UKbride Member Request 2 Dec 2017

Would like some advice really don’t know what to do. Me and my fiancé had...

Would like some advice really don’t know what to do. Me and my fiancé had a row we are absolutely fine now. All his family are saying he’s rushing into getting married long story short known each other years been together 7months and getting married next year. We both feel it’s right for us. But now all his family are saying we should wait a few years. Should we put it on hold or just carry on with what we are doing. We have already put deposit on venue,my dress and his suits.

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 3 Dec 2017

Do what is right for you not other people.

Grace Claydon
Grace Claydon 3 Dec 2017

It is your wedding, no length of time can determine your love for each other. If it feels right than just go with it :)

Lucy-Anne Jarvis
Lucy-Anne Jarvis 3 Dec 2017

There are only two people in your relationship yourself and your partner. If you believe it feels right that's your decision to make not his family.

Rochelle Keys
Rochelle Keys 3 Dec 2017

I think “love” Always knows. If you’re u both feel deep down it’s right, then it’s right. People always have something to say but if you always worry what they think you will never be living “you’re” life. Wish you every piece of love and happiness x

Chloé Roe
Chloé R 4 Dec 2017

You both know how you feel for eachother and you have obviously chosen to get married for a reason.
If it is the right timing for you both then thats all that matters

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 4 Dec 2017

Listen to each other, no-one else.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

Do what’s right for you. We were in a similar situation. By the time we got married we’d been together around 2 years but we had known each other for almost 7.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

Carry on. Every one rows at times. Those who say they don't.
are liars
Keep your plans and ignore his family. Tell them together you love each other and there is no reason to wait.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

My in laws said exactly the same about me and my hubby. We were engaged at 10 months and didn't know each other before we got together. We were married 2 years later and I moved 400 miles from home to be with my husband. We've now been together for 7 years and have a 2 year old, happy as ever. My MIL is fantastic and helps as much as she can, even if it's just an ear to bend on the phone.

When you know, you know! Don't let anything they say get you down! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I wouldn't put off the wedding. If suits, dress and venue are booked thrn you'd lose loads of money if you cancelled now plus I think it doesn't matter what they think

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

Do what YOU BOTH want . Life is too short to wait if you know its the right thing x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

Ignore them hun. It's your life not theirs. If it feels right then go ahead. My husband and I have know each other since school, when we finally got together we got engaged after 6 months and married 10 months later. Still going strong and still feeling very much the same as we did when we got together. Go with your gut, it was the best thing I have ever done. Good luck xx

Danielle Ryde
Danielle Ryde 4 Dec 2017

Sounds like my family saying I'm rushing it known my fiance 5 years been together over a year and a half not getting married till September 2019

Vicki Clough
Vicki Clough 4 Dec 2017

I have only known and bin with mine for nealy a year now and we are getting married next june when you find the one you know x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

When you know you know. Trust yourself not someone else’s opinion xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

My most used phrase when talking about my OH, "when you know, you know". If you and your partner are happy and doing what you want to do, that's all that matters. You can't let them stop you or change your mind or they'll end up gaining control over every milestone in your relationship. YOUR relationship so YOUR decision xx

Laura Stewart
Laura Stewart 4 Dec 2017

Go with what your heart tells you

If you both love each other, listen to no one else

Danielle Thomson
Danielle Thomson 4 Dec 2017

Me and mine have been together 13 years argue all the time (over silly things ) its life were getting married next year u know if its right or not knowone else

JoJo Russell
JoJo Russell 4 Dec 2017

If there wasn't also doubt in your mind you wouldn't have even asked this question

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

ive been with my partner 7 months, and we get married next year, lifes too short to do anything that doesn't make you happy, go ahead and do whats right for you both, no-one else x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I know it’s easy to listen to the noise of others around you... if enough people think it’s right? WRONG!!! Drown the noise out and focus on what you think. If you’ve got your dress on hold your ready ️️️. Hope you have an amazing day xxx

Rachel Turnbull
Rachel Turnbull 4 Dec 2017

I have known my partner 12 years, been together 18 months, asked me to marry him in August this year and we’re getting married in April next year.. When you know, you know.

Oh and I’ve also been engaged twice before but knew I’d never marry them, it was just how they asked me, I felt put on the spot and couldn’t say no but with my partner I said YES when he asked because I knew he’s who I want to be with for the rest of my life not because I felt I couldn’t say no ❤️

Andrea Allison
Andrea Allison 5 Dec 2017

We got engaged after 11 weeks, get married August 2019. We've had lots people telling us we are rushing into it. Guess how many want to come to the wedding 😂
Well it's about us two. We know it's right, both what we want. At 52,53 think we know a bit about life now. So off we go, just us two to get married in Greece.
We couldn't be happier. I've finally found my true love 💖
Do what's right for you. You both know in your hearts.
Love and happiness for your future 👰💒🔔

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Dec 2017

Take no notice of other people. People always have opinions about anything wedding related but you can feel free to ignore them! We got engaged quickly too and there were plenty of rude comments, I tried not to let them bother me (not always easy I know) because frankly they don't know what they're talking about! In the end no one knows whats right for you except you so just do your own thing and be happy xx

Kayte Lowe
Kayte Lowe 5 Dec 2017

That you posted this suggests you have some doubts.
I imagine that his family suggesting a longer engagement is not rejection of your relationship, but instead an attempt to invest in it.
Regardless, I’m not sure of the wisdom in basing your marriage on the opinions of strangers on Facebook.
Sit down with your fiancé and talk through your doubts. You’l probably come out stronger, with a better understanding of the way each other’s mind works.

Hazel Cottrell
Hazel Cottrell 6 Dec 2017

If you both feel you're ready, then you're ready!


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