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UKbride Member Request 3 Dec 2017

What are everyone’s views on having an ‘unplugged ceremony’ (no phones...

What are everyone’s views on having an ‘unplugged ceremony’ (no phones and/or cameras allowed)? We have paid a lot of money for a videographer and photographer and fear our photos would be filled with guests taking photos on their phones/standing in the way etc. We will be making all of the photographers photos available to guests once we get them. We will also ask the registrar to invite guests up to take photos when we sign the register. However, still unsure whether guests will still be unhappy with this. Thanks.

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E Wilson
E Wilson 3 Dec 2017

I think it is a great idea. We will be doing the same. Photos are ruined by phoned and camera covering people's faces during the ceremony. My friend did the same.

Steph V
Steph V 3 Dec 2017

Whatever you choose your guests should follow the rules you ask. After all you are inviting them to share your special day not with the internet.:)

Jennifer Edwards
Jennifer Edwards 3 Dec 2017

I'm thinking of the same thing. I'm not a big social media person, I have Facebook but only go on occasionally and I don't have anything else, so my fear is that people will post to social media before the day is done, or before I do! I even had a bridesmaid post on FB without asking and I haven't even posted anything at all about the wedding on FB, I thought it was a bit inconsiderate!

Stacey Hutchinson
Stacey Hutchinson 4 Dec 2017

We are having an unplugged ceremony and will have signs up asking people not to post anything on FB until after we have.

Kattrina Loizou
Kattrina Loizou 5 Dec 2017

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

Sometimes guests can get a different angle on things. After all they are there to share your big day

Juliette Parnell
Juliette Parnell 5 Dec 2017

My god mother when she got married had a problem with the photographer (his camera broke). If it wasn't for other people taking photos she would have no wedding photos at all.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I had a videographer and some fool let their kid ( related ) waltz up to the top table mid speechges and plonk himself down on the mother in laws knee ..... obviously I was super impressed ... hopefully other ppl guests have a tiny bit of manners after the expense of paying for these things

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I have a A4 sign I will frame and put at the entrance to the church. No photos or videos during ceremony for us ️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We asked people not to post to Facebook until after us, our guests got some fab shots and the only ones where you see people taking pictures are the ones as we are signing register (photographer perpusly took that one) and myself and my husband taking a selfie on his phone which looks quite funny

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I’m doing the opposite I’m encouraging people to take photos by creating our own hashtag etc. But then again I’m having a very informal wedding, outdoors in a field in rural Scotland so I suppose my taste may just be different.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I got married in sep and for a full year this was my plan and changed my mind last minute and I’m so glad I did as some of the photos our guests took are absolutely fab and captured some snap that’s the photographers didn’t and not one of my professional photos have been ruined by anyone’s camera or iPad (which I originally thought it would have) one thing i did do was no social media until we posted ourself x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I’ll be having an unplugged wedding xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We got this sign off eBay it was great value and the venue placed it on an easel at the door to the room so everyone would see it.

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

were no photos during the ceremony and none on social media till after first dance. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We had an unplugged ceremony. Then we asked guess not to upload any photos until after the wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I asked for anyone who took pics to wait until we had put something on social media (which wasn't until the next day) and then everyone starting sending pics through and they were some of the best!!

Danielle Smith
Danielle Smith 5 Dec 2017

I'm planning on this, I want to be able to walk down the aisle and take it all in, rather than feeling like I've got a load of phones in my face. I'm not keen on photos at the best of times so that feels a bit intrusive to me. We'll invite people to take photos when we've signed the register, and perhaps once again before we leave.

Emily Grimes
Emily Grimes 5 Dec 2017

That’s what I am going to do, I didn’t want my wedding ruined by people taking pictures xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We allowed our guests to take photos etc, my friend made a lovely frame on Snapchat and I love their pics, I don't have any pics that the photographer took that have anyone snapped taking pics, I think it depends on if you trust your guests to be respectful, I put disposable cameras on each table too and am having 1 developed every month so we can re-live our amazing day over again, some of our guests pics caught brilliant moments of us and other guests

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We asked for no photos when walking down the aisle only as that's when people tend to lean in and stick arms out and stand in the aisle etc. It worked really well but we were happy for people to take photos any other time x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We asked for no photos inside the church & any photos taken after that to wait until the reception started before being put on Facebook, everyone was fine with it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I’m thinking of asking people to not post photos for a couple of days and certainly not on the day. Hopefully your guests would understand your request. It’s not hard to follow. People may want to take photos of them with friends or family they haven’t seen for a while but if the photographer can accommodate that then happy days.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

Some of my favourite photos are of my loved ones taking photos, and a beautiful instagram pic that my friend took of us at the registrar table. Also, the guests' photos kept us going while waiting for the pro ones. They're all different but guests' ones are special in their own way. Think really carefully about it. You can ask people not to post their pics online before you do of course.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We had an unplugged ceremony. Guests were only able to take photos when we were signing the register. We just asked our Humanist to announce it before the ceremony started

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I think its a great idea for ceremony at least.
Your photographer etc wont have people standing in the way for official photos.
I would however ask guests not to put photos they my take on social media before you say so

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I had mine unplugged and it was wonderful - guests didn’t mind either!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

Suzanne Price Alexander Chatfield Ian Price I think this is a good idea

Lisa Bennett
Lisa Bennett 5 Dec 2017

Never even thought of this - thanks! Id hate photos on social media before we had put them on x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I did exactly this, registrar announced no photos during. And then once we signed 's f official photos taken people were welcome to take photos. Everyone was fine with it and meant all of our professional photos are great and u can see people emotions as they're not concentrating on taken in photos xx

Carrie Louise
Carrie Louise 5 Dec 2017

Some guests will probably be miffed but should hopefully respect your choice. Most photographers would take close up photos focusing on you at this point not your guests anyway. But if they did take a 'crowd shot' and someone was taking a photo to me it would show them wanting to remember my special day personally.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

we did! our vicar told everyone to turn off there phone's on the way into church!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We're asking our venue to turn the Wi-Fi off so we don't have people staring at their phones all day or posting on fb but inviting people to take photos and making a dedicated upload account for the photos

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

That’s how it should be anyway,

Victoria Pullan
Victoria Pullan 5 Dec 2017

We will be getting married in church and will be asking guests not to take photos during the ceremony itself, it just feels weird to me that people could potentially have phones out during a church service. I've also sat through a few ceremonies where my view has been blocked by people holding up phones/cameras so as a guest I wouldn't have a problem with this restriction either.

Yaz Benourida
Yaz Benourida 5 Dec 2017

This is what I did and the pictures look great. At the end people were allowed and it worked well for us.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We had an unplugged ceremony and I would highly recommend it. The ceremony is the most important part and we wanted our guests present, not snapping away x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

Its your wedding. If you dont want cameras or phones then people will, ultimately, respect that.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

As a photographer I would say it's only as the couple walk up and down the aisle that guests can really spoil a shout by leaning out our holding an iPad up. I think a much better reason for an unplugged wedding is so your guests don't spend half the time on their phones tweeting, posting on Facebook, Instagram, etc.

Sharon Lockyer
Sharon Lockyer 5 Dec 2017

That is what I plan on doing. Only official photographer at the church inside and out apart from register signing which will be after photographer xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We are doing the same I don’t want the photographer taking picture of our guests taking picture of us!!! Not when they are so expensive!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I'm getting married in a church and are asking the priest to tell guests that phones and cameras are not allowed during the ceremony. The rest of the day I don't mind, but the ceremony is the most important bit so don't want everyone on their phones and not actually paying attention to my marriage. So no technology allowed. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I like the idea. But some of my best photos in ceremony were from guests as they are more natural as we were focusing on our photographer. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

Both professionals will sort the guests out themselves

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

From a wedding photographer's point of view, this is great. Photos get ruined with arms sticking out holding s phone!! Ask your guests to leave their phones, enjoy the wedding then get to see photos professionally taken! My dream wedding to shoot is one with phones banned!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

If I didn't have people taking photos I wouldn't have any!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

A friend of mine done this and I think it’s a lovely idea. They also asked no one to post photos on social media straight away

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

We asked guests not to take photos during the ceremony and I’m so glad we did. We have some lovely photos from our professional photographer and it meant that everyone was focused on the wedding rather than looking through a lens x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

I wish i had an unplugged ceremony! Someone took a pic of me in my dress and had it posted on Facebook with me tagged in it! before we even had our meal. All the evening guests had already seen my dress before turning up

Hazel Cottrell
Hazel Cottrell 6 Dec 2017

What are your thoughts on this Dan Waters & Ellen Jackson??? Is there an option around this?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Dec 2017

I done the opposite.... Got everyone to take pics and upload them to wedpics where downloads were free x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Dec 2017

I’m doing exactly the same thing. Great idea.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Dec 2017

Some of the best pics were taken by guests getting adhoc/impromptu pics in my opinion i wouldn't ban

A good photographer will take great pics and get people looking the right way
I couldn't fault mine

Sophie Nairn
Sophie Nairn 11 Dec 2017

This is exactly what we did - we didn't have a sign, just asked the registrar to make an announcement before it started. Some people still sneaked a few but they were conscious to keep very clear of the photographer' way! They were also invited to come forward at the signing and to keep going through the confetti walk. No-one seemed to be annoyed by it (I suspect less so than a sign, which they could also easily miss).

Kattrina Loizou
Kattrina Loizou 11 Dec 2017

My wedding is being broadcast live on Facebook, I run an online business and my customers on my social media are the reason I can afford the wedding of my dreams! I love I can share the day they helped make happen with them
We are not having a photographer at all, we don't want staged photos! Instead we have signed up to an app where people take photos on it and the photos are added to an album which is emailed to us. I cannot wait to see my wedding from everyone's perspective 😀 I'm worried that people won't take photos, I hope your guests respect your choices

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