UKbride Member Request 2 Dec 2017

I'm having 2 bridesmaids at my wedding and I need to ask them if they will...

I'm having 2 bridesmaids at my wedding and I need to ask them if they will go halves on their dresses. I'll obviously let them have a choice in how much the dresses cost but I don't know how to bring it up and I don't want them to be offended by me asking

Lucy-Anne Jarvis
Lucy-Anne Jarvis 3 Dec 2017

Its a difficult subject, like you I asked my bridesmaids if they could support me with buying their dresses. When I asked them if they would be my bridesmaid, i explained to them what our budget was like and that i would need them to buy their own dresses. They were really good about it. Your bridesmaids should be understanding about it, getting married isn't the cheapest thing in the world.
Good luck!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

If it worries you why not try and find cheaper dresses so they don’t need to go halves? I got mine on sale for £24 each, it is possible to find great cheap dresses. If that’s not an option just explain that you simply don’t have the money, they can either accept or decline. It’s not like you’re insisting on having £200 dresses and asking them to pay half, if they have say in what you choose, I don’t see why they’d have a problem xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

If I was asked to be bridesmaid and was asked to pay half my dress knowing me the way I am I would just pay for the dress cause it would be mine to do as I please at the end x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

Our girls offered to buy their own, went for multi-way that could be worn again..came in a tad dearer than planned so we paid the difference, other people buy the dresses but then have them back & re-sell, talk to them xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

There should be no problems them buying their own

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

Tell them you really want them as bridesmaids but can't afford too much for dresses. Ask them if they would be offended if you.asked them to contribute towards dresses.
If they say no understand but they must realise they must have the dresses you can afford

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

Difficult one, I personally wouldn't have bridesmaids if I couldn't afford their outfits however that's just my own way. If you can manage half the cost and they get to have a say could you not look at dresses within your budget? Mine are costing around £80 each as they are not under the title "bridesmaid" dress, yet officially these seem to start at around £150ish, so wondering if you're using the latter cost if you could find something just as nice if not better under "formal" dress instead? I'd decide on that before asking them, but if you would prefer to split the cost with them just explain the situation, bottom line is they can give you a yes or a no x

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 4 Dec 2017

My bridesmaids will be buying their own dresses. I've been a bridesmaid three times and each time I've bought my own dress. It's never been a hush hush thing or a solemn sit down chat. I think it's more common than you think.

Aku Atubra
Aku Atubra 5 Dec 2017

I have bought dresses for my bridesmaids but they are paying for their own shoes and hair etc. Most times I have been bridesmaid I have paid for my dress or hair and it's been fine. It's quite common these days so don't worry about It, hopefully your friends will receive it well. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

Recently I got a bridesmaid dress on sale for £40. Last year I got my sisters bridesmaid dress for my wedding for £60 and both were brand new. You just need to keep a lookout Especially online as alot of stores won't stock them all year round. Dorothy perkins, quiz, Debenhams are all good for cheaper bridesmaid dresses. Try charity shops and eBay too as most bridesmaid dresses are only worn once and are immaculate.

Hazel Cottrell
Hazel Cottrell 6 Dec 2017

I wouldn't expect my bridesmaids to buy their dress nor would I expect to be asked to pay for my dress as a bridesmaid.

We've included it in the budget, along with their hair and makeup

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Dec 2017

I think it would depend on whether they are keeping them and likely to ever wear them again. If the answer is no then the rule of "simples" applies..... your wedding, your cost.


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