot to do the one or two things he was responsible for. Women and men have completely different approaches to weddings so it can cause tension, just remember how much you love him,take a deep breath and try not to kill him on the day you won’t care about planning, the arguments, the guests you’ll just want to be married. Good luck, don’t let it get you down
I booked my wedding on 24/09/17 and get married on 16/12/17 less that 12 weeks from booking! I've been super chilled to the point I feel I'm doing everything wrong as I'm not stressed n only thing my moh has had to do is sort my hen do! Make a plan of when to sort each thing! Everything will all of a sudden just fall into place! And good luck x
We do too haha! Think it's just very stressful so your already going into the conversation highly strung.
We also have very different ideas so it can be hard but I decided to leave wedding talk to one or 2 days a week and having the space in between is making us a lot more calm. Good luck!
We're not arguing really, we just both generally hate faff and don't want this to cost us a fortune
Put a ban on talking about the wedding till after Christmas .... if you have any ideas write them down so you still have them in the new year
Wouldn't say argue but cannot agree on anything and sometimes it gets a little heated lol so I hear you. I just think it will all sort itself out in the end otherwise we wouldn't be doing it. Good luck
No arguments about the planning what so ever ☺. We are both totally on the same wavelength so have very similar ideas. We are loving the whole wedding planning experience 😊x
I think I'm the only bride who enjoyed the whole process. It was brilliant fun, making my own table and podium arrangements and bomboniere. The only thing I was a little stressed about was the lack of vegetarian and vegan food for my guests, but once I'd expressed my concerns to the hotel, they made additions to the menu and everyone was happy with the food.
My partner just does as he’s told, luckily 😣 we’d have lots of “disagreements” if he never cause he has zero taste/sense of style” 🙈 he’d have no idea how to decorate a table or what colour scheme to pick 🙄 so thankfully no wedding stress.. I wouldn’t cope if we fought about it 😞
Try and remember this should be an exciting part of your life together! Planning can come with its stresses but there’s no point in letting it ruin it! Find out why you are arguing and try iron out the issues, Try and relax a little, make a week by week plan of what needs to be done and enjoy yourselves! Your wedding is only going to last one day, but planning it can last years! Deep breath (big glass of wine) and enjoy! Xx
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